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Is Infidelity Enough Reason To End A Relationship?

A female colleague of mine often complains to me about her boyfriend's constant unfaithfulness to her. The first time she complained to me and asked for advice, i told her to be patient and talk to him about it. That was a year ago. I met her crying again at the office, when i asked her what the matter was, she said ''it's Kelvin again. I found several female undies at his place last weekend''

I told her to end the realationship, since he had refused to change. But to my greatest surprise She said  '' PokerFace darling, Unfaithfulness is not enough reason to end a relationship, you know'' I was like  ''What Da Hell did this lady just say?''

So, my people, Do you think unfaithfulness is NOT enough reason to end a relationship?

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Cheat on me once, shame on you. . . . cheat on me tw. . . . . hell nah, that first one is enough.

But thatz if I'm sure that he really did cheat. . . .

BTW, your friend needs to drop him like he's hawt.

Waaa gba yiiiiiiii

@ Ebonyeyes FANTASTIC QUESTION!!!!!! if it were the other way round, wld the guy end it? Yes he willl!!!!!!

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Absolutely it's enough to end a relationship. If you search the internet you'll find plenty of info to support that you should leave. one place you can get infidelity support www.cheatedon.org.

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What other reason do you need? Trust is core. without that there's effectively no relationship. However, xtians are taught to forgive. Go with your heart.

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@post

It is enough reason to end a relationship but of course their is the matter of 'forgiving someone you love'.

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Girls, don't settle for less than you deserve in a relationship!

If you are not married then why waste your time with a cheating boyfriend that you could replace?

YES, infidelity is more than enough justification to end a relationship. If the you are not enough for the guy now then you never will be! period.

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abeg make una no talk say i don talk pass my mouth o, make una ask the girl if she dey service d guy well (1), how often (2), sey she dey gree do wetin d guy tell am if dem dey do d thing (3), it may be d reason d guy is sticking his willyboy in anoda pot that is ready to go xtra mile to make her pot of soup taste sweet n always inviting, but 2 be frank, INFIDELITY-IS A ENOUGH REASON TO END A RELATIONSHIP. if i catch my girl once, please am done with that relationship. i always tell my girl that if she can play the game, she should but i MUST never know, cos that means the polarity will change. lol

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an affair is not forgivable- there is never any legitimate reason for one. only selfish excuses

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If we must stick with objectivity, then let us first begin by understanding that men differ from women in physiology, psychology and functionality. Based on this, male/female reasons for infidelity differ. We can be quick to make a black or white assessment but reality is seldom like this.Speaking as a cheat(at some time) and one who has been cheated on; I can say that cheating on the male side has to do more with an absence of sexual satisfaction. If you are not meeting your partner's needs sexually then its a bilogical consequence for him to find it elsewhere(If I can get Ice cream and Pizza at home, why would I want to go looking for Boli and Ground nut outdoors, feel me?).Though its a blow to the ego but its worth enquiring about from the other party i.e if the relationship is worth it of course.

I cant say much for the women folk but from my meagre interactions, i think a woman's cheating has more to do with an absence of affection, am willing to be corrected if am wrong.

Based on this, if one has put in extra effort so see that the other party is fufilled sexually/emotinally or affectionately and there seems to be little or no change, then it may be time to set-up shop elsewhere( p.S:I recommend leaving instead of taking revenge cos when u do,1. u are no better than this person 2. u ave lost moral grounds to complain or be consoled 3.most times the fufilment is just not there)

sorry for the epistle

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And who says it has never been the other way round? This thread should not be seen only from one perspective

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The fact that there are more men than women on earth according to census, does not mean men should go ahead and have extra-marital affairs, or go about cheating their partner.

IT IS A WRONG THING TO DO. Think of it, if it was the other way round, what would the situation be like?

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As it was in the begining (they were like this before we were born), and so it will ever shall be ( they are still like that now and it just going to be like that forever ),  world without,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, I guess all you ladies know the rest by now 

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its really baaaaaaaadddddddddd

That we r putting up with men's irresponsible acts.

I too caught my husband at it. And did nothing. Am still here in d marriage.

Wait a minute, did i catch him? Nope? I was told.

And u know what I did? I confronted him. But that has made me to (if u know wt i mean)

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Can you live alone for the rest of your life? What about those who are not lucky enough to know that their partner cheat on them until they acquire the disease and what about those who will never know till they die or only knew after the death of the man through his last will and testament . So what are you going to do NEXT?

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Lets not forget that it may be a ploy by the guy to get rid off her. She did say she found undies, not 1 but plenty. It sounds like it was all stage managed to get rid of her. If it not a marriage, which i doubt it is. Say bye bye and get rid of the freak. It is a real shame that the reputation Nigerian men have to have is one of serial cheater. Why is it that we can never get things right?

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Oh Boy! See advice jaburata! lmao

its easy to say, since u guys ar all on the outside.

