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In A Steady Relationship, When Can You Drop The Condom?

How long are steady going couples supposed to be in a relationship before dropping the condom? Can you truly love her for a year and keep strapping up?

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You don't need a condom in a relationship. Why because u they's no sex in a Godly relationship.only devilish relationships dat sex is based.

So pray for God to give u partner or help meet when u re ready for marriage and stop abusing the body of christ.

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Can't always trust birth control. What about the day you forget to take a pill? And plus condoms are cheaper.

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b4 marriage,

so u no go regret after marriage.

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after d pastor says for better and better and better and better

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i took an oat with condom indtrs dat i,m not gonna let go

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i think u can strapp up for as long as you like.

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@poster,

why make things difficult for yourself? u cant even trust her enough. why put yourself in a difficult position.

if you consider this person as your partner for life, marry her and get the worries off your short life!

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you drop the condom when you marry her.

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When both of u have made a decision to start a family.

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@Calabaman.

True talk, but something must kill a man.

I seriously wish some of us can develop

selfcontrol and practise abstinence instead,

that way the issue of when to drop the condom

will not arise.

I know say some of una go shout say e go tay!!

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you guys all have the correct textbook answers and for that I give you an A+, however lets come back to reality. Most dating couples drop the condom without test after 6 months of dating and having sex. You don't believe me abi? Why do you think the sale of "Postinor" is very high and 90% of the buyers are single babes. If they are practicing safe sex with a condom postinor would not be needed and if it was just a safety precaution to have some around in case of a burst condom then consumption rate wouldn't be that high. We also have a high rate of abortion in the country ask any medical student and he/she would confirm this.

People tend to get carried away and take the risk of having unprotected sex. I did a couple of that when I was younger eventhough I could write a perfect thesis on STD and preventions, thank God I didn't contact any thing.

The best advise is don't have unprotected sex without a condom and when you are ready for it you two should go for a test and make sure that you remain faithful to each other after that or use a condom if you want to venture out occassionally with other partners.

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People like risks i must say!

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Since the relationship is STEADY, you can stop using condoms. Hopefully you

would have confirmed her level of commitment to the relationship.

I dont like condoms anyway, so i wait until the relationship is steady before

indulging in that sweet thing.

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No they do not.

Mostly just for 5 days

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Do people take antibiotics all year round and whenever? Hmm!

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so you use condoms until you get married, but the dude you marry may have asymptomatic STD's what then?

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start off with condoms, if you and your partner feel like going at it naturally go to the clinic and do tests , if both of you are alright then use birth control and bang away. It's easier that way, but make sure the girl doesn't want to get pregnant or u're in deep $hit! but you have to use your discretion i would not do it with any girl who i know has had more than 3 sexual partners!

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Thats where birth control pills come in.

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If your truely love her you will use a condem until you marry her.That way she doesn't get pregnant and embarrasses her family.

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always use your condomn dont be deceived by LOVE, some of those that have aids got it through their sex partners

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"Reproduction interruptus" doesn't work. Sperms have a way of sneaking in when you use that!!

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Nobody has said anything about "Reproduction Interruptus" It's what guys expect to help against a potential babyboom, although it is highly unreliable and exposes both parties to STD's and what have you, but look on brite side it was good while it lasted, until the results come out.

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Well i hate condom and i do not want to get married again.

A ring will save no one from what ever .

That ring has no meaning in many a marrage.

If a Boyfriend cannot be faithful an "I do" will not make him faithfull-

Talk about it , get your self tested ( who dose anyway) and get the anti baby what ever.

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After both have done some test to see if u both are free from dieases to have sex without condom.

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@Opegar,

         As soon as u leave the ALTAR, or her NIKKAI !!!

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NEVER! Meaning that, if you love her, you will not stop till she is your wife or he is your husband. Strap it on dudes. You don't want to be sorry.

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when u guys go for blood test and nothing wrong with u 2

and if the man really wanna married the girl

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In this world out there! I'd say NEVER DROP THE CONDOM. Only drop it for procreation purposes, and that is after u get married, I'd suggest.

Ladies in the USA knows better, and if you happen to catch the documentary on BET last night (28 Mar 06), the DL dudes goes out there to do their thing with other men and they bring disease back to the "faithful" and "innocent" lady. So for your sake and not because of love, I'd advise condom shld be in place anytime "t". I know love can be silly but you can't salvage 5 mins of pleasure(provided it last that long) for lifetime pain. Think twice!

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DROP THE CONDOM AFTER YOU HAVE DONE ALL THE TESTS!!!

I know it sounds disrespectful but ensure you so tests for all STD's before you stop using condom.

If you plan to marry and have kids, also do the tests for SS (sickle-cell genotype) and for fertility (i will never wish my enemy to be in a marriage in which his/her partner is sterile).

The earlier you BOTH do these tests, the better. If you fall deeper in love, its harder to break up.

Every day someome is regretting not taking these simple precautions. STD, Sterility and SS can be prechecked easily. To be forewarned is to be fore-amed.

Jeez, I cant believe how dumb people are.

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As far as I am concerned don't drop the condom, in fact add birth control to it!! Until marriage. And make sure you get tested before you get married. And if when you are married you suspect that your spouse is cheating then start using the condom again. I have heard of women who got HIV from their cheating husbands.

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i guess u drop the condom when you are ready to become somebody's baby daddy.

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@ chinani.

I ain't lazy. U didn't gimme ur number plus when next r u visiting California maybe we can link up.

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wait till the day the condom will burst and will know the difference, think u can start from there

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@Chinani,

From the look of thangz and as a psychic reader,

I know u have been there

I know u have stayed there

and u have done that.

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its betta if you use the condom most times only if you want a child cos there many STD's you can get and i know the condom is bout 90% or more effective.If u trust each utha(as in real one) then u dont need to use.Guys,girls have a menstrual period so having sex with them at certain periods wont get them pregnant.

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Condoms just suck to me. Whoever invented it is a freaking SADIST cos CONDOMS just take away the hues and shines of SEX. I always drop the Condom as soon as i close the door behind me and em chics.

God didnt create Men to start wearing slippery pieces of rags on their weapons!

My advice to em playas out there is to GO HEAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Does this depict the fact that Nigerians are really adhering to the rules of sex education or is evryone just trying to be politically correct? I ask cos I know (well I dont sleep in their bedrooms, but i know) that many Nigerian unmarried couples of ages 23-35 drop the condon over a steady period of 3-9 months. I did a random sample of about 12 friends and colleagues, out of which 8 fell into this category. I work in Lagos, Nigeria.

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Re: In A Steady Relationship, When Can You Drop The Condom?

When you have tested negative for HIV and you are sure your patner will not cheat on you and even if he/she does,he/she would be reasonable enough to use a condom when they do.

I think thats the only reasonable answer.

As for the person preaching total abstinence,Kudos to you!

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Hmm! Hmm! What a thread.I never thought we Nigerians had such a safe sex life. I actually think the WHO should re-check their statistics and correct the anomaly on the prevalence and incidence of STI/HIV and teenage pregnancy associated with this great nation. We are a healthy bunch.No more GUM clinics please.

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@Zebudaya

The G U Y S thingy is happenin to everyone, i wonder why Seun did that.

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yeah, BC is pretty good. check out this link:

http://www.uhs.uga.edu/sexualhealth/contraception/effectiveness.html

Let's hope you're not one of the 8. But life itself is a risk. Do what's best for you, but keep your eyes *open*

p.s. I for one don't subscribe to the "condemns or hell" philosophy. I just know that knowing BC is 99% effective won't be a comfort, if YOU are pregnant. Feel me?

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Birth control pills are 98% to 99% effective for women who take the pills every day as directed. Pill-taking mistakes decrease effectiveness. (http://www.brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/sexual_health/ssc/bcps.htm)

unless you have extreme bad luck, or she forgets to take her pills. 98% to 99% is good for me.

If and When she forgets you use a condom. This is not rocket science!!!!

@seun how come when i type in "GUYS", as in "you *GUYS*" in small letters it shows up on my post as "you boys". I believe this is happening to other people too.

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@ kimba

I guess I meant surprise or rather unplanned pregnancy that results in a baby.

***back on topic***

All these people up here are like "drop the condom" *cough* but beware of the consequences. Well folks wake up & smell the roses b/c neither condoms or birth control are 100% effective. And you can get tested all you want but you won't know about that baby until the lady misses her period (which could make the baby already a month old or more depending on the lady's cycle).

Just remember, all those "forget the condoms" supporters won't be there when you're buying diapers & that's REAL.

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of all the condom condomless condomize talk on this forum,

can @chinani pls explain

is there really a SUPRISE BABY

how many of you were born by SURPRISE? by the time a guy and a girl dump the condoms, by the time they configure a baby, then they are ready for COME WHAT MAY!!

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I agree with curiousnija. If you really think you're ready then both of you should get tested, wait 6 months and test again. I'd also say you can stop using the condom if you both are ready for any consequences that could follow i.e. pregnancy.

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