What do you think about flirting especially when you have a partner or a spouse? Is this a harmless activity or is it actually cheating on him/her? Let’s find out together.
Flirting in a relationship is a must: there is nothing wrong with teasing and attracting your partner unless you are merely manipulating his/her feelings. However, flirting outside of relationship when your other half is not around is a topic for heated debate.
People split down the middle in their attitude to this thing. That is exactly why we have decided to have our investigation on what flirting is and whether it is healthy or harmful to your relationships.
What is flirting?
Flirting is a type of conversation of you have with a person of opposite sex in a way to attract them and express your sexuality with the aid of charm, interesting touching conversations, and any other things that might have the impact on the other person’s attitude.
Let’s see what people that defend flirting as an activity that does no harm to relationship say about it. They insist that there is a difference between flirting and cheating and flirting should not be referred to as an evil intention whatsoever.
As they claim, when you flirt with someone you are trying to achieve several goals, which we will talk later, and none of those goals is evil or aiming to cause pain of any kind to a partner. They state that they only flirt to:
• Practice their seduction skills;
• See if they still “got it”;
• Keep their sexuality alive;
• Feel better about the way the opposite sex sees you;
• Feel more secure and confident about their gifts and abilities to flirt;
• Stay inspired about being in individual relationships;
• Improve conversational skills.
Why do people choose to flirt outside of relationships?
On top of this after searching the web looking for how people understand what type of flirting can still be considered as harmless, and here is what I found. People believe hat it does no harm if you flirt unless:
1. You flirt with the individuals of the opposite sex when you are alone, just the two of you;
2. You make romantic moves or try to sound sexy and romantic when talking to someone other than your partner;
3. You have a hidden sense in your jokes, teasing, or showing too much interest into the individual;
4. You come up with lies to tell your partner to cover up for the time ou spent with a person of the opposite sex;
5. You have a romantic attitude to someone and save some explicit jokes or words for a particular person.
However, personally, I believe that there is no such thing as a safe flirting or flirting that causes no harm for several reasons.
Why do I believe that flirting is cheating?
Even though this list might look pretty innocent and persuasive, I would only ask one question: Why do you need to make yourself feel better about still being attractive outside of this relationships you are in at the moment? Isn’t your partner enough for you to feel loved and appreciated to stay devoted and be honest with him/her?
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This question should be answered right away, as flirting can become a cause of your attachment to the other person. Once you start flirting, your hear is seeking love and recognition from someone else, and this is emotional cheating. Personally, I am sure that God intended us to be faithful to our partners in our hearts thoughts and even emotions. Once I start sharing them with some else, I invite a different person into a place that was only intended to be the one for our husbands and wives. Therefore, there is no such thing as “safe flirting”: whenever you consider impressing someone as a brilliant conversationalist or an attractive personality, you are seeking someone to compliment you other than your life partner.
Look what the other bloggers say about this type of behavior in marriage or any love relationships and make up your mind. Their position is clearly defensive: no bad can come from flirting. However, once someone starts actually cheating, they will realize that it all started there with just flirting and complimenting on other people of the opposite sex. If one cannot help it but be around people of the opposite sex other than your partner and impressing them with how charming and attractive he/she is, then he/she should really stop and think about the values that stand behind this need of being appreciated and recognized by someone on the side.
So here is a piece of advice that I believe is pure nonsense suggested by someone who lacks responsibility: “If an attractive colleague compliments how good you look in a new dress, you feel good about it even though you already know you’re wearing a cute outfit, don’t you? That’s the power of reassurance. And it’s the same feeling you get when you flirt with someone else. It helps you realize how sexually attractive you still are, and that makes you feel more confident and sexy.
All of us flirt naturally, whether we realize it or don’t. Many lovers who don’t want their own partners to flirt with anyone else may just be hypocrites. Of course, you may not like the thought very much. But put yourself in your partner’s place. Wouldn’t you enjoy a conversation with an attractive someone other than your own partner?
The more you suppress your flirting side, the more you’d feel like you’ve lost your sexuality. And that would, in turn, affect your confidence in bed. So is flirting cheating when it can make you a better lover?”
To sum it all up, it is all up to you: your life and your decision to make. However, remember that the question on whether flirting is cheating in relationships can be still open for your partner, and you can hurt him/her very much by not being able to control your unstoppable desire to please people and get compliments. We believe that flirting either online or in real with a person other than your partner is cheating. There is no particular point when flirting BECOMES cheating. It always is one. And what do you think?
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