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Is He Chopping Me?

I've been dating my bf 4 a year now.there are certain things i'm not comfortable with.he's always complaining he's broke and expects me to give him money.i won't have minded but what baffles me is that he has money to buy designers wristwatches and perfume 4 himself.he has already told me he wont be able to get me anything 4 val because he's suppose to be broke but asks what i'll get him. I'm not really the type that asks 4 things but i'm wondering if he's taking advantage of my generous nature.i know sometimes he's broke but is he not over capitalizing on it.sometimes he even lends out the money i give him.he's not a cheat.i've told him about it,he just told he wont have asked if he doesn't need it.should i not be complaining?how do i in about it?

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well u said ont good thing about him, he doesnt cheat. thats one difficult quality to find these days, ask all them ladies that commented thus far, they will give evrything to have ur Man and allow him to chop them,lol

nway, what i will like to know is

1. does he have a job

2. ow much does he earn

3. does he love u

but then no excuse for a man to be chopping a woman sha.

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where r u so i cn link u up wiv my lil bro, who as a matter of fact is genuinly broke, he wnt b lending ur money out, and the least he will do is buy u a vals gift frm d money u have given him, plus he is good lookin toooo

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@poster Anything that guy ask from u pls dey give am o! U are a very lucky woman o! Dat kind of guy wey dey chop thier gf dey very scarce o!

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poster cant you read the hand writing on the wall? Even if you cant cant you feel it in your purse? Girl he is doing you mugu fall guy man chop. pls run faster than USAIN BOLT when you see what has any attitude, smell, shadow or if i might say air of him.

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How much have you given him so far that is too much to qualify him as a moocher?. The fact remains that women are naturally stingy. A man buys a woman things and rarely complains but a woman pays for his lunch twice and nairaland will hear about it. You wouldn't mind giving money to somebody you claim to love and yes that somebody mustn't give you back in return as long as he/she remains faithful to you. Love is sharing and not a symbiotic business arrangement.

That being said, I don't think God created women with a giving spirit. When they eventually do, they complain and soliloquize and murmur to the point that the recipient will feel mortified.

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yap.it depend whos hand the girl is in.

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und always pray for him.cause my gf does that too.if he is not doin anythin bring him 2 nairaland.so that those who kwn 2 fish wil teach him.

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@fen.if he love you dnt give up okay.listen to my own story.back in nija,i use to be a trade @brighead market.it was shotdown by nafdac.i was not doin any thing,my belove girlf.pay my bils.food and cloths.my family dnt care no mother no father.she feed me for one year from her mother resturant.her mother was angry wit her and her friends nerva talk 2 her.in 2002 i got reg @ NAIRALAND.in phone section i learn a lot cheats code.then i needed office to start up mobile pimpin she pay for it wit her school fees.the first laptop i ever use in my lif was bought by her.i combine all wat i learnt in nairaland phone section 2 achive somethin in my life.then i creat my own opera min called SOLIBAY wich give me alot of moni.not anug to pay my belove gf and her famil wat there done to me.weeks later aft solibay i was able to hack mtn network.i was the first to bring in Ghana sin  for internet pc free brows.stil the first to go with GPOWER NAIRANDER to benin håck mtn for UNLIMTED FREE CALL LINE.which give me 6months contract in spain.gamsyol in espayol.now am leavin in austria happly.my belove gf naver lack.most nice school in nija.nice ride and al that.hers girlfr. nw love to be where she is.she is leavin big.so my advise to u is he might be me.dnt give up unless he dnt have fucture.

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I can't believe how gullible some men are.

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@Op,

You are obviously his cash machine, he even withdraw from u and lend out.

With gf like u who need 9-5.

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i bet he thought your a dumbo tut tut. i trust ma self what hungry nigga will extract cash off this chikk?? hes not born yet

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ur damn to generous, i hope he is paying back in kind, if not in cash

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A friend of mine has been bugging the life out of me with this complaint.after telling me the val gist,i told her that was it.no self respecting guy would do that.she said she just doesn't think it's enough reason to kick him out.i told her ok,let's ask NL people n see what they think.i think she's pretty convinced now the guy's a loser.i exceptionally like that 14 feb move.he will definitely get that special surprise.thanks people.

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What does dis ur guy do? why is he always broke. Abegii, i am not comfortable with him jare. be careful.

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I don't thnk you need anyone to tell you he's taking you for a ride.

Like most women ,I suspect you know ,but you're afraid of waking up to this fact/losing him.

I've had similar experiences & I had to wake up to smell the roses.

The earlier the better. Feb 14 sounds like a good date to dump his brokeass.

I won't be surprised there's a babe around the corner taking all his money. . . .

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Thats very good to hear at least for once lets chop their money,look at how unusual its sounding to them cos they're so used to spending ours.STINGY species

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Why complaining here, if a guy is doing this to you then 100,000 thousands women are already doing the same to men outside because women are known for that kind of stuff, if he is chopping you, he better chop am well.if I have the chance, I go come follow am chop and maybe even chop punnani join

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When a maga decides to pay, I alow dem pay until (s)he realises her/him-self. Same goes 4 u, kip paying until u can pay no more. From ur post, I tink he is a very nice guy, guess u r actualy paying him for being so nice.

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^^ your a pro trouble maker!!

@ poster you want advice from the guys on nl??

i feel sorri for u

oya lemme tell u wat u want to hear

the guy loves you- he's just broke and sees that u have money so he doesnt mind helpin u send it

he knows u enjoy seein him wear expensive stuff so only buys them to keep you happy

they dont normally buy presents where he comes from but its tradition he collects them

its all a symbol of love!

and then when the money pulls thru he starts to sing # oya na oya

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Why are the guys not saying anything?maybe you guys will help me understand.

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lol ok tha was rather insensitive

on a serious note

you shouldnt even need us to tell you

he sounds like the typical monkeys u can pick up in lagos nowadays

lookin for innocent women to prey on

abeg dont be desperate and silly

spend ur money on urself!

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hehehehe

#maga don pay shout hallelujah

mugu dont pay

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He didn't luv ,he is Tryin 2 eat u up

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