is a man worth marrying if he is too shy even to propose?
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run for your dear life, how will he be able to handle situations at home as a man? let me tell you the little concerns you see now are going to be the big demons you will be contending with later in the marriage.
too shy ke?
He will be too shy to stand up for you, to be firm in a whole lot of things,
you will be miserable, his shyness will be mistaken by people for niceness and you wont be able to complain without looking like a Dam and then you are trapped,
, one year, two years, depending on how long you are able to stomach it eventually you will break and the question will now be, what took you so long?
well, i am a kind of shy guy when i am in contact with beautiful girls. but if she is open minded and kind of open up then i can kick off the shyness for her like a ball.
i cant even stand in mist of girls talking.
the only female post that is best here is michelin89, she said it all.
i can say 60% of male are shy woman at first. so what the hell ur girls are talkign about.
This is my take on the topic:
Shy Guys? there are tons of them out there, TONS!
I find out that when i see a pretty girl, i am not immediately shy, i can walk up to her with boldness - after all no be NO, Get Lost and allied responses be the worst? what can be worster? Bad English good communication.
But when i get to meet a woman, notice the word woman! Beautiful, engaging, hot, intellectual and i become attracted and fall head over heels for her, taking the plunge can be daunting. Her No will hurt more, Her No will mean i might lose a great friend eventually who makes me feel good. I am more careful, i bide my time well, sometime i have shaky feet, butterflies in my stomach, it takes me ages to pop the question. WHY? Does that mean i am shy and not fit to be a man?
NO, i dont think so, I just think that this is too important to be flippiant about! A great dame, one in a million, i cannot afford to get it wrong, i cannot afford for her to think i dont mean my words. I must be careful she does not see me in the same light as the last (or other) guy who broke her heart.
So Ladies, sometimes, when you meet a guy who seems shy (and unmanly) he just might be the guy who places you on a pedestal higher than the other bold dude who sees you as a conquest. Your refusal might hurt one, the other will just say water under the bridge and ask the next fine girl out, maybe your best friend too (after all birds of a feather, ).
How do i know all this? I asked such a girl out sometime ago after planning it for months! Yeah i was shy, scared and apprehensive. I went well, we have two lovely daughters and still think she is my "Blinding Flash and Deafening Report!"
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i'm in support of what u said,
a guy might be shy at d initial stage
asking the lady out might be a problem.
just afraid of getting a NO for an answer
and u know dis our girls, they culd be naughty at times.
some of them will want to make sure they fustrate all ur moves,
they keep bluffing you all d time,
and most guys are not dt patient.
But i tink after d first date, d guy will now be bold enough to make the next move and the issue of marriage or no marriage will now follow.
Truly i haven't seen a guy thats more shy than myself yet i believe if the time has come to propose after weighing all the consequences nothing can hold me back. Was it not i that asked her out? The guy isn't ready to propose yet. And please shy guys aren't boring ask my friends. We just need to know people better so we could be free with them
I disagree with you amaikama.
If he's that shy ,believe me he will not shag the hell outta her(which by the way every girl wants once in a short while) and definitely will not shag her anywhere else but in the bedroom, what's the m***fu*king fun in that??.
pardon me but im just being raw and on point.
Yes, some guys re shy to propose to a lady.
My guy is a good Xample of that. but 1st we were very close as friend, gradually, we becam inseparable, we are always together weekends and even we come home together during week day cos we live in d same Estate and our office is not really far from each other.
Now there is nothing i can not tell him, likewise himsef. he are so close now that we eat together, go out together, he dress me, hold me in public, kiss me in public and all that.
We have both suffer from HEARTBREAK, and we are picking the pieces so gradually coming back . we don't want to rush into things.
For me i want to marry my best friend likewise him so we are working toward being the best friend we cud ever be.
I ve made him my very best friend.
Though he his still shy to some extend, like when we are in public , you hardly see him talk or play, if m there he will only speak wit me nd my family cos he has become close to them. He is a lawyer, he seek advice from me and we tackle issues or matters together,
M very proud of him cos he is much different from my formal boyfriend and i love him so much.
I dont think its possible. Comon, for you to get to the stage of proposing, you will have passed through the "toasting" stage, the "ask for sex" stage. These stages are far more difficult that the proposing stage. If a man has the courage (or suppressed his shyness enough) to ask a girl out, then stays the relationship long enough to ask for sex (which is the shy guy's nemesis), then i'm sure he wont have a problem proposing.
But if na the girl do the toasting, lure the guy to bed, all because the guy is shy. Then, please dont complain, just finish the good work by proposing to him.
If he can say i love you to a girl the first time he set his eye on her, then proposal is not a problem, because most shyness start when approaching a girl for the first time, but not after several years or months in courtship. Lastly man will always be a man weather shy or not all will fine their missing rip.
a man cld be shy in words but perhaps not emotionally, if he coonects in other medium guess d lady cld compliment him, though i'd rather do my talking, nothing my mouth now?
women if ur man is a little bit shy in saying wld u marry me n u know in ur heart he is d guy lead him there no harm at all, u might just bring the best out of him.
like nature u can never have all, so that part of him is complete.