Its only the pipu in d kitchen dat r feeling d heat! Wait till u get in same situation, ur perception will change. But its a shame women r always @ d receiving end in such situations.

My advice to all women--"the only way to minimize hurt when ur partner chooses to cheat on u is-- Do not give in to Pre-marital sex! But thats too hard, u claim " but i love him", love my Bottom. true love does not equate pre-marital s The general problem is --Women are too cheap! Even the so-called experience ones stil fall mugu to an heartrobber in the end.

This is the way of the world. Ladies , goodluck if u've found ur 'man', if not keep praying and searching.

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Poker face: It's possible ur friend does not know wat she wants and perhaps she enjoys crying otherwise she should hv put a stop to all the mess by calling such a sick relationship off.

Goodluck to her, she has enough tears to shed.

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its more than enough reason,

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What is funny is that the woman is complaining, why complain if its not enough to be unhappy about, infidelity is not just an act of unfaithfulness its a sign of disrespect, him being able to do it in your face is a show that he holds no regards for you, I don't know what women expect from such relationships, such men are more likely to physically and emotionally abuse you too, because they have no respect for you!

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@poster: obviously from the look of things (views from NL)

Your friend is the only one in Nigeria with a cheating spouse (my pontificate opinion)

based on the comment from here, it shows dat most NL's relationship's are free from infidelity.

so maybe you sud rephrase your question to read.

" Has anyone in this forum experienced infidelity in their current relationship?"

What step have they taken or they probably have not found out yet

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Yeah, infidelity is enough reason to end a relationship. Wat is good for the goose is also good for gander, the men will not tolerate there women cheat on them with another man, yet they enjoy doing it, it isnt fair.if you can cheat on ur spouse, it also implies u can kill him or her. cheating makes u vunerable to alot of external influences. know exactly wat u want and go for it. so that u dont searching for complimenting qualities elsewhere.

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YES !!!!!! YES!!!!!!! AND CAPITAL********** YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!****** VERILLY VERILLY I  SAID UNTO  U UNLESS SHE IS FAITHFUL .SHE CAN NEVER ENTER INTO RELATIONSHIP WITH ME

IT WILL ONLY TAKES GRACE OF GOD TO ALLOW  HER

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any relationship without faithfulnes is dead cos is d foundation is built on dat their mariage must surely hav probs bt what pains me is dat dey dnt know.

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If it will give you tears and you are not married , Yes. But if you are married, abstain from sex but keep the person around. He or she will understand the message

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gals that sleep around indiscriminately are ho's

we men love ho's, but as snoop and the dog pound said, "you can't make a ho a house wife"

take them to the club, the movies, the pub, the carribeans, but don't wife them.

we love dem ho's but we don't wife dem b4 they start cheating on us,

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when you talk about cheating. men are the only one's allowed to cheat.

women are not allowed to cheat unless of course you married a ho,

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Its not enough reason to break up

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2009 global population statisics show 3,442,850,573men vs 3,386,509,865women. differnce of 56,340,708

nigeria stats show 77,547,502 men vs 77,181,390 women difference of 366,112

http://www.geohive.com/earth/pop_gender.aspx

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For a relationship (dating, courtship) YES Sad Sad

The only place when you can forgive and give another chance is in marriage, but if he continues then we head to court Angry Angry cos I can't share my man with another, never Lips sealed Lips sealed Lips sealed.

Agreed, persistently unrepentant wf/hsb shld b dropped.

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in as much as i understand the feeling of the partner that feels cheated, can he be truthful about some actions or in actions as serious as cheating on his/her partner that he/she may have engaged in? or is it the 11th commandment 'do not be caught'. if we understand that we are in an imperfect r/ship,can't we find other reasons ( desirable characters the culprit has) that can help wipe away this tot of ending a r/ship.just as one might have been unfaithful sometime, a partner may fall into the pit of unfaithfullness. can you think of some factors that forced one into this unpalatable act? no excuses for the serial cheats though

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of course yes. it's a very good reason to a relationship no matter how many years the relationship has lasted

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This is like the most silly question I have seen on Nairaland. It made frontpage too, beyond shocking!

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This is a lie from hell.

With all the actions going on you will expect to see bodies everywhere but you dont. Where do you dream up all these from bro?

Some mistresses actually believe this kind of thing- that they can breach a secured marriage or relationship to earn themselves a place.It hardly happens and when it does it is not always because of intimacy with a third. Check it out there is always other reason

Se.x is a purely physical activity. Affection is emotional. It is wrong to assume they are always mutually inclusive of each other.

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@ topic,

Infidelity- The quality of being unfaithful by either s.ex. A man cheats because of another woman, a woman cheats because of another man. For me it isn't a question of who does it more''bad tin na bad tin'' cos one will find a companion who shares similar promiscuous ideals along the divide. My question has always been this: why can't the seemingly disadvantaged womenman's world some say refuse or stop in their tracks when they discover the cheating trait of the wooing suitor?

