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Is It Proper For A Lady In A Serious Relationship Go Clubbing Wtout The Guy?

Is it proper for a lady in a serious relationship go clubbing wtout the Guy?

i have a friend (lady) who claims to be in a serious relationship but goes clubbing (just to relax) because I am not there. One my side I dont club irrespective of any boredom or stress. I have problem wt this.

I know it cpolud be to relax but u know, there's no way some wont ask her for a dance or the likes. or am I being ,

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Sure. Why not? I wouldn't go to a club that is not my tempo however, I would go to a nice club where a concert may be playing or a live band. I am not into that children type clubs.

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Of course it is ! It is always good to have fun with friends without the significant other. But for me, I don't enjoy clubbing without my boyfriend plus I'm not really fond of clubbing. With that said, I don't think it should be often . . . I'm only basing this on my person. I can't see myself going clubbing often without my man. Once in a while, sure but not regularly.

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YES. depend on de lady.

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we know what women do in night clubs na?am amazed at some people`s comment here.dont just sit in front of ur computer and assume u know what goes on there.go to a night club and tell us what u see.

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Simply Noooooooooooooooo

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Just reading some of the replies, why do you think if your gf or wife goes clubbing they are going to cheat, I have seen some 9ja guys who are married and go clubbing and believe me its not just clubbing they go for, They are out on the pull,

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It is wrong unless she's not into you. I'm not really into much clubbing but i know most guys who frequent clubs arent there 4 just drinking and dancing. Even d ladies throw their hair down after a drink or two. Not a very good sign from d woman ur with.

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I'm gonna pull a Tpia stunt and resurrect an ancient thread. . .

Yes it is appropriate.

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good girl . . .speak for ursef abeg.

Its all bout trust and understand. I don't see anything wrong in it. As long she doesn't go to the club and start grinding on all those them street rats in the club.

she can go with her girlfriends, dancing with her girlfriends and at the end of the day nothing must happen.

Y'all need to stop the mentality . . I don't encourage married people to go to clubs but in this case, they are still dating and she's not his property . . besides if they love and understand each other, I don't see any problem there.

then again . . .every man to his own . . and the guy? its all ok for him to have "guys night out"??

very well said, bebe and Iice

not all women are silly and two-timing B*t*hes!!

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@ iice

@gilgee

@Omo Eko

No one could have anwered it better than you all did

at people shouting hell no, when has r'ship become a burden,

there is nothing wrong going clubbing or dancing with other people at d club

It wil only take a girl who deosn't know what she wants to mess around at dat slimest opportunity.

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iice and bebe2007 well said.

but one may not be 100% sure as anything can happen especially at nite club. human tends to fall prey of circumstance.

if a guy loves a lady dearly he may not want competition. guys jealousy more than ladies is only that we have hearts to condole it and most times hearts of reterliation.

so, count ursef luky if ur man insists that u sud nt go to club alone without him or any of his confidants.

me no fit share ma woman wit any woman .hell no way. na only one face cultlass dey get .

period.

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@ice

u made real sense.i know a few ladies like that. bu they re very rare to come by and the are mostly all taken.

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if u dnt trust her then WATS THE PIONT? cos she might s well be getting a quickie evrynite she goes clubbing without u(i knw a few that do).but if u trust the lady then there's notin to be scared of. xceppt she gets to much too drink on a clubnite, and u know anytin can happen after then, trust or no trust.

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Saw this on Cheaters. One jobless woman that was married to a rich, handsome dude. Yet she used to go to clubbing on her own. Through the private detectives of Cheaters, we discovered that she was banging all the guys within her sight. Omo, babes harsh o.

@Poster: I have no doubt what this particular babe does in Clubs. She has been bleeping around. If its ok with you, then its ok for her to go clubbing on her on.

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Well i think i can go with micheal101,but we have to take into consideration that this girl might like her BF coming along with her for the outings but the guy's too much of a slacker.You can't blame her,she wants to have fun but her BF isn't the type.

