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Is It Bad For A Man To Be Emotional?

Is it bad for a man to be emotional? Explain your answer.

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Hells no!!

I am bleeping emotional. Not too long ago I was in such a predicament that when I saw my girlfriend of over 3 years, I broke down and cried my heart out. And that was one moment in my life I will never forget.

Emotions are good as long as you know when to keep it in check and when to let it out.

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Any and everybody can be emotional. Just pray never to meet predicaments higher than you. Simple.

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sure why not.a guy can be emotional WHEN the situatiom permits.thats all.at least he is not an iron

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Men should never be too emotional. It is the man's job (especially the Black Man) to be the strong individual in the relationship. He must be resilient at all times.

It is a sign of weakness when a man cannot somewhat contain his Love and his Emotion when necessary. What it means is that does not have control. If he cannot maintain control of his own heart and soul, then he will not prosper in Love or in anything else.

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im a cancerian, and part of our quality is emotions. It aint bad, bt being too emotional is bad.

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no being a sensitive man is a good thing

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When he's emotional, I'm reminded that he's human and not a robot lol

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hey, i think it's bad. Well, actually i got this date. he is really great guy, good bkgrd, grad from good college, good career, and we seems have endless topic to talk to. however, he is really really emotional. there's nothing wrong with him, but i just can't go out with him anymore, i m a lil bit scared by his emotion.

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Am thinking that a better word would be EXPRESSIVE. Saying a man is emotional in a guy's mind makes him think 'sissy'. I think u ladies should start saying 'I want an expressive man' instead of 'I want an emotional man'.

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its not right for a man to be emotional rather HE should be Rational

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In my opinion,a man,especially a mature man, should not be very emotional,and he should control his emotion in public,some friends had even mentioned before,a man with strong emotion looks like sissy.

However,we can show our real emotion to our girl friends or wife,or our parents, children and friends who are so close to us, but just certain emotion,not too much!Why,suppose you are a man,when you are angry and your girl friend wish to comfort you,but you even roar her,yeah,that's one kind of emotion expression,but,how about her feeling?will she feel good and crave for that?

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ata-rodo (my partner in crime- it's a childhood joke, think little girls feeling like naija spice girls: atarodo & tatase, long story+ it's really silly) actually exists on NL but under another identity.

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a man always have emotions but he's strong enough to conceal them from the woman or discard them when they come.

but a woman doesn't know how to hide or discard them feelings which makes them look very weak, though it's good for a man to be emotional only ones in a green moon.

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I agree.

As far as the crying:

I feel bad saying someone shouldn't be able to show their emotions (or cry) just because of their gender. I think there are times when it's ok to cry but the other day I saw some men crying on Moments with Mo because of their obviously unhealthy relationships had ended and I won't lie, it made me very uncomfortable (to me it was like take it home to your mom).

But at the same time, no one wants a man that is emotionally dead and cold. I think it's nice when a guy keeps the emotions between the two of you and when its not so all the time with the grand displays of emotion that it becomes Tatase and her crying boyf. Please o guys don't take this as excuses to be shites to girls. I think a guy can be sweet without being over-emotional.

between, I don't think its sissy-ish for men to cry, i just think maybe it's not really my taste. I know girls who like boys that are emotional in this way though, so if you're a big crier take heart, there are ladies out there for you.

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Emotional or not,

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-208028.0.html

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It's too emotional fam

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I like emotional but strong men. Emotional in that he can tell me his feelings not emotional as in tears during Notebook o!

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there is nothing wrong with it

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I agree with the person who said he should keep his emotions to the bedroom.

Sometimes we frown at things we shouldn't frown at.

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Emotions are expressed at different times but a man must learn to control his emotions. after david wept til strenght had finished, he encouraged himself in the Lord and I think that's what we men should do. you can cry but dont exceed the elastic minute when a woman who started the cry with u would start consoling you. there is a time to cry and not too and such is life cos we are emotional beings. just using crying as a guide but emotions can be expressed in other ways too.

