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Is Dating Someone For 1 Year Too Soon To Get Married?

How long do you guys think two people should date before getting married? Is it ok to meet someone and know that they are your soul-mate and get married within a year??

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one year is ok to know someone if u love her just get married there are other guys out there that will not wast time. get more tip about dating www.datingblackladies.blogspot.com

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@ poster: You don't have to date someone forever before getting married cos you never really know pple until u live under the same roof wif 'em day in, day out.

It all comes out when that "space" is now being shared with someone else and you now own "half" of the big bed u used to sleep in,  there is now a permanent "other" in your life,

Marriages can never work without God. By the way, I'm a muslim and Islam is against any form of courtship (ok, sadly, we break dat rule these days, ). I guess this is because at the end of the day, it's not the length of courtship that matters but God's blessings on the union.

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This thing called "marriage", hmmm na only God know the end.

Sometimes you think you're so prepared and then you get knocked off your feet. God will help us.

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I think dating for a year is ok, but the important question u need to ask your self is are u guys compatible? do u know and understand urselves that well to actually get married.

I have a friend who got married two years ago. Her husband was based abroad, she knew him for just a short while and felt they were compatible enough to get married. Her husband was quiet, calm and generous, she felt that was enough to evaluate him until they got married and realized somany things about themselves. They argued and quarrelled all the time and his folks hated her, he later called and said the marriage should be dissolved. She was devastated.

My point is that u should know ur partner well enough to get married to him

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Nope, as long as you feel you've known the person as well as you can. It all depends on the people involved anyways.

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it depends on how much research u have done in one year. If u think much has been known about the intended patner, go ahead!

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By the way, My fiance and I only know each other less than a year and we are best of friends. I will be marrying my best friend and I suggest you all develope friendships with your mate for your marriage will last.

Ask the couples who are married and BEST FRIENDS, they will agree with me. Winks!

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The problem with most people is that we rely on OUR TIME and not God's time. When you are dating you take that time to get to know that person and it the perfect time to ask question concerning long-term if you are thinking of that aspect. If you are just in for the casual fun then I suggest you don't even bring the topics such as "What do you see yourself in five years"?

I dated my fiance for less than a year and he proposed to me. We are the best of friends and can't stop telling each other thoughts. The best thing for any couples be friends with your mate because friendship will make your marriage last. It has nothing to do with how long you dated someone.

I have friends who dated their boyfriends for five years thinking years will uncover everything about their boyfriends, THEY WERE WRONG. One of my friend dated her boyfriend for six years before she said I do and she miserable as hell. My point in all of this if the person who you are dating whether you know them for 3 days or 3 years is your soul mate, you are set for life.

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People kill me it is so crazy because its always the woman that changes , I know women are not the same as they were back 60 years ago but ppeople need to get over the bashing there is pad in all people. Relationships take work its a two way street. If your not both willing to work hard at it it will never last. Its according to the people in the relationship. Not the fact that shes a woman and in 2 years she will change. Some ppl change for the good some change for the bad. Its what people do. A person can only take so much if a man is as good as gold and after two years a kid a dog and in laws up in your business later it might not last if your both not working hard at it.

Sorry but it not about a certain sex who does the most wrong its about not talking and working out your issues , Keys to a good relationship , Friendship first of all , communication if you cant talk it out i promise your head for divorce court b4 u ever get there, sex is very important if you dont feed your dog at home the neighbor will . If its only about sex it wont last either there is more to a marriage than that.

and so we know that i dont completely hate men , my advice to women , women do want to argue about some silly things so think about it and wonder if its worth the fight , Yeah ok its a hassel if a man doesnt put the toliet seat down but he has to lift it so there for why do women never lift the seat for a man ? Now thats something they have never thought to argue about. It takes less off of your life if you do what you have to and just dont fight over it. Its always great when u hate all those little pet peeves then one morning the mate is no longer there because of something silly.

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heres my story i was with a guy for 5 years and we have to kids together two months ago he left well told me he was going to visit family, now i found out he left me for another women n now they are gettn married in a couple of weeks, they have known each other for 12 yrs but she would never give him a chance and now all sudden she is, i just want to know what u ppl think about this situation

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the time doesnot matter,when a real man meet a real woman ,marriage is the next step.

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Chychy,

You are so right !

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In my opinion, a year without sex is enuff because sex tends to blur one's thinking faculties.

Without sex, i think one year is enuff to stop all the pretense and lies that is if u're within the same geographical vicinity.

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I personally dont think that there is such a thing as a soul mate. I think there are people that u can date and compliment well and ur dreams and visions.