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Well man,If you've got a problem wiv your woman clubbing,I think it's best you let her know.All now depends if she's ready to change for you or keep on with her supposed mode of relaxation.Honestly,i don't think clubbin is a way to relax.Dude,i think your woman needs you standing up to her.

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@ poster

sori to say , your girl is lose , i know her type , men even on your marriage night dont trust her, hope u have left her now, Clubbin nites can lead to any thing.

@ adeboo

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Why not?

You are not joined at the hip are u?

You have to give her a breathing space otherwise u get tired of each other.

Thats where the trust issue comes in.

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Why not? is she your personal property? abeg leave matter for mathias

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Mature couples will have no problem with that. If he doesnt allow her to go clubbing on her own then he should get ready to follow her to work, the market/shops, school, even the loo cuz she might meet guys anywhere and everywhere. Being in a relationship is not bondage as far as i am concerned. You still have the right to socialize, provided you know your limits. I do go clubbing with my female friends and we just go there to dance, my man understands that, he doesnt really like clubbing so he cannot stop me, for i do not stop him from doing things he enjoys. Its all about understanding eachother.

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It all depends on the individiual. My gurl goes clubbing almost every weekend, i don't have a problem with that cuz i trust her. Moreso, if your lady wants to cheat on you, restricting her from clubbing wouldn't end the urge to do so. Just pray that you find a good lady who would love you thats all. Give her freedom, afterall she nobi ur beast of burden, cuz the more you limit her social life, the more boring you become to her!

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How would you feel if your boy friend goes clubbing without taking you along with him.

He just tells you, honey, i'll be clubbing this weekend and when you ask for his invitation, he says it's ok i want to be alone. Do you think it's easy to bear?

If i have a girl friend that goes clubbing at my back, that would be the end of that relationship.

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Guys are so insecure that is why they hate their ladies going clubbing. To me I don't think there is anything wrong in that, as far she notified you, there shouldn't be problem. However that does mean she has to go clubbing every weekend becos its dead wrong, sooner or later a guy might final toast and steal her heart.

If you prevent your lady from going clubbing becos u are afraid of her cheating on you, hmmmm trust me she will find another way to cheat.

Cheating has nothing to with going clubbing oh.

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If she didn't go clubbing does that implies she doesn't have admirer day time,? dont let deceive each other clubbing doesn't have anything to do with messing around . Why not?

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I really do not even think it is an issue. If the woman likes going clubbing then by all means as long as she informs her partner about her whereabout . Abi because a woman wan marry she should not have her own way of relaxing without the man. Abeg even if i am married i will still hang out alone sometimes. Marriage or engagement is not prison, I like space and i will never hook up with a man who feels my movement should be subject to his control.

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All of you saying its not proper for a lady. but its proper for the guy abi?

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In an ideal, mature relationship, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. It's immature and some external factors that be a problem. Of course, going together, or going with a group of mutual friends is always good as well.

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If you knew your woman well. . .knew she was a principled lady, someone with strong sense of self, someone intensely loyal, someone who is a one man woman and that woman loves you deeply and passionately. . .will she even think of another guy in a club when she knows the kind of man she has back home? She's out for fun, to relax and groove. . .one can do that without looking at another man and thinking he's foinnne blah blah. Even if she thought he was handsome. . .why would she even think of trying something with him when she got a man at home, someone who loves her like she loves him. Yes there are one-man-women out there.

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i dont think its good idea oh, if the 2 are planning or comtemplating marriage. there is no need to start unnecessary fire .to me, I think its better they go together.

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Someone guys don't mind. . .some ladies just go to dance and have fun. . .entirely depends on the individual

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Nope! Nope!! i totatlly disagree.

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I dont think so.its not proper.if she really loves the guy clubbing shouldn't be the best way to ease up,especially when you dont.

Even if a married woman of 40 with ring shoul go clubbing boys will still like to have her, so how much more,

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