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Is It Ok To Date An Engaged Man?

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Should you continue to date a guy who's committed to marry someone else even though you're obviously both in love with eachother?

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Yes u can date a man that is engaged,after all mistresses and husband-snatchers do that so i see no reason why you can't.and for the record am not branding you as those.(Who am i kidding).

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Some questions some Niggas post here are just ridiculous!, are u serious? Ask your 5-year old cousins these questions instead of going through the trouble of typing.

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A man is engaged to marry another lady,what are u doing with him?May be u are only good as second best.No maid of mine shall such a duty owe.

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hell no. why on earth would you date someone who is with someone else? when yo found out he was dating someone else you should have moved on. have you no self respect?

you people tell me i generalize about nigerian loving to cheat- look at the damn question and the responces

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hehe, problem. sincerely people need to understand the reason for dating. ask urself, why are u dating this guy, shagging, money or because ur hoping he would one day break up with his would be wife and marry you? Even though not all relationships end in marriage, i think dating should head towards marriage. Most people date persons they cannot marry, why?

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Why should a girl date an engaged man; is it that there are no single men out there? Or she loves wasting valuable time

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My dear he is only using u and will soon dump u. He is not in love with u,n so go hook ur man and stop wasting ur time

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so let the others go homeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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I want Brazil to win

and maybe Angola

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Well, Zarah and mama put share same veiw, which is the reality of life. its one thing to say this and do anada. i commend you for atleast speaking your mind, the truth and what you feel is right.

But come to think of it, its really not okay and its unfair to date an engaged man or is it one thing to be engaged and another thing to be married?

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good talk my dear, good talk!!!

I hate it when women say sh*t like i can't walk out of my marriage cos of the kids, or cos divorce is not an option, yet cry themselves to sleep every nigh.

life goes on damn it, besides you CANNOT force a man to love you, so once he begins acting up cos he's fallen out of love with you, it's time to move on.

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Am speaking for myself.

No woman will pack in here na me get the flat.

He has to move out and that also is fine by me.

Win some lose some.

He started it .Am not about to go fighting or crying after a man.

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Hell no. Not Right or Ok

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Well we are talking about if it is ok and not if it is a fact.

I do not find it ok.

I will not dump a boyfriend or husband because he is sleeping with another woman. But just maybe i will pay him back and i will let him know because i will do it in a way he will find out and know i was not even hiding

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what Zarah, says is not ok but it is a fact..

The world has not changed. (Not in Nigeria)

Its only when the not wife starts making demands but she can always become a second wify

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what a load of chickenshit!!!

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Seun, please help me understand why you remove every thing that i post, or is this forum restricted to certain people and their opinions ONLY?

lemmi know o, so dat i will stop wasting my time to write anything, but sit aside and read wat ur chosen few have to say.

you hurt me man.

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@Zarah

Girl, you are a girl, right? You must be one cynical dish! and by dish, i mean you must be an attractive lady (if a lady) who got "worsted".

That or you are simply having the time of your life answering this rather curious post. ie. you're on the same side as Busta

As per the "rhetorical question" on whether it is wrong or right to date some dude who's eating his cake and having it for the time being and sowing the seeds for generations long worth of pain and disenchantment/disillusionment - well, you have only one life to live and life is so bloody short, feel free cos nothing anyone says here is goig to change your mind unless you really do wish to.

Folk tend to underestimate the gravity of the liitle things they do today. We all wonder why the world is such a "bent" place but the simple (actually, not so simple!) act of self-discipline and holding yourself accountable to yourself and to a higher being (for the religious) seems to be such a resistable decision to make.

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its not good sha. that means the girls is good only for friendship not for marriage. the babe should look for a serious relationship not sowing where she will not reap anything

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na ma oh i cant do dat 4 any reason cos what ever u do may also b done 2 u too.well gone are d days when one didnt knw all these things.but knw we shuld stop .

