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Inter-tribal Marriages: What's Your Take?

I am a Yoruba guy. All the girls i have had good relationship with are Igbo girls. Well i don't know if my case is extreme but when i tried girls from my side they wind up MESSING UP.

So my question is that do you think inter-tribal marriages/relationship always work?

I need your replies.

Thanks for your replies

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Don't mind the pessimists it works. But you must work at it to make it work.

Also, ensure you learn basic communication skills before visiting his people. So that you won't be lost when they switch to their mother tongue.

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I only get "Joseph" title on nairaland. The others are from my people at home. No "ewe oye" though. I just get them.

Sincerely, not every title holder go polygamous after the title. There is Tinubu, Daniel. Tinubu is my man though.

Anyway, I am glad you agreed with me that title men are not that randy.

I hope, you would allow your man get it now?

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I beg to disagree with you analogy. How many wives did Awolowo has? Azikwe? All these and many more have chieftaincy titles.

Common, villages are not only place you can become Aare Ona kankanfo, Bashorun Adifajola, Egunmagaji, Olorogun, Asiwaju, Otunba etc you get it everythere. Better divorce you man and join Otunba, Pastor, Alhaja, Engineer, Oluwo Olanajim joseph Yusuf. You would be my Alhaja prophetess. Please hear my plee, Almond and bring joy to our soon to be expanded title clan.

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Almondjoy,

what is wrong with chieftaincy? I am a "chief". Thank God you are not married to me.

@topic,

opposition to inter tribal marriage is just one of the carryover of primitive era. Certainly it is still rife. But I am sure it would phase out one day just as choosing spouses for children die naturally due to stubborn resistance.

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There is nothing wrong with Osun becos my cousins dad is from there, and nothing wrong marrying a guy from Ogun

Hell yea I will marry an Ondo guy becos my forefathers are from there even though my great grandfather claims Lagos State and moreover my hubby is from Ondo

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Can you name them please so we can be watchful?. I am sure the tribe/ethnic group is not yoruba.

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State is not even in my dictionary when it comes to marriage because it's a doggone land division, the only reservation I have for marriage is religion. I can never ever marry a moslem.

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you can marry from any part of the planet earth okay,.but to be sincere with you,the language you are born with is not to be compare with any other when it comes to seriousness.inter-tribal is the best accept you derive some merit from the outsider that is why you cherish her most and that advantage is no less than beauty,fame and materialism.well the best is always the best the bible say money answered all things.

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I don’t see nothing wrong marrying from other tribes, we are all the same people. One love Nigerians

I have families who married delta, Ibo, Hausa e.t.c but has for me oh I can only marry a Yoruba man and it depends on what state his from and background becos that is for important to us

My parents rules are no guys from Ekiti, Kwara,Oyo e.t.c like that, and last names starting from SO is a big NO NO

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marry me, am yoruba but look ibo. talk about killing 2 birds with one stone

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The truth is that our generation don't give a damn about where our spouses come from. My childhood friend married a white guy from Kansas in 2005 and my elder sister in Pennsylvania married one cute ibo brother. I like ibo guys so much but I must confess that they are not as open minded as yoruba guys when it comes to inter ethnic marriage, they always like to stick to their own. Generally, most of our parents were against inter tribal or ethnic or state marriage but thank God that this generation knows better. Gone are the days my dad will tell me never to bring home an ijebu man because he'll be lucky if i marry a yoruba man sef. My prayers is to marry a Naija man tho, precisely yoruba or ibo.

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Bigtee, honestly if you are blessed, as a Yoruba person, the best lady to marry is an Igbo girl

They quickly understand and play along with you the way life is but it is necessary to have their total mind before rushing to marriage.

Hence, their marriage culture (Traditional) is very difficult if you are not well being

Also they too much sentiment traditionally

Apart from the above they are good to marry as a Yoruba person.

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I see nothing wrong in inter-tribal relationships. It helps one understand other tribes and cultures of other people in the country. Infact my present babe is an Igala girl and i'm a yoruba guy.

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oboy make u no listen to the slowpoke on de soil ooo do your thang no mind them!! like when u enter plane when from ghetoo in america wey u deh u never hear about plane crashe mumuuuuuuus

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wait until her parents hav a say. U'd be singing a different song

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Bigtee I feel u!Am a product of inter-tribal marriage(yoruba and Ishan) and presently d girl I love dearly is an Igbo girl n d feelings r mutual so I guess we might be heading 4 d altar, dont get me wrong inter-tribal marriage comes with unique problems o but me if u guys both love each other and share essential virtues then d pros will be greater dan d cons.

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well Afeni u see as u sabi talk yeye i can also see u look yeye and i can tell! mirror mirro !! mirror on de wall tell me say if i de lie!! and guess wat now ur yanshi don open well well and i de smell 2 much! u ve shown u are truly ibo hater hmmmmm gay lord ur majesty! ur quest will always be operatin among yall gay lord commnuity! abi u think say yoruba are better off or something. na wahooo im feelin something ! a loser! ghana must go oloshi hmmm!

u go dieoooooo !! maybe ur medication is make u join wankin wankers club!

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well my cousin she is married to a yoruba man! they even went to my village for the traditional procedins. make u no lets then monkeys leaders deceive u ooo! na only carryin ghana must go bag the sabi! abi na apiino or na magraete thatcher u wan marry! just because u from de same tribe! u go wound ooo!

