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Is Double Dating Wrong?

Anything wrong with dating 2 at same time?i mean on a platonic base.nid views from Sistas and brothers please

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for me i think is a wrong ideal,too many guys/girl we make you loss focus on the right person for you and you will keep missing the other person for one reason or another.

and come to think of it if you truly love someone i bet you wouldn't like him/her to toy with your emotion.

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i can't double date, i tried it (5 times) in the past and lost out in the process.

one woman at a time is okay.

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Looking out for some more confesions,similar to sharon's.

topup,u run an NGO?

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I have been in a similar situation but, I ignored the guy who after all my chasing only now had realised that he liked me, because sometimes people only want what they can't have, which may be the same reason why you are interested in the 1st girl.

Like I said, go with your heart, who knows if you and your current girlfriend are even going to last anyway (hate to sound negative), nobody knows the future, so just do what you feel, but make sure you handle it neatly. Cut off things with the current girlfriend and then state where you stand with th 1st girl.

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bad. not sleeping with them both doesnt count. U wld be playing with both their emotions which is not so cool

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@ dis junction, i tink i av sometin 2 say. i`m guilty of dis topic & i must confess it`s d wrongest tin 2 be involved in. my conscience will not allow me rest & i dont know ow to put an end 2 it. d worst part is , we wok in d same office.

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Yea,i know,dats why i askd for help.u ever bn in such situation before?

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From what I've heard, you don't have a genuine connection with your current girlfriend, as though she has many pros and is a great girlfriend, you're just not feeling it, there's nothing wrong with that, but maybe you should stop stringing her along. Go with your heart but handle things maturely, for your girlfriend's sake.

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if ur current glfriend is the 2nd one,

then what is the point of this post

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Good one but stil elicit.could you expansiate pls.

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Nothing wrong with double dating it at all, as a matter of fact, I recommend it for anyone (especially women) who isn’t in an exclusive relationship and by exclusive I mean a relationship where BOTH of you know you are together, you are on the same page and not the kind where after one date. . . one person is are already looking at china patterns or looking at engagement ring.

I can’t stand people like that, so freaking annoying.

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so which of the two is ur current galfriend

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Talking of who's more attractive?my 2nd,she's English,speaks realy polishd english,very neat,God fearing,decent and overall caring.for d 1st,she's Nigerian,does'nt realy speak fluently,not soooo neat,neat though,also God fearing,more decent but not so caring.actualy putin up wiv my present gurlfrend smtimes realy got me bored,esp wen i tink of d 1st.

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Talking of who's more attractive?my 2nd,she's English,speaks realy polishd english,very neat,God fearing,decent and overall caring.for d 1st,she's Nigerian,does'nt realy speak fluently,not soooo neat,neat though,also God fearing,more decent but not so caring.actualy putin up wiv my present gurlfrend smtimes realy got me bored,esp wen i tink of d 1st.

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Talking of who's more attractive?my 2nd,she's English,speaks realy polishd english,very neat,God fearing,decent and overall caring.for d 1st,she's Nigerian,does'nt realy speak fluently,not soooo neat,neat though,also God fearing,more decent but not so caring.actualy putin up wiv my present gurlfrend smtimes realy got me bored,esp wen i tink of d 1st.

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Though I mentioned that you should try not to mess your current girlfriend about, you still need to focus on you and what you want, but you must be willing to accept the consequences of your actions.

Maybe even make a list of both of their pros and cons, though not all points are in equal in weight i.e. someone making breakfast for you is not as the same as someone being trustworthy or you being able to confide your deepest secrets in them.

Read the list and mark the points that matter most to you.

Lastly, go with your heart as well, then you're less likely to regret your decision.

Just a question, is the girl who now wants you, is she better looking/more attractive than your current girlfriend?

Another question; how did you stay in a relationship for 1 year and 4 months especially when it seems as if you have managed to store up stronger feelings for the first girl than the 2nd?

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Thats about d most eligible reply i've got.a bit elicit to gt ur facts tho,bt i sure learnt smting.thank you.

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If the girl you're with is 'decent' then why do you want to go back to the girl who wasn't sure whether she wanted to be with you. It seems that the first girl has had a look around and now her second choice (you) is taken and she has found nobody, so she has convinced herself that you are the one she's now interested in. What's to stop her leaving you during the relationship because once again she's not sure??

I personally think you should stick with the girl you're with, sometimes people don't realise what they've got until it's gone, because why leave a relationship in which it seems that you can't even find faults with the current girlfriend?

You're putting your heart at risk, but if you think the first girl who ignored all of your responses (possibly playing hard to get), is 'the one' you truly want to be with and care for, and you think that breaking your current girlfriend's heart is worth it then go ahead - no, not to double date, but to dump the current girlfriend. You can't use a human being as back up, it isn't fair!

Yup, I believe double dating is only slang for cheating (dating two people at the same time) in Nigeria. Correct me if I'm wrong, but double dates consist of two couples going out together, maybe bowling or cinema. There's nothing wrong with that.

