I'm aware that it's a figure of speech and I fully understand the meaning. I assure you that's not what I think of any of you. But to answer your question, yes, I would not want to have a baby out of wedlock if I were to get pregnant. I'm not sure what his views are about this but I'm sure he knows that's how I feel. But I was just wondering if pregnancy alone could help someone gain citizenship. You all said no, and I thank you for answering my question.
You may feel that I have insulted you and your country, but believe me you have insulted me way more. Monkeys behind keyboards?What about my question would make you think that's wha tI think about Nigerians. If i felt so badly about Nigerians I wouldn't be involved with this guy. I love Nigerian men and think nothing but good of them. The ones that I know are all in college and doing something good in ther lives. I know what pills are but I've done research and they are harmful to the body and reproductive system. My sister took more than one form of birth control and it gave her all sorts of problems. I 'm not too worried about getting pregnant because I know how to avoid it. I didn't know that I would offend anyone by asking this question or i would not have asked it. I was just was just trying to rule out all possibilities. Sorry it offended you.
@Threadstarter, fair enough uve had tests done, but u might wanna do it more than once cos having done the test once doesn't make u immune frm whatever nastiness he might catch outside [as I'm not convinced he's a faithful bf] and transfer to u.
But let's just say he is actually a faithful boyfriend, and that he doesn't want a baby with u just for the sake of getting papers, ur 23 are u ready to have a baby??
Ok here is my two cents, I might actually be wrong but I think the OP is saying the truth albeit still sounding very naive.
You must have heard a lot about this country, but when you come on here there are no monkeys behind the keyboards but very real and successful people. Pardon me to be harsh on you but if a Nigerian is trying to get you pregnant the first thing you do is go to your country's immigration website and see for sure if that can make him a citizen before coming here to accuse Nigerians of what is already a sensitive issue. It was silly dumb and very naive of you but only shows why you would equate being pregnant to citizenship.
At 23 you should know that men are not predisposed to withdrawal, at 23 you should know how to get pills which I am pretty sure cost less than a dollar, your lesson is simple, this website is full and teeming with proud Nigerians, questions especially those bothering on our pride as a country would not be taken lightly.
cant argue with this though it works both ways.
AA woman chasing Nigerian man. Nigerian man chasing AA woman. In the UK, substitute Jamaican for AA.
One of them trying to get pregnant for the other or one of them trying to make the other pregnant.
As they say, Gambari and Fulani wetin be the difference.
But Nigerians here do the same bleeping thing you dumb Bottom. Not all Black people are on welfare.
Welfare was created for poor white trash.
I was being sarcatic when I said they were loafers. They are not loafers if they are driving nice cars, flashing money and running around behind us akatas like lap dogs buying us whatever we want. They want to be American so bad that they buy the rims and all the silly poo that even rich black people dont buy anymore. They open up and max out credit cards just to impress women like me.
Maybe you think they are "broke" because they dont flash cash like some talentless rap artist and yahoo yahoo boy. Maybe many dont bother with fancy cars because they are too busy saving up for their kids colleges and buying a house while you love-vendor your rims and depend on welfare.
Yeah i prefer the "broke" guys.
I guess that means every single Nigerian in this state at least is a loafer, even those that do business overseas, drive nice cars, have plenty of cash and flash it all the time.
I guess what we as Americans use to measure sucess is not the same thing you use to measure success.
I guess being broke is upwordly mobile. Because here only the broke ones stay with fellow Nigerians. But the ones with money chase akata.
i didn't come here to ask of anyone's opinion about what choice of birth control i choose to use. and why would i know the ways of becoming a citizen of this country? I was born here! Immigration laws have never been an issue to me. I never intended to bash anyone, and of course I asked about a specific nationality, cuz Nigerian is what he is. If he were anything else I woulda asked the question pertaining to that nationality. Obviously I have nothing against Nigerian men if I am sleeping with one! Even more than that I consider him to be my friend and I care about him. So please stop accusing me of having some hidden intent of trying to bash Nigerians.
u need to grow the mess up
withrawal is the dumbest and the least succesfull method of birthcontrol
i mean how much does a pack of condoms cost?
and a 23 yr old would not ask if a specific nationality needs to tie an american woman down with a baby to get a passport
a 10 yr old knows the basic ways to becoming a citizen of a country
i suggest u come up with more ingenous ways, if u intend to bash nigerian men or any nation n her people generaly
Aren't there contraceptive pills? But tell you what, they wanted to be a safer side than have to look for options later, that was if anything was to have happened. I wasn't ready to be a father and like I said, that was back in those days; now it's a different game plan. He may not want kids, but he may also believe that you can't get pregnant at once? (some foolish myth Nigerian men still reel in).
Some Nigerian men when told of their nice and princely role at hitting the jackpot and getting a woman pregnant at an occasion of an unprotected sex, their usual response is, "how could it be? We only did it once,". Maybe that's not the case with him but he's still living in that illusion that it takes time for a woman to get pregnant. You don't come here to tag everyone as the same and that seems like what MOST American women do and like I suggested earlier, stop talking to those silly friends of yours.
I don't mean to be insulting but listen to yourself? Do you make sense at all? You talk as if you're a 5th grader. First of all, you've known him for three years but you don't know what kind of man he is? What are you? You're just so stupidly unbelievable. You had the effrontery to have sex with him without condoms and you're asking him to do what, Erupt on the sheets?
Well, what you said he did is nothing new. I have in the past had sex with girls (who I had tested) without condoms, they'd tell me not to pour it in there but I eventually did and when they ask me, I lied about it or simply keep quiet; I did say a couple of times that I didn't because I think she'd know already and asking me is like pretense or just wanting to know what I'd say. Seriously, that didn't make me a liar and I can't categorize that as a lie. And what's the meaning of having sex without a condom when you know he shouldn't offload into you?
Your accusation and observation hold no water - it makes not even the least of senses. Look, stop all these misconceptions and concentrate on your relationship if at all it means anything to you and stop talking to those dumb and foolish friends of yours who think they know anything when they can hardly spell their names let alone knowing what goes on in the world of immigration.