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Is It Good To Be A Single Woman?

Statistics show that around the world, the number of unmarried women is growingly steadily and economists predict it will continue to do so.

The TV series "Sex and the City" helped change the image of the single woman in her 30s from one of a lonely desperate spinster to a woman who is in charge of her own economic and sexual destiny.

But what is it like being a single woman in Africa today?

Are single women still seen as social failures, or do men find women with successful careers too intimidating to date? That's the view of Nigerian writer Shola Dada. Do you agree?

If you are a single woman over 30 in Africa, do you feel socially stigmatised? Or, if you are a man, would you hesitate to date a woman over 30 who's successful in her career

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some like it some don't.

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There is nothing wrong with being single.it depends on how some women see it.From my own opinion being single could be fun

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@ Poster,

I have been single for 20 over years and I love it and now that I am in a relationship for 1 year plus now, I am loving it as well. So I think it all depends on individual I guess

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Is it good to be a single African woman? NO.Though social, economic and financial comfort might say otherwise, I believe a single woman does not feel complete. Though she might say otherwise. The real question is why stay single. Is by choice or by design. By choice, I would say misguided, change your thoughts,, , by design, I would say change the design, it is okay to run in the opposite direction. A lot of men are not intimidated by successful women.

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Lets face it,man who feels threatened by a successfull single woman are failures in life themselves and will be more comfortable being with a woman who they can tramp and trash. Stigmatising single woman in their 30s is a sure sign of narrow-mindedness.There is more to a woman than having babies and cooking and any man who understands this would give his woman freedom to make her choices,one of them being the choice to or not to marry at any age.iam for sure attracted to successful single women

WILSON CHENGETA

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Missy B, you should be current now, don't tell me you re timid about this; go to any hospital, the doctor always come out with 10 BBGs and 1 BBB average. Come to the church, they rejoice more with BBGs than BBB. Come to my secondary school class; 45 girls and 13 boys, the same in the UNIs. Go to Oshodi market etc, its real; forget Nigerian census, if you are looking at it from their.

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Let me ask these question, are some women born to be single? because, to every male born there is 10 females; and no body is doing polygamy again. Therefore, it is obvious that some women must stay single; but its a bad idea because most of them don't feel happy in it. Thank God, I am not a woman; and to the shy guys who is affraid to toast, you should understand that women really need you and you will be a minus if you don't try it, so dont be affraid to toast the queen of England. Lets join hands and reduce the number of single women.

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A woman's opulence can sometimes daunt men.

Only men within or above her staus can walk up to her for

a relationship.Failure for these men to come by might

lead to her being single.Sometimes she is even too busy with work

to socialise and of course men wouldn't come up

to her bedroom to ask her out.

While in other cases,some of these women voluntarily

made the decision of being single.

IS IT GOOD TO BE A SINGLE WOMAN?

Every individual will have to answer that for themselves.

If at a point in my life I decide to remain single. . . Then

good for me as long as I don't become a nuisance to the society,

I'm as good as every other married woman.

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bwauhahahaha! a call to action!

lest save the ladies some disgrace

bull poo i say

the idea of women being more than men is true

but saying men should hook up to "reduce the number of single ladies"

is both laughable and demeaning

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its good either way

one has to find the attraction in it

either way i love being single

dont mean i wouldnt get hitched sometime

but while am single, im loving every moment of it

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BEEP!!! Wrong

The African soceity is family-oriented

Women that choose to be single are seen as weird, hence the pressure from the family

The joy of the average african is only topped when he/she sees all his/her children 'settled'

And do I have to tell you the african definition of 'settled'??

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Being single in Africa is no different from being single in any other part of the world. I do agree however, that its harder for a highly educated lady holding a well paying job to get a partner. That said however, there is a change in the way men relate with women in this mordern world. Some men are begining to realise the improtance/advantage of having a partner who is an equal but this will take a while before its fully accepted in some parts of Africa.

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WHY? WHY? WHY?

Give me a break! Saying it's bad is just another form of scare tactics guys use to have the upper hand. It's comes right after "Men are Scarce" and before "No other man will want you". . . Yeah, right rolls eye

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If you are single, enjoy it and when you get married, you enjoy that too. Simple.

What's the point of lamenting about where you are?

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Unequivocally - Yes and No.

Yes - I can dictate how and where all aspects of my life should go without having to consider anybody if I don't want to. I can cook when I feel like it, wear whatever the heck I want to wear and be however I want to be - loud and brash or quiet and stately or just chic/sophisticated without having to hide my opinions. There is something rather liberating about not having to worry about a husband and children and being able to go on trips and order your own finances.

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No - The loneliness is disheartening even when you have great friends. There is only so much a best friend can do for you as a female or even a male best friend if you guys will never be an item. God created human beings to love so that yearning will always be there.

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I find career women over 30's very interesting and fascinating. I love thier independence and some are very focussed. Well men who feel intimidated just have a complex problem. I think they are challanging and compelling. I love meeting them.

Stigmatising them is ignorance. Moreover, unless women accept polygamy, let's face the fact that women outnumber men therefore I cant see every woman having a man. Check Isiah 4:1

It is not bad being single

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I actually have a thing for Independent Women,

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I think still stigmatized

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