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Is It Good For A Woman To Pay Her Bride Price To Help Her Lover?

i think it is good because the man may not be financially okay to bear the whole expenses.

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Its not cumpolsury to pay it

thats the point

its just the whole ceremony thats fun!

the woman has no gain in the bride price

shes not gna spend it!

some bride price doesnt even include money

just some yam and palm oil

its the ceremony that comes with it that i love!

lolz

some people are full of shizz

but thats for anoda day!

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If that's what the couple decide, then yes, she can assist her man with the bride price. I see no reason why we should always adhere so strongly to what we call tradition, in all cases. I also feel our ladies have "selective preference" when it comes to tradition, using it only when it suits them to do so.

My parents were married for almost 30 years, and no bride-price was involved, bride price does not guarantee a stable, blissful marriage, the people in the marriage do.

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under a good arengment; which supose to be so, the woman can give the money to the husband tobe without our knowledge; think of Solomom & Queen Sheba. (read the bible)

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it's not good for a woman to pay her bride price, if the guy cannot afford it she should ask her family to waive it but she shouldn't give the guy the money. i don't like this bride price thing, it's like selling your child. thankfully we don't have 'elders' in my family, everyone minds their nuclear family's business; so my parents would be the ones to decide.

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With our goatie/bear bear packin  Dust

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Wa gba yii me self i go over porstrate anything that will mke me acceptable and make my Queen happy.

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At the end of the day, you guys will still lie on the ground for the bride's family.

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rofl this bawo is a character.

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does that include western clothes and using the internet?

i personally think all these tradition talk is just plain crap.   most of you women won't accept a polygamous household where ifa was worshipped (oh wait is Christianity traditional?)

peroxide - sharrap with your simping self.

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Ok mo she gbadun ehn sin, thanks for your explanation.

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Truth be told sugarpoo, don't be disappointed. I personally enjoy haing a laugh at the holes in people's logics when I can, just for kicks if I have nothing better to do. I honestly will pay bride price if I have to, no problem. If there is such a thing as an archetypal, authentic African man who has no quandaries following customs/traditions with a real African woman that understands her values and tradition, I am it. I'm with follypimpi in that I only have a problem when women who are all feministic and all of a sudden remember "tradition" when it comes to bride price and other money issues.

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Bawomolo, me no fit argue with anybody tonite. Omo jeje Lemi. H202's answer ti te mi lo run. Maybe someone else can engage you tonite, but it ain't gonna be me.

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H202, you and chic2pimp dey dissapoint me ooh. H202 na you especially dissapoint me, I believe you are Yoruba, paying brideprice is part of our tradition. With the way people are embracing western values, if we lose the little things that differenciates us from other countries, then I believe we have lost an inherent part of ourselves. I am definitely not a commodity, but whoever I marry must follow tradition and pay my bride price. Money does not have to be exchanged, tubers of yam, plastic bowl, palm oil and whatever else tradition dictates is enough for me.

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so you won't mind being in a polygamous relationship?

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@ fifi09

thanks, you can edit the email now, can i buzz you on yahoo ?

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Because they are too damn cheap! LMAO!! I'm support of the bride price and everything else that comes with it. You guys better do it to the last letter.

You shouldn't jump to conclusions too quick darl. Major turn off.

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quick question for the i'm so traditional women.

are you down with polygamy? shebi we are now traditional

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I am not denying just saying the plain TRUTH.

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@follypimpi thanks for that injection about casual sex. true stuff.

these girls love speaking with both sides of their mouths.

the inconsistencies of nigerian women are a huge turn off.

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according to some traditions

they do!

how about that!

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I don't date Nigerians and I suppose for the younger men believe they can have intimacy with her whenever they like even when she doesn't feel like it. I mean, she's his wife so it's not like he's despoiling her or anything.

Of course you all will deny it lol. I've heard stories lol.

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Buhahahaha in what century ?? I really don't care if she serve the food with her a$$ up in the air,once she's God fearing & well behaved,nothin do us both.

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So you would let your husband-to-be sleep in the bush?

By the time you wake up next morning, desperate spinsters woulda banged his brains out.

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you have never been to an engagement ceremony before?

ha nice shot at the casual relationship crowd

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Funny how some ladies remember tradition when it comes to bride price.

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ROFL!!! You know what, I kinda like that lol. Can you make him sleep in the bushes or something?

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It's a way of showing the groom values the bride.

They will set a certain price, make him prostrate(Yoruba Tradition) and go through a lot of "military drill" before handing the bride over to him.

I dunno how that is expected to stop the divorce rate/infidelity in marriage but they believe in it anywayz.

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^^ its not commodity

its tradition

certain things are done when certain things are done

u give gifts to people to show u appreciate them dont u??

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Good to see there's still a large amount of women waiting HAPPILY and EXCITEDLY to be bought.

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So we're still buying wives like they're properties?

No wonder they're treated this way.

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^^ it depends

its a more traditional thing so im guessin if u dont do trad or go to the village u wont need to pay

my parents had to dish out almost 100k wen my uncle was gettin married IN KOGI

i was dazed!!! GREEDY PIGS

im not sure if its cos we are 'special' or if its the norm!

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how much or what is considered a bride price today anyway.

for someone who got married recently what did you have to pay?

was it money food cloths how much did you spend in total

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What's the purpose of the bride price again?

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no

it is mad disrespectful for u to even suggest that!!

take that away from ur hed!!

if u canno0t afford the bride price just get married in the nearest registry

with a 'small' amt of family members

u dont need to do the full trad until u can afford it

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Lai Lai!!

If the only option is stealing . . .He should.

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Some families that demand the equivalent of a state budget for brideprice nko?

So the groom should save for 30yrs to pay by that time the bride would be menopausal

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Let her not pay it and see . She will grow all kinds of white grey hair waiting for me in father's house, nonsense . Hisssssss !

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it is good as far as she love his guy.

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I don't think is wise for a woman to pay her bride price thats a man's responsibility. If a woman tries that the man will not value the woman, if he doesnt hv he should try to pay that even if is to borrow, is paid once not twice, This is Naija

but in preparation the woman can come in.

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fifi09, please how can i contact you ?

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lolz

no formin here

if the money is plenty why not share?

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i laugh in japanese

cos these fools are funny

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