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Is It Hard To Remain Faithful?

Is it hard to remain faithful?

Fidelity is one of the things most people see as necessary for a successful marriage or relationship.

But the reality is that sometimes people cheat which leads to heart break or break ups.

BBC Africa Have Your Say will be looking at infidelity, affairs and adultery on Tuesday 6th May at 1600 GMT.

Have you cheated on your partner? Has your partner been unfaithful to you? Have you been responsible for someone cheating? Or have you forgiven a partner for cheating?

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I don't know why people just keep blaming it on sex as if it is a food or some sort. As far as am concerned inadequate sex in marriage couldn't and shouldn't be the motivation for infidelity, if we keep going around for it because our man or woamn is not performing as we wanted then we just keep contracting and spredaing the scourge. We all should just learn to be discipline as we claim to be preaching in our RELIGIOUS HOUSES. As much as i know this churches are not adding anthing to our moral

We are Over Sexualized today to a point were so many, marry for the sake of only having sex. When the excitement is over, its always time to look for 'New Fish in the Ocean.' This results in broken homes/families, loss of society values, no parental guidance etc. It is very possible to be faithfull and have a successfull marriage/relationship. Our biggest problem is that we have turned marriages/relationships into social clubs where we subscribe, to satisfy our selfish motives and leave anytime.

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wow, dat makes u cheap then, if u are screwing d cheap ones

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In our modern way of life now,one can say that 100% of women do cheat on their male counterpart,because you will find a particular girl (single) having over ten boy friends at a time just becos of money,while those married women wants to cheat on their husband by friending those young boys,then the so called married men do go after those young girls.The answer is simple faithfulness is very difficult to practise,people will always say what you didnot do.

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@trOE

I am really sorry if i sound as if my comments are always right.

i only said that being faithful is a function of your ability to control yourself and not determinant on your love for another.

you are a lady and you might say its easy, but i know how difficult it is for even pastors. the bible didnt say flee from fonication for nothing

i still accept that it could be easy for people who have a higher ability to control themselves.

there is a real world out there, most of us come here and advice people base on how they feel things should be but not how it actually is in the world.

abeg no vex with me

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There is nothing hard about it. if you love ur partner then you'll forever remain faithful.

I thing it is easy.

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hey girl, why will I bother myself since am seeing them so cheap. oh girl wise up

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and u, u no dey think dey join am. u , u no know anything if u no know this one

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To God be the glory. if its hard me i no no and if its not hard me I no no because me i dey f**k dey go. hahaha

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its not hard b4 ooooo, but temptations dey

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i do believe it is hard to stay faithul, it is a lot of work and sacrifices that is invested on this concept. be you a man or a woman, it is hard and monogamy isnt making things easier. how about allowing those who can be polygamist be? those who dont want to, wont have to! primate(human included) were not made to be mogamist! but a relationship with a loving person is very fulfilling than one with many people but not real love involved. to each their poison!!

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goes both ways hun . . .alot of men are just too greedy and neva content.

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for every bad guy there are at least 2 good guys. The problem is women dont really know what they want, inevitably they end up with men who have no interest in being faithful just for the thrill of being with a bad boy.

you reap what u sow.

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not all men are guilty of this. There are plenty of men out there who have enough discipline to keep themselves for their woman only. Women always want to eat their cake and have it; if you want the "bad" boy then dont be shocked when he cheats on u.

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being faithful is not in my Vocabulary,

Define faithful, cuz to be honest i rarely get it anyway,

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when caught . . they plead and plead and plead for forgiveness

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not hard at all when you truly love the woman.

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All about self control.

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Now, its not simple, and like one of the posters above, it does depend on your mindset, and how much that person means to you. If someone means the world to you, you will find it extremely difficult to cheat on them.

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It is the most simplest thing to do in this world!!!!!!!!!

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Nothin in life is easy. remaining faithful 2 one partner is hard, harder on the men though but everything takes d grace of God. Temptations will continue 2 come to every living human but it's how we handle it that matters coupled with all what "uspry" mentioned.

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uspry1

u have spoken well

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frank 3.16

You have a problem oh, a serious one for that matter, why are you trying to shove your opinion down to people throat. Your comment is always right but other aren’t!!!!!!!!!!Shio

There is nothing hard in staying faithful to your partner, only if you don't

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true word margin.dats y i say its a tin of d mind

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Pls Frank devil has no path in this , it is for you to take responsibility for your actions you have the power to be faithful cos if you love sumone very much then just determine to be faithful and zero your mind because it is possible , have you ever wondered why peopple dont sleep with their bros/sis , they just feel it is wrong so come to a point where you see unfaithfulness as something wrong

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if you dont love the person why then do you cry after you are caught and ask for forgivness.

being uinfaithfull is a function of your ability to control your self, some people have more self control than the others.

what is the function of the devil if people dont cheat on and hurt each other.

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It's very hard to remain faithful.

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@everyone who has just replied

What can you say to Guys who take cheating at their gf as fun? but they love their gf so much,

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If there is love,you will be faithful

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Good point welli, and its only take the grace of God for one to remain faithful,mind you nothing good comes easy.

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der's nuttin hard in being faithful.its all about ur mind set.cum to think of it,wot's d essence of cheating

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If you truly love your partner, then cheating wouldn't be an option.

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