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Bluemoon it ain't over till the fat lady sings! get get get it girl

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noo u'll end up wit a broken heart

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Girl leave the guy alone, he is quarter to marry and i don't think you would want to be rememebered as that girl who nearly spoilt someone's garri! these things have a way of back-lashing. so my advice is leave teh guy alone and lok for your own. As per teh love thing, i don't think teh guy really loves you, when push turns to shove he'd fall back into the arms of his fiancee not U!

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Are U kidding or what , imagine Urself being the person, he's engaged to. how will u feel if am dating him , NONSENSE PLS tell us full story,  no need to hide anymore,  some people are going crazy about DATE

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@ Zarah you are completely wrong, and ur analysis wrong too. Someone would not always sleep with ur husband, maybe thats ur mindset because of the guys u come across but i dont believe that for myself or even hope for it so do most girls. Then again did u even think of the girl getting a man for herself and not another persons man? Anyway u're a good adviser to must girls that are heading for heartbreaks. Remember Nigeria is not like America or other parts of the world. Most people want to save face/image/name. That guy is not going to leave his wife to be with her, she's just a side dish for now.

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zarah, i'm feelin ur flow baby!!

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If they claim 2 be in love nd the man is engaged, then obviously the man doesnt love u enof 2 cut of the engagement (no matter d reason). It just proves he might like u, but his fiancee has greater prority (cuz of watever reason). Nd in dat case, one shld feel really bad. Nd no matter d reason its still wrong

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There is nothing wrong with it jare.

Nobody has even bothered to ask for the circumstances surrounding the issue.

wat if you guys are in love and have been, but can't get married for one reoson or the other, and he has to marry for a reoson too, does dat mean you must break up just becos he is getting married?

even dating a married man is not wrong talkless of engaged man.

abi una neva see where groom no show up for church?

he isn't married untill he is married. so my dear enjoy urself and if he does go ahead and get married nothing dey happen just keep loving till u too marry.

the only wrong r/ship is the one btw a man married to another woman with a woman married to another man.

and for those who say wat goes around comes around. i say haha.

someone will always sleep with ur husband anyway. if u like let him be the only man u v eva dated.

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Its not. Wat goes around, comes around. If u do, someone might sleep with ur fiancee wen u guyz are engaged. Dat aint a nice feeling.

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Its sad because only one person is in love the othse is lieing , wants to have his cake and eat it. If the love was strong enough he will marry you.

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nope!! it aint ok but i wouldnt mind doing it esp. when the other woman is a Dam!!

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Bluemoon,

If this guy is already committed to marrying someone else, then it's about time you let him go. Persistence usually doesn't work at this stage. But do not severe the relationship in malice. He may be committed but may end up not marrying her. If that happens (not that you should pray for that), you could have another go at him.

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Was about to say that. Thank God i read through and found out that we were on the same page.

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is he da only man at ur location? u shouldn't even ask diz question here, abeg, put urself in da gurl's position, stay away or ur life is in danger

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it's okay when you want nothing but sorrow and sadness!!

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*repeat davidlyan's post*

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Well, he cant be in love with you and be angaged abeg, just consider yah self as an husband or wife snatcher unless and only if the engagemeant or union is dissolved then i believe u guys could have somethings together and @ thsoe looking for Job, u dont have to reply to the post u know? abi must u reply to every thread u see?

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It is very wrong. Dating an engaged man is wrong

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y would he be marrrying someone else when we are in love

i cant and i dont advise anybody to

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Yes it's very ok as long as it's also ok for another woman to date your own fiancee too!

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Badman, i thought u culd have been more wiser than this. advice this brat to make good use of the marital column, it will work more wonders for her.

Let talk things that affect members in this column.

i wonder why people cannot have respect for the affairs of others rather they come into an Annual General Meeting of Chairmen and MD's to talk about marriage and love.

What intrusive nonsense !!!!

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how is he in love with you when he wants to marry someone else. how if they re arrainging the marriage for him ok it makes more sense then

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You know he's committed to someone else. Won't that be a waste of time, headed for a heart-break?

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