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Is It Proper For My Girlfriend To Sleep In A Guys House?

I will be 30 years of age by November of this year. I have a good job with a multinational company and planing on settling down soon to my girlfriend of two and a half years who is currently serving with a New Generation Bank @ Ibadan. I called her as usual last night and asked if she was in bed already and was shocked by her response. That she was passing the night in another guys house who is also a corp member. Her reason was that there was no light at her place. Please, NL, I need your advise on this one before I go crazy as I intend walking down the aisle with this girl on completion of my Duplex which is 99% complete.

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Exactly. Guys are so suspicious these days ...what happen to trust

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If my gf tells me this, she knows the relationship is automatically over. If ur girl were mine, she wouldn't tell me unless she's tired of the relationship. Be that as it may, it's very possible nothing happened. Tell u what, it has actually happened to me b4. Not once. Way back,when I was somewhat a badt guy, I had a principle: any girl in a serious relationship was off limits to me no matter what. Karma tinz. There were two or three of my female friends who slept in my house without me making any romantic move. I had this particular female friend I really clicked with who used to stay late and crash at my place. Her fiance would sometimes call and she'd claim to be in her hostel.Make no mistake, d girl is attractive and heavily endowed. But d girl was lucky cos I was a principled and disciplined guy.Still is. Unfortunately, there r some guys who have wild libidos and can't let this kinda opportunity pass them by and even grab it by force- molest. Ur babe did a wrong thing to call a spade a spade.

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Poster, it depends on mutual understanding.

It is common practice these days for girlfriends to sleep over, especially for weekends.

Some even move to become live in lover.

If you love her, don't go over the hill, because she spent the night in another guy's house.

A female friend passed the night in my place and nothing happened.

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I dnt she is saying d fact, as she jst wants to knw ur reaction over her statement though d kind of joke is very expensive as may cause a break-up in any nascent courtship.

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@poster: so ur gf does not have girlfriends she could go to huh? Omo u r really sleeping on top bicycle ! HER ACTIONS WERE SO WRONG WHETHER THEY DID ANYTHING OR NOT.. Tell her not to try it again... Bye #

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Find girl go sleep for her room! She might not really have anything to do with the young man, she's with but..... Dude, don't do that, don't stress ur brain thinking of what might have been! You will die, when ur ready and u know she's ur all in all, take d bold step and take her in, make babies as u want and live ur life.

Women can either make u or break you, but one thing I'm sure of is " if we let them" .

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Is it proper that a 30 year old Naija dude will ask such question. Bro u grow up for Cameroun? Until the cut with light in his room starts shining his light into your girls innermost parts then you'll know its not right. God forbid though. Sit your gal down and let her know what is not to be expected of her.

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Is it proper that a 30 year old Naija dude will ask such questiob. Bro u grow up for Cameroun? Until the cut with light in his room starts shining his light into your girls innermost parts then you'll know its not right. God forbid though. Sit your gal down and let her know what is not to be expected of her.

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LWKMD me guy oh BADT gan!!!omo eko, @ poster go watch UNFAITHFUL by RIchard Gere

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It is sooooooooo just not proper. If not for any reason at all, see the kind of confusion this guy has been thrown into, recieving contributions n counter-contributions frm different angles. Whatever he decides to do now, he won't be on the loosing side. Wether Bleep or no Bleep, na who we go ask? Today in our society, trust no longer comes on a platter so we shld be careful of the moves we make. The bible deeply meant something when it said "flee frm any APPEARANCE of sin". My girl once did this, n our relationship cld only continue after I had in turn invited n banged another girl in my house. Kc, pls keep ur head up. She might be wife worthy but no girl is worthy enof to put u in this kind of emotional mess. If u like, break-lose, break-even or let the whole thing go with the wind n still stay with her. Ur the man. The choice is urs. Thumbs up bro.

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Muhehehe corpers strike again.

Mehn, if i were in naija sha and single and was already working, I would look for babe that is done with the nysc thing.

Toooooo much goes on there..,.

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so what was the update?

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why u no tell her to enjoy herself.

thats what she went out for. next time she gives you that story tell her "ENJOY".

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Hahahaha oo n pe!! Mr Poster of topic you neva hear of Snoop Dogg's 'Drop it like its hot'. Please drop this broad like a hot potato! WTF is she Bella Adenuga or na Dangote or Abacha pikin? Dem no dey take light for her papa house?? I had a female friend whose apartment caught fire as in burnt to the ground and she had no immediate family around but still she refused my offer and any other guy for that matter to sleepover and ended up temporarily squatting with a classmate in a female hostel so how can you buy a flimsy reason like PHCN failure to sleep over at a corper's place (A Corper!!) this girl clearly doesn't respect you and na bone wey go hook you for throat in the future. What would be her next excuse her bed is too small?

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Naija dudes make me laff.

How are words like "multinational company", "new generation bank", "duplex" relevant to the discussion about some bloody Corper knacking your woman?

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@ Poster : It's very wrong , why not go to a fellow female corp members house to spend the nite why does it have to be a guy. If she needs something like that and the first person that comes too her mind is a guy then kasala dey , before she even considers a guy she must have asked a score of girls first. Take yourself do example , when u dey serve and you had to hang out somewhere due to one reason or the other who's house would you go?. You can't tell me he's the only corper P.H.C.N is giving light , there's more to it. Find out sharp and do what you have to do

Make una no crucify me ohh , na my own quota I dey contribute.

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She can sleep if only the guy is castrated and he has no tongue, finger etc. If he isn't your girl should collect when the angel of cold passes by

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As a corps member i knw wat goes on here.Let her undstnd tat wat she did u dnt like it and try send her 10k to buy tiger gen to avoid such act again.

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Is not proper somehow. but she may be innocent in what ur trying to accuse her of. so find out from her. good luke

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They neva talk this thing finish?

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What does having duplex got to do wt ths? I think ur deliberately seeking attention frm nairaland babes.

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No problem my dear. Since cheating is sweeter than anything in the world may your partner[s] always cheat on you.

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hope when wetin dey follow sleeping with female corpers go come make you ready

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I love it wen female corpers sleep in ma house. Osho free. Na to chop clean mouth like say notin do me

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in my view there is no mistake sleeping with. as we know cheating is sweeter than any thing in the world.

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Na wa for una ooo. A beg leave the guy. Na were they pain person e dey put near fire. Na the one wey dey pain am be that.

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Why u dey carry relationship matter come nairaland. U nevr even marry the babe, u wan go crazy, if u come marry am nko and she give another man the thing lick, that means na suicide u go comit naa, abi?

Call ur babe make u talk to am 1 on 1; and as for the Duplex wey dey make ur head big, that ur babe fit bone u go f**k even okada man if she want; so no be by duplex oooo. Woman matter e hard, so look for 4 ya sense apply am b4 u begin find atapaipia oooo.

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Only a dummy would believe this story.Is that her first time of experiencing PHCN failure?Does she run into every guy's house when NEPA strikes?Even her gf's house?Is she 12 years old and scared of ghosts?Abeg, make we hear word!

The girl don do oshofri. . .Period!

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i believe you were a corper b4, ladies are always free sexually tooo loose with the idea (last time to enjoy), for me she told you so u will not suspect in the sense that at least u will belive nothing is happening. be careful my friend, if you want to marry go ahead, is just sex as the say.

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Is not here fault. blