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Is Honesty Actually A Good Thing For U Ladies?

Hi,

I realiseed that some truths should neva be told a woman, well I learnt that the hard way! Just want to know if u could take, handle or appreciate the truth if ur guy ends up telling u something u were not expecting!

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Like the saying goes "Honesty is the best policy"

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Girls,get over your fantasies and let's face d truth,the truth is bitter and girls hate "bitter",as long as you can give them "sweet",you are still in d game.

Don't get me wrong,I'm not against the concept of "truth" but i believe a little "filtering" would be beneficial.

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Thanks everyone but we've focused so much on the past, past!! wat about the present like u tell ur babe or guy that presently for one reason or the other u're not really feeling them not because u don't love him or her which u should actually prove but wit wat u're experiencing @ dat moment u just need space or something like that,

guys remember women have crystal memories oh, they will remind u of dat wen things gooo zzzzzzzzzzz,

wat do u thing about the emotion thing?

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Honesty is not always the best policy. . . .sometimes, it's best he keeps shut!

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i believe in living my life well so that when the time comes, i don't have anything to hide and would want to hear your dirty attrocities. . .especially abt the girl you asked to have abortion in the past.

that's a no no. once you tell me that's the end of the relationship.

na better man go come better chic way, amen o.

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No ma'am, I think it's most people not just men. A woman can raise hell if you admit she has put on a few pounds. She forgets that she asked you first. In the end of course, you sleep on the couch while she stuffs her face in the kitchen and cries herself to sleep. I may have dragged that example a bit too far but you get the point.

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@jenny.

U dey craze jare,

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I have learnt from experience MOST men cannot handle the truth, so to save the "badaration" you just tell them what they need to hear, CASE closed.

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Tell the truth or lies the man who really wants you will. With or without a bad past

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well she really meant it,because d people interviewing her were like "shes misquoting d scripture" but she still held on to her words,d very first day she started harbouring d tots in her mind was whern she was 14 or so

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As much as the truth is the best to tell, it must be seriously noted that NOT ALL CAN HANDLE THE TRUTH. most especially the female folks.

A times, if u can't tell lies, just tell the person you dont know or something.

I once to a friend (girl) the truth about her supposedly boyfriend who was hitting hard on another girl in my office. . and the friend thought i was lying. . .she couldnt believe i was saying the truth. That ended our friendship. . .but at the end, she got to know I was saying the truth. . .but our friendship was gone into the wind then.

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so silly jare,and because of what d mum did,this guy got himself prepared to hear d truth some day,and when she told him he comforted her d right way,that was d day all d fear shes harboured all her life left her

its all about marrying a matured man wt brain,he wil def understand u as a woman

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True we all know how silly some men get.

 

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i said d same thing titi until d woman explained why she did it,it was better d guy knew before marrying her,instead of marrying her and then dumping her because of that,the girl might end up commiting suicide

after she told d man d story,she also told him to choose right now,and that God will bear her witness that she's told u one secret of her child,because its d most sensitive,choose now if u will still marry her or let her be

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exactly,if d gal comot them go begin suspect am

see d reason why most gals dont talk again is because some men r just to immature to handle tough situations,too foolish to believe their gals and help wipe away the hurt and pains off the poor girls heart and just too childish to hear d truth

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so that when he finds out himself . . he doesn't send her packing

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What a mother she was very brave!  

I would kill mine if she did that to me

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meanwhile after u talk finish dem no go fit sleep again

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if she did why not?what if it affects her womb and one of this aproko doctors tells her and her hubby after one test,she might end up loosing her hubby and marriage

infact such matters should be tabled before marriage

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exactly,this is d reason why most gals lie,because smtimes their partners force them,and just to get the guy off their case,they will just use d wind to blow lies into his ears

when i was in jss3 there is this friend of mine "chigozie" that was Molested in AGIP's maintainance house,although her hubby heard bout it, it was her mother that told him bout it,because she wanted the guy to know since d girl wouldnt just like say it like that

they got married and for 2 and half years this guy never asked her anything,until d day the day she finally decided to talk,d day she talked was d day she let go of the fears after so many years

some stories r better left untold till d right time,but i wonder why u men force and smtimes threaten girls to talk,oga ooo

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We all need our mental personal space. So you dont to tell your partner every dirt little secret just important things that could affect your life.

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Odi egwu! As if a man will tell you the truth. Men before they settle down have slept with loads and loads of women.

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no need to force. if she cares for you deeply and feels she can trust you with her life she will tell you her innermost fears herself.

I feel i have done a good job when my mate feels free to tell me even the most stupidest thing she's done knowing i wont hold it against her in future.

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and things that made an impact in their lives. . . very crucial!

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I totally agree. . .  for better or worse abi? nuthin shd be too terrible to hide frm ur life partner

how do u knw tho? how can u tell which relationship wld be short term and which wld be long term

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imagine a girl dat was Molested at age 12,u dont expect her to to start talking,cos molest alone is bad not to talk of it happening to a 12 yr old child

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And don't force your lover to share what he/she doesn't feel like sharing. It's not that he/she doesn't trust or love you, it just probably brings back hurtful memories.

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Oh yeah, definitely share if it is a long term relationship but I maintain my stand on short term relationships . . . sweet nothings en plus.

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when honesty becomes a problem its because there is something to hide.

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In a situation wher u hav agreed to share d rest of ur life with a person, it important that u knw each other completely. . . it is harmful in so many ways to the relationship if there r parts of ur life u r deliberately keeping away frm ur partner. . .  irrelevant as they may seem, sharing even d smallest detail wld help promote d closeness necessary for this kind of commitment.

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as with all things in life. . . . . . .it is always advisable to have a flexible approach#

As the situation requires, it might be pertinent to be, if not totally dishonest, but

at least fudge the truth and not blurt everything out in the name of being sanctimonious.

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Assuming. . . some people's love life would be perfect for horror flicks lol!! I don't want none of that.

No it ain't.

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Honesty trumps anything for me so i'm not too comfortable with the above.

You're not my mate if i cant feel free to tell you anything under the sun . . . of course that's assuming you've had a fairly responsible past though.

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My rule is for short term relationships, it doesn't matter, you'll break up in a matter of weeks anyway lol, for long term, you have to be extra careful. You have to be selective with the truth you tell. Some don't know the appropriate time to tell the truth and that always ends up in disaster. Some truths are not meant to be said at all because you fear it might sabotage the relationship. So if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't the right time to tell the truth.

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i feel like e-strangling dat old woman dat locked our thread

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@topic

I am an avid believer in the truth and I try to be honest with people in all I do. However, I have not always been the recipient of that favour. From past experience some pple cannot handle the truth and would rather be lied to.

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Girls hate it when you are honest with them but love so so much when you lie to them

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ok then can u tell me y the bad boys (liars) get the girls and the good boys remain single while the bad boys change girls

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Depends on what the truth is.

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