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On 08/06/2009, my b/f and I attended one of our colleague’s birthday ( a lady ). So when I was feeling sleepy, I left there nd d follwing day I learnt they danced together bt I ddnt see it as any thing. Later on I started hearing rumor dt my guy was datin dis gurl, I was mad. So I asked but he didn’t deny. He begged me 4 4givnes, bt I told him if only he culd stop goin out wit d gurl. But I culd no longer trust him and I was feelin too much pain coz the lady’s office is in the 3rd door to my office. That was how I left them i.e I quit and got married. The thin now is, the guy is begin me just 2 4giv him. But I just cant. u knw y? he is so wicked, he disgraced me, he demeaned me. he is selfish and incinsiderate.The pains is stil in me coz am seein him and the lady in the office every day. SHOULD I FORGIV HIM? BUT EVEN IF I DO, IS AGAINST MY WISH. i need ur candid advice pls. no insult pls

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I luv ds ur response. i truly hav 2 look 4 another jod and get it over. am not working in d same place with my husband may be dts why am seein them and gt hurt. thanks 4 ur advice.

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If some where you they will forgive the guy.

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I support you with this

@ Poster If u still av this grudge, u wont be happy in ur marriage so try as much as possible to forgive him though its difficult but Remember God forgive us as humans so we should also forgive ourselves, But if u cant really stand their presence , u can start looking for another job so as to keep a distance. Ok I wish u good luck and ensure to God for a forgiving spirit or heart and i promise u will get over it , I tried it also and it worked

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Forgiveness is easier said than done! Doesn't matter if she's married or not!

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why are you doing this to yourself? you are not gaining anything with this grudge so just forgive him and let peace reign.

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helllllllllllo, u re married! so y cant you just forgive him, except if u still love him and u re not happy with ur marriage, only then will it hurt you, but if you re happy with ur husband, i see no reason y it should hurt u anylonga,

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Hmm it looks like you still have the jones for this man.

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better forgive so you can be blessed. It doesnt cost you anything.

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If I understand u well, u are now married? Are you happy in yr marriage? Or u got married on the rebound of his betrayal? If you are happily married you wont be still fuming! Forgive? I don't think he ever wronged you. You should let go of the past. Why are u still so bitter?

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U have the opportunity to show God-like character in forgiving and U want to miss out on it?

U are married and should be happy in Ur marriage. Why hold on to something that will rob U of maximizing Ur energy in the better thing U have now?

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^^^adonisgold, shey you keep us for suspense you come hia come dey give advice. Pally come and continue the gist jor.

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