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Is A Boyfriend An Investment For A Lady?

Does Having A Boyfriend Mean Investment For Ladies?

It's clear that no woman wants to date a guy that hasn't got money no matter how much love the guy have for her. They would rather date a rich guy who doesn't love them.

Is it a cash investment for ladies to have a boyfriend? Because there seem to be competition amongst ladies on who dates a bigger boy.

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Oyinye2 can u show me your self? am cool guy

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Xerxes I pity the girl that marries you and since it seems you place oyibo and acata girls higher than Naija babes is it any surprise to you that all the Naija babes you've been with want money, maybe a little sex and nothing else from you? You are a disgrace to the few respectful Naija men around the world! If it is so bad and you feel so put upon paying for the dates and giving presents would it kill you to let the babe know that "hey, I would like it if you offered or paid for our dates more and gave me presents". Let's be honest with ourselves. A Naija babe would only spend money on a man when she feels he deserves it and our upbringing has raised us to expect that a guy provides the finances on dates and so on. I am of the new school that believes in equality and I have surprised my boyfriends with a weekend vacation and a gifts before without prompting. The first time I was in a serious relationship with a Naija guy and did that he said it was emasculating and insulting that I picked up the cheque. Now tell me what y'all want? Naija men as far as I'm concerned are mostly a very confused bunch and brook no allowances for error whenever it comes to Naija babes. If she doesn't pay 4 anything she's just after your often nonexistent money. If she pays she's being insulting and treading on your male honor. If she gree without too much toasting she is a cheap slut and u now have clearance to just mess with her and waka, if she no gree or gree after much hardship she's a stuck up Dam and will ever remain a spinster! GOD! I'm tired of Nigerian men! & before u nitwits that I know exist out there start harping on the previous statement let me preemptively reply --- I'm glad you're effing tired of me too so kiss my large, tasty African Bottom!

Peace!

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Yet anutha waste of valuable bandwidth.

It's funny how schlepps like u connect what people say on a forum to how they are in the real word.

Thinking about the garbage u just spilled here, i think people around u should be sorry for your warped reasoning and lack of stealth.

It seems cockroaches crawled up your bleached butt which explains why you are spewing prattle.

Lookie, this is a public forum. I can argue for/against any topic. At the end of the day, it's a debate.

If i feel Naija women are buncha gold-diggers on Monday, so shall it be. . . . . .Meanwhile, it does not mean i will repeat the same thing on tuesday.

If u have got issues with your self-confidence and your aura, u can take a deadly hike or better still, play pentagrams with your womanliness.

I am sick n tired of debating with obnoxious momma pigs like u.

Bloody lummox!

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I have been out more than the word itself.

It's all the same thing. . . . .

Some women feign to have more pride than normal but then once sex enters the equation, it bores down to the same thang!

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Not all women. You just need to get out more.

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This is what I dont understand.  Why spend and spend and spend on a chickenhead when there are great women out there that will treat their man like a KING.

Up until i met my future husband all i kept running into were rosters (male equivalent to chickenheads) and I kept getting my feelings hurt by these men.  My friends all said I was silly to give my man King status but my position was if i treat him like my King he will treat me like his Queen.  And when i gave them King status if they did not live up to it then the status changed to peasant.  A peasant is not who i will be with so they were dismissed.

It really does not take you spending any money on a female to determine if she is of Queen status.  You should know that from the first few encounters.  Dont turn your heart cold to all women just slow your roll and get to know them a little better.

I notice that Nigerian men tend to throw their money at women first w/o first determining if they deserve it.

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I am not talking about me. . . . I was speaking generally about MEN/WOMEN.

Woman would break ma heart? How?

Me heart is not even commited in the 1st place so how does it get smashed?

U gotta be kidding me!!!

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Maybe you should stop trying to buy their love and they'll stop breaking your heart?

Nobody's holding a gun to your head.  If you don't want to buy your girlfriend a present, then don't.

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I am having a laugh.

What's the probability that i would marry the gurl i am currently dating?

Blimey. . . . What kinda high-risk investment is that?

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Thus the reason it's an invesment for men. You buy her a few presents while you're dating, and once you're married, you get a lifetime of free labor.

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may god help you xerxes

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@ poster NO. N to the O

and a woman/lady who starts making a man responsible for her financial well being is digging her own grave.

Now if you don't like the Man and plan to only use him for financial purposes then its a whole different convo.

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@xerxes

I don't think you understood my point.  

I'm not interested in discussing the gender wage gap.  

What I said is that equality does not exist as long as men expect their wives to feed them.

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"You lot"? I'm not sure which "lot" I'm being put into here.

If you want to know how I feel about a man giving me money, please read my posts here:

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=17478.msg2360197#msg2360197

I wasn't discussing that in this thread. All I'm saying is that, if you want to talk about which gender has it better, we need to consider the fact that you boys are still going to want to sit back and have your wives take care of you like little babies with their mamas once you get married. So quit complaining and go spend that money on your girls!

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Ha, it's funny you should mention it because I work on pay equity and the gender wage gap for the government.

But anyway, I'm not saying that equality shouldn't exist.  I'm saying that it doesn't in most homes.

Until you men are doing laundry and dishes and changing diapers just as much as your wives, you have no right to whine and complain when you pay for our dates!

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Money for hand, back for ground!

Ever since i start, omo na so so investment!!

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No equality?

The feminist movement would have u flogged for saying this on a public forum.

Where were u when they were fighting for the rights of women and the gender wage gap?

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@xerxes

There is no equality.  Yes, us women earn paychecks just like you men.  But then we have to come home and do a second full-time job - taking care of husbands and children.

Equality?  What a joke.

I conclude that dating is an investment for the MEN and us women are getting screwed.

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Then, don't approach them . . Good for u!!!

@ Xerxes,

Come and ask my bf . . he will tell u

am not saying that men should foot the whole bill and all dat and blah blah blah

but alot of u guys need to take note behind ur heads that "not all girls are after u for money" . . some of u sef don't have kobo.

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In short,i hate Nigerian girls!!!

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when the 'beauty' I am paying for causes a richer man to 'fall in love' with her!

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WOMEN!

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Why do you guys think that we simply want what is in your wallet? Money is not on the top of the list for most girls. If a girl works and makes her own money they why not should the guy also work and make his own money.

I dont want a man that i have to support, if i cant claim you on my taxes then i will not be supporting you. I have three children that i raise on my own and dont need another grown Bottom man to support.

I cant stand this idea that men think we want a rich guy. Not all women are golddiggers, we just want a brotha that can hold his own, one that can be leaned on and lean on us. If we are not evenly yoked then there is a problem and resentment can easily start creep in.

Every other thread i have read this am is about brotha supporting women. That is not the main factor in determining a mate. Stop looking at chickenheads and look for a quality woman that has her own.

Why is it that the chickenheads always wind up with the good men?

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@white`Nkem

call it cash benefit investment if it sounds better,

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