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no you dont need help, you just need justification. Pls stop resurrecting this thread.

So you want to encouraage promiscuity?? Whatever happened to one man, one woman??

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d koko bi se, if both persons can do d koko witout problems, it is all well and good.

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Which of this do i dance to please?i realy need help.

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double dating is not wrong even if it is triple or fourthly dating as long they know when they aplied

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I cant take my mind completely off cheating cos thats exactly what your whole story's telling me u r doing. Its better to break up and hurt her feelings, than to keep leading her on and cheating on her. That means u have no respect for her. If you dont love her even if u feel a 'thing' for her, then leave her alone. Go date the 1st lady.

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I rather think that it depends on the context by which double dating is used.

Double dating as in going out for just a social event is ok, but double dating as in going out with two or more people in romantic way is wrong.

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I must be getting something wrong here.

Double dating involves 2 couples going on a social event.

Group dating is where they are more than 4.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with double dating.

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Double dating is a game of chance and risk. BUT risk is very HIGH though very intereting.

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ur judgements are'nt fair at all.is it dat easy to "brk up and hook up"?r u considering she's also a being and has emotions lyk evry oda person.what if she's temprament, i aint got no ring in thier fingers yet ok.the fact is they both are okay but stil might b 1 with more adv. Ova d oda so how'm ment 2 know?pls tk ur mind cmpltly out of cheatin & see dis from a 0 point of view.its not lyk i don't feel a ting 4 her(2nd).

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ur judgements are'nt fair at all.is it dat easy to "brk up and hook up"?r u considering she's also a being and has emotions lyk evry oda person.what if she's temprament, i aint got no ring in thier fingers yet ok.the fact is they both are okay but stil might b 1 with more adv. Ova d oda so how'm ment 2 know?pls tk ur mind cmpltly out of cheatin & see dis from a 0 point of view.its not lyk i don't feel a ting 4 her(2nd).

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So you want to date the two of the at the same time?? Please will you stop asking obvious questions?? Its wrong. Chose one. Either you break up and hook up with the 1st one or you tell her to move on. Even if you aint having sex, you are in a r/ship, and its wrong to maintain any other form of similar assosiation with some1 else, even if she was your wife.

I said it before, this guy's just looking for an excuse to cheat.

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When people meet for the first time the just relate on platonic level as time goes by when they become closer and more initimate the relationship terms to be on romatic level it has nothing to do with self control mind you relationship can be romatic and no SEX attached

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did u read d post at al?talking about finishin wit one b4 moving 2 anoda,how do u mean "finish"clear pix of a flirt,dude!

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why shud a plato.relationship move into romantic or even sexual relationship?simply means u aint got self control.

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I'm learning new terms today. What is double-dating, is this when you take a girl out twice? Also, what is plato-romantic relationship? You ppl in here are corrupt, too loose. Oh God deliver them from the utterances of their tongues.

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I disagree because most relatonships on platonic gradually move to romatic even without the intension of the people in the realtionship.  

@Topic it is very very wrong

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Not Cheating: To have sexual relations with other people especially with your partners consent

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Whats ur def. of cheating?

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Yea right!! When did people ever start needing reasons to cheat. Why would you go to the trouble of starting this thread? I don’t know, maybe you are one of those ‘I must start a thread people’ on Nairaland. Because you’ll have to be pretty dense not to realize that double dating, is cheating and cheating is wrong.

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does it make sense to u?if i was cheatin earlier,i sure wud'nt find a reasn to post this thread.i tot u wud be asking why i want to double date.

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WRONG ! WRONG ! WRONG !

everything about pre-mature relationship shuld be wrong!!!!!!!!!

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Double dating is not wrong.

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Dating is any social activity performed as a pair or even a group with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as their partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of agreeing on a time and "date" when a pair can meet and engage in some social activity.

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it is very very wrong to double date,its another sin in the rules of love r/ship.stick to one man and make it work,if there are tins he lacks,let him know,shiw it to him in a nice but unharmful way.

goodluck

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Wrong as a cold statue - it is

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He just wants an excuse to keep cheating; even a kid knows that double dating is wrong.

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You can go on group dating. Its not wrong.

Whether double, tripple or quadruple. There's nothing

wrong with it.

I actually encourage kids less than 18 to go on group dates.[IMO]

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If you're leading both women to believe that you are only seeing one of them and only them, that is wrong, if you are having sex with both, that is wrong, if you are only having a platonic friendship with both, then that is okay, if you have a platonic friendship with one of the women and a romantic relationship with the other, that is okay too.

Man, I don't feel it's my place to say whether something's right or not, (because at this age you should really know).

The fact that you are even asking, could show some guilt!? Am I right?

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Yeah, platonic friendship isn't a date. It is just friendship.

As for real double dating. It is ok as long as you let the other person have the same priviledge.

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