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I think the real issue is wat sorts of emotions (and to wat length) are permitted to be publicly shown by men cos I mean anger is an emotion but no one calls an angry man emotional.

Bursting out in tears in public mite make a man look like a weakling while shouting n bragging makes him look strong or in control all the while we are dealing with different spectrums of the emotional scale.

My opinion, a man should not become a woman becos he wants to show he has soul but he should also not deprive himself of self expression becos he wants to please society.

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There is absolutely nothing wrong in a man showing his emotions, especially to a woman he loves. If the woman thinks hes a sissy, and the woman wants a "strong" man, then the woman prolly doesnt deserve the guy, let them find their way. This is why some men feel the only way to get respect is by treating women like crap, and there are some low self esteem women who will not respect a man if he doesn't treat em anyhow, but thats a dysfunctional relationship anyways.

I know guys that put up this macho mask, and then go and cry on the laps of some other chick who isn't their wife or gf, so who is deceiving who?, and then guess what happens to ur marriage or relationship in the long run,

Lets all be real abeg, screw society, be your self, if u want to scream scream, if u want to be vulnerable to ur chick, do so, if she doesn't like it, move on with ur life. and get another girlfriend.

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a man has got to be strong

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If a man is too emotional it makes him seem sissish.

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When did crying ( by a man) became a 'sin'? EVen my Lord Jesus wept.

So who is common man that he cannot do likewise?

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bplease, you are a man.

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I recently had this conversation with a great friend of mine and was very disheartened that he thinks a man who shows emotions is weak. This is preposterous.

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being emotional, especially if it regards the one you love. Showing emotions in no way denotes weakness. It wouldn't decrease your manhood by an inch, neither would it lower you as a person.

I would rather entrust my heart to guy who doesn't mind "tearing up" every now and then( it's also a great stress releaser), than to one who portrays himself a stoned-hearted.

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An emotional man is a very silly man! Women love jerks and insensitive Men! It makes them feel secure and safe. Its the Alpha Male attribute thy crave for!

In fact a little smacking here and there should make the girl fear and respect you the more!

The more you feel all broody, cool and emotional to her, the more she tries to dominate you and put you down!

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speak for yourself,, strong man

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Hmmm, he should be,I pray he doesnt show it too much.

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Emotions for a man are signs of weakness.also it tends to make influence your decisions.street is military you have to be a soldier.

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1 more thing getting to emotional can preassume weakness or sissy as d others have said but atleast men should have emotions , feelings

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Haha you want your man to be a Dam-man

That's bad

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Well i guess the Topic will be changed from "Is it bad for a man to be emotional"[/b]to [b]Men should be less emotional

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its not bad for a man to be emotional

but like some of you already said

a man should be more emotional than a woman

u cant cry more than me, your suppose to be my comforter

whos gonna comfort when we are both cry *like duh*

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it's not bad for a man to be emo, but naija guys overdo it. naija is the only country in the world where guys like westlife as much as girls.

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hell nah its not bad but 2much is weird but it is really good to let things out somtimes

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So a sensitive man isn't a "man"? Nothing wrong with a man shedding a tear or two.

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LOL well i guess most of us so far think the same, lets see how the succeeding posts will be

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I did make my point as in i consider them sissies

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I agree. . .being too much emotional makes him a sissy

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I agree with you, but I believe a man should be less emotional

than a woman.

I don't mean to sound sexist, but a man being too emotional? Well,

he might be perceived as a boy.

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Emotions are very strong and when it comes to emotions i don't believe in sex discrimination, men too can be emotional and i don't think there's anything wrong with that

it doesn't reduce his worth as a man or make him a sissy

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not bad but not too emotional, cos then he's a sissy.

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some see emotional guys as gay or sissies guess dats why many are pimps and players. i aint emotional but i can care. it aint bad but let him not be a damn woman.

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