I can't excuse any man for cheating neither a supposedly civilisedas we like to claim chap who partakes in precambrian acts of the Neandertal era. Nevertheless, if women who in coming together see fit to condenm as abominable such lascivious act then the other woman partakerit takes two for infidelity to thrive as much as culpable.

An unwitting single lady gets chased by a married man, gets led through the stages and then she discovers, game changer(think about all the necessary outcomes). It is in the hands of this lady to move on, keep her self esteem and tell the man to go to his wifewhat will most do?

Imagine a world where cheating men are told to their faces when discovered, '' go to your wife''. Until women begin to respect themselves and put the other woman in the man's house first then and only then will cheating men begin have no leverage to cheat.

Just say NO and you'll have men in check.

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Love is a Scam. Simple

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offtopic - how is it that women forget their undies in a guys place, or are they simply marking their territory?

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Yes it is a good enough reason, both biblically. Or if u would like to play the devil`s advocate, do your own too! Or dont u have other admirers?

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The SECURITY of a COUPLE depends on their FIDELITY.

Anyone who cheats on you can as well kill you.

Let me be very blunt, because if anyone truly loves you he or she will never cheat on you.

Infidelity is an act of betrayal.

Adultery is treachery.

Imagine a young woman who was homeless and starving and a single man took her in to provide for her.

Then she met another man and slept with him within 48 hours without even asking for a drink. Whilst she was sleeping with the new man, the boyfriend was waiting for her, because she lcoked the door to their flat and went away with the keys to sleep with another man.

I was dumb founded when I saw her telling lies to her boyfriend.

She was one of my models and I dismissed her on that very day for cheating on her boyfriend.

A young woman once called that she wanted to see me at my place at 10 pm.

"Have you told your boyfriend?"

The boyfriend is a good friend.

"No," she replied.

"Please, tell him and let him escort you," I said.

She did not come again and she never tried again.

Another young woman asked for money to register for a contest and I told her to let her boyfriend know.

"I don't want him to know, because he would not allow me to go for the contest," she said.

"Well, I cannot give you any money without his knowledge," I replied.

She left and stopped talking to me for a while.

Two months later she returned and wanted to flirt. But I showed her the photograph of my woman and told her how much I loved my sweetheart.

She sighed and left.

Temptations will come. But you can turn your back on cheating and lying.

Your life is worth saving than some temporary pleasures of sexual intercourse.

If you know you cannot be faithful to your partner, please make it clear and be free in an open relationship of free love.

Love is not by force.

Infidelity kills.

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infidelity is not love,wether in courtship or marriage, if u cheat on me,u dont love,and no reason whatsoever justifies infidelity.

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Looking at most of the posts here, it is clear that this is really an immoral generation. The generation that run after the inclination of their evil minds,Hell is the end point for all immoral fellows.Even thought the ratio of men to women is 1:100 ,is not enough reason to be unfaithful to your partner.Do you even know that it is the abnormal mind set of men  that is prompting God to unleash curses on the earth hence so much evils befalling the world.Repent today and be Heavenly minded.What shall profit you if you enjoy all the beautiful ladies on earth and perish in hell fire. Be wise

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as much as we are entitled to free will we nd to learn to control our mouth n oppinion, INFIDELITY IS ENOUGH REASON TO END A RELATIONSHIP MOST EXPECIALLY THESE WILLFUL GUYS WHO GO ABOUT JUMPING FROM ONE GIRL TO ANODA. ANY LADY WHO IS NOT BOLD ENOUGH TO DUMP AN INFIDEL GUY IS INSECURE AND LACK SELF ESTEEM. LADIES FOR CHRIST SAKE BELIEVE IN YOURSELVES AND HOLD YOURSELVES IN HIGH ESTEEM. STOP DEFINING YOURSELVES BY A GUY OR GUYS OPPINION.

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Life itself is a gamble! Tell your friend to dump

him and move on to the next cheat!!!

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GBAM!!!

People that don't have self worth go for so much less than they deserve, and with silly excuses too.

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GBAM!!!

People that don't have self worth go for so much less than they deserve, and with silly excuses too.

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Cheating if not good,but then hey it can happen to you,so don't be too hard on your man or woman when he or she cheats,the only rreason is that what he or she saw was too tempting to resist.

Do you know how many beautiful ladies we pass by each day on the street? Or how many rich guys that approach a woman each day? Is not easy,especially when one is not too bouyant financially your na im be say Nigas go chop your love

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in terms of friendship, it depends on the kind of mind one will have for his/her patner.

buh if that happens in terms of marraige. . . Omo na final whistle be that!

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^^I meant in an event where it does happen. Condoms break don't they.

What has education got to do with it?? <<shaking my head!>>

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