Well, i dont think it is the length of time, i think its the fact that u have run through all your checklist (e.g. how is he around ur friends, their family, your family, authority, how many laws they break etcand he is rite for you. Obviously praying hard and keeping ur eyes open. Make a good friend of urs look at the relationship from the outside and tell u the truth.

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Depends.

Its not impossible too.

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as for me-----not too soon.

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marrying someone on short notice is like walking into a dark tunnel without a flashlight.

marriage is not a walk in the park. do u love him? are u sure u wants 2 spent the rest of his life with him?

are u very sure he loves u? men do pretend alot.

get 2 know the other person well because, once u get 2 the altar, it will be 2 late.

my little advise is 2 continue dating so that both can watch each other closely .

one year is 2 small 2 study a man u want 2 live with 4ever.

don't be in haste OK.

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frm a girl's perpective, I think after being with a guy after 6 months, she knows what she wants from him. women come to this decision quicker but we keep it quiet and just wait(pretend even) till the man realises what he wants. it doesnt matter 6mths, 1yr etc. we know the moment we see u in most cases, its called a tickbox list. I personally do not waste time with men that r after one thing. its like a game im afraid and women r pretty gd at it. afterall we came frm eve, LOL, Its love yes but its also a pratical decision these days!

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this post intresting, we r all forgettng that it is only God that will know how long we need to decide wen we know he/she is the one!  it all boils down to if its feels right and u have put it in the hands of God, it may also take longer because one may not be ready spiritually, financially and emotionally.

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i think a year is damn to small,you avnt known ur partner at all,i knw wot am talkin abt.

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depends, i dated ma bobo 4 2yrs b4 we started plannig marriage,so its ur call girl, wen u knw ur partner enough u shd strt tinkin along dat line i guess dats if u guys want to marry eachother.

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Mukiratu wetin dey laf U?

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my parents got married 3 months after meeting and 28 years later, then are still together, it depends on if you've found the one for you.

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Whitelexi, you have such common views, I'm sure you'll find a very common woman to share them with you.

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@needeeg

hhhhmmm you know its a different thing getting the right guy and also a different thing making him stay as the right man.

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it doesn't really matter. i dated my hubby for almost 6 years and in marriage, i feel i've never really known him.

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Hmm, well as for me, my hubby proposed to me after 10months we met and we got married 7months after that. So i guess one yr and up is good but regardless, you should follow your heart. After all there are people that are introduced and they do it right away and i know a few that have been married for a long time. So its really yup to the person and how they feel.

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IF like take a whole decay to court a lady that does not granty successfull mariage. To me any time after 3month marriage can take place if both party are sincere with each other. My dear it is not how long a courtship but how well

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I think it may be best to spend at least 18 months together, but if both parties are sincere then why wait? I don't agree w/ putting artificial restraints on a relationship & saying, "I can't be this person's wife b/c we've only been dating for 6 months or 36 months etc." That's annoying & not very honest to the other person. If you have other doubts or don't think that you really know the person, then that's another story.

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I personally dont think itz too long, infact coutship needs to be extended further to ensure a better, happier and longlasting marriage

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Weev,Sorry you lost your spouse,sounds like he was a great husband! I met my wife in NYSC camp in July,by July the next year,we were married and have remained so till date,9 years after. There are people who court for several years,and divorce soon after they solemnize the relationship. The decision when to get married depends on a lot of factors. The age, status(still schooling ,job searching etc),and may be financial situation of the guy. a guy will not be in a rush to get married when he is still young,jobless or not sure of his financial situation. However, once you meet someone, your heart tells you is the right person, you will probably want to get married as soon as possible. For those who want long courtship,to study the potential spouse, goodluck oh! You can not know all about a person,as long as they want to hide a trait from you. A marriage based on a firm religious foundation is more likely to survive,than one where the partners do not have religion. BUT, marriage is indeed hardwork(As Weev said),and you have to work hard at it to make it work.

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y r u so agressive abt it all.

Nomatta wat happens la8r, first put things in the very careful n loving hands of God ok n the rest will come.

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whenever u r ready, pray to God, make the vows n kip them!!!!!!!

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Adam: The woman(Eve) whom You(GOD) brought into my life, gave me the apple.

GOD: you disobeyed and blamed me for finding a wife for you. I will never find a wife for you, whenever you are ready show me the woman I will bless you.

It does not matter the time(year). Just ask GOD to bless your marriage when you find her/him.

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I believe 3 years should be the minimum, plus u never know a woman fully until u start leaving under the same roof

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from my own view ,boy is not too short 4 someone to get married becos one year is a long period to undrstand or study one partner .

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it all really depends

if you think and know for a fact that he's the one for you then i guess it's alright to go ahead and marry him but if you're not too sure i guess it would be better to wait for some more years marriage is a life long committement

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