I am just confused at this point in time.
here is a guy i met six(6) months ago. he did not specifically asked me out, we started as friends and then the romance started. he told me immediately that he wants to marry me, a month after, i needed to travel home to see my parents and he promised to drop me. i then used the opportunity to introduce to my mum and my siblings. he had also introduced me to his parents.
my problem with him now is that he doesn't tell me he loves me, he seldom put emotions into anything we share. he acts sometime like he doesn't care. when i asked him what he feels for me he tells me he loves me and wants me. when i asked him why he doesn't show what he has for me he tell me "it not the loudest that matters but the purest. he'll rather tell me about the cheap clothes and perfumes i wear than him complementing me, infact i can't remember ever getting complements from him. all he gave me the first time i cooked for him are complaints and no gratitude.
he loves hanging out with his friends a lot, enjoys staying late outside, when i asked him, he said he can't stay home alone, that when he get married, he'll reduce the way he stays out late.
he seldom say sorry, and when he does, he will argue and give excuses before he will say sorry. he doesn't believe in us seeing so often (i really do not mind cos i hate been chocked), he doesn't really ask me for advise/contributions, he'll rather take his mum's and Friend's
I'm just scared if it's healthy going into real commitment with this kind of guy with all these attitudes of his. m not sure if it will be a big deal later in future cos i honestly don't feel loved or respected.
i think he really wants me, he presents me well amongst his friend, he doesn't womanize, he's not a drunk (a 33cl beer bottle at a seat/day), he's not really a strong person spiritually but he's struggling to be better (i am not a very strong person too but we are both struggling to be better).
i am someone that believes in talking issues out, but it has never solved any of the issues. i really hate being a nag and now I'm already tired of complaining, so i keep most thing he does to myself now.
i try my best to be good looking, hardworking (with a fairly good job) and a good girl. don't know if he's testing me or that's just his real attitude.
most people that knew him before we met, told me m lucky to have him, that he's such a good, caring man. i really don't know what to do. most nights i weep before sleeping cos m such an emotional person.
i wonder how 6yrs of my marriage with him will be if 6months of our relationship is already like this.
i need your urgent assistance, please.