Hello my people! I need your help with this one.
Its a bit complicated. There's a girl thats pregnant for me! It was an away match as I have my girlfriend that I hold dear. The pregnancy will not be aborted as she has vehemently refused. I'm not leaving my sweetheart and that has been established to all parties involved. So I'm going to be the father without entering into marriage. At least in the first instance.
Baby-mother has moved from being demanding that I marry her at all cost, to a more compromising stand that she will accept being wife 2 (This was a proposal I put forward because the baby came from a relationship that included the awareness that there was someone important in the picture!)
Dont misunderstand me. I didn't do this purposely. We got into the relationship and liked each other. We made several failed attempts to stop this relationship because it was hurting each of us. But with the introduction of the baby, I think she is deliberately trying to keep the baby to make me stay with her.
Anyway, I have had to meet with her parents at the early times of the knowledge of this baby. And they were not particularly harsh because maybe they thought I would change my mind. Infact, they have been nice. But I wont be disillusioned. I want to make another visit to see her dad. To show respect and to let him know that I'll do my best for his daughter and grandchild. Now that its obvious I'm not marrying her now, do you think this is advisable?