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i find nothin wrong with it, its the heart that counts not where you are from

if me and my wife understand eachother then its all good

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sometimes it does, sometimes it doesnt

it takes 2 to make a marriage work

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@ Hot_Angel chinese ke (Thats too far now) , My Husband is Calabar and me i am Delta, It never crossed my mind that i must marry from my place, My siblings are all married and none is married to someone from my place, we even get Togo inlaws self,

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Well, my husband is OGUN state and am from KD. Its no big deal as far as am concerned. I havent experienced any major problems cos of that yet.

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It is hard but it can work. It has worked for Africans and European girls and vice versa. You have to be open-minded person and willing and ready to change and adapt.

Love conquers everything. But love can be dangerous too.

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It is a matter of love and understanding between you and you partner,it really work

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There's nothing wrong with you guys teaching eachother your language

My family for instance is Nigeria rolled in one, we have people form delta,calabar,edo,yoruba,hausa. My sister is married to an Igbo guy, she's calabar, they're learning eachother's language. I'M ALL FOR IT.

I should say I'm the product of an Inter-tribal marriage and I love it

Wait, is Inter-tribal the right word?

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This thing we are talking about can actually be a problem most especially when your in-laws dont really like the idea, what about when you dont understand each others language? Then you both speak your languages with members of your family when they come visiting or what? Another tower of Babel.

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i see notting bad in it

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oh my!!! Good thing you stayed calm and didn't get into any fights with them.

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I'm not Nigerian i'm a black american

This is my story.  I'm out with 2 of my guys, in a club around State and North, downtown Chicago.  I walk in the club which was caucazoid, basically it a white club right...you understand.  I spot this cold sister standin on the glass.  I don't know she's Nigerian.  I stepped to her and it was on.  I was feeling her.  She was feeling me.  We danced all night long to whatever rock and roll, techno bullsh*t the DJ played.  These dudes on the other side of the club...  They were dancing too but at the same time they were eying me.  I saw them with my Hatar Radar.  I asked her who she came with.  Those same cats plus some more nigerian ladies.  I played it cool Me and the sister sat down and had a drink.  I really started to dig this girl.  After the drink I was walking her outside when one of the haters snatched her arm and pulls her to the bar.  She's trying to get away but he has his arms around her trapping her inbetween his body and the bar.  He talking to her basically like, "oh no you don't".  I stayed cool, I don't know who she is to him and i'm not about to fight all these cats.  I mean there potentially could have been a big misunderstanding(Furniture moving up in that motha).  I'm peace loving and me and the boys wasn't out for that.  He let her go after a minute or five.  I asked her "what was the problem".  She said "he's Nigerian and Nigerian men don't like to see there women going outside there tribe".  I'm like "Hello you'll at the damn caucazoid club".    Whatever it was all love.  After that I called her and she said It wouldn't be a good idea.  Really now, To bad, her loss.  I was offended, so I didn't bother following up.  We all black right?       Thats what I thought.

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i am down with inter-tribal marriages,relationships has nothin to do with tribes it has more to do with our personality.most times tribal differences comes with our culture.personaly i don' c anythin wrong with it,i can decide to get married 4rm any tribe as far as we understand eachother.

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I can marry chinese man. As long as i love him (noo i take that back).

But seriously tho, i don't give a fxck where the dude is from. (i do.. sorta, but it's not a major problem).

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Well it better work as I am of Trinidadian parents and hellbent on marrying my Yoruba boyfirnd

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If you can navigate through the left over resentments in our culture to get your queen, surely you will reign in peace and prosperity.

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Ghana man get very upset when someone refer them as ghananian. A person from Ghana is refer to as Ghanians.

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Correction, there is no such thing as ghananian, it is Ghanian.

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It dosn't matter where ur Wife comes from, After all our Nigerians are far abroad marrying from every corner, why not; in our own mother land. any way Inte- Tribal Marriage at time is one ofthe best, is just sal about understanding, my Uncle marry a ghananian lady and they ar doing fine, its all about understning[i] boooooooooooooooo[/i]

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All matters in relationship is love and understanding whether the person is Igbo, Hausa or Yoruba

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i think i'm going to end up with an ibo or edo girl cos' dey are the bomb. Some yoruba girl are awesome though

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i think i'm going to end up with an ibo or edo girl cos' dey are the bomb. Some yoruba girl are awesome though

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you people have said it all,need I say more?

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Igbo girls make good wives.period....

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I would say if and only if I could, I'ld marry Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa representing and promoting unity between the tribes but because personally I can't and won't, I would marry which ever comes my way.

A piece of advice for those who are already in and those prospective of this kind of relationship to be sure they sit down and decide to deal with any form of opposition that would arise, because, believe you me, they would surely come from either or both sides.

When two agree as to a thing, it would surely work for them.

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i hear there are some places especially in the east where the financial implications of picking a damsel is nothing less than 500k so i am now a bit wiser. I however will prefer delta or yoruba but then its as if a magnet keeps pulling me in the eastern direction so i am just vibrating

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yeah, i do admire people who do it but i dont think i can. well, maybe if i understand the guys language, i could.

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Sure you do, right before you use them for rituals

*maybe u & i shd continue this discussion on the other thread you created on anambra boys* meet me there

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Babe forget love for a moment.

I believe in reality cos na woman dey mostly suffer the effect.

I have to be real convinced and not just inlove

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Inter tribal marraige is what cannot be shy away from in our multi-ethnic nation. Sure it does work for some and for some, ih has been bad news. But with supporting parents and understanding partners, inter tribal marriage would work. As for me, take love where you find it. i am into one and I aint complaining.

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well it works for some pple and it doesnt for some.

it all depends on yr partner and his level of maturity. Is he able to protect u from his relations or not .If any relative tries to give u a hard time will he be there for yu?

my best advice is look bfr u leap even if u are marrying from yr own village.

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well it don't really matter! love is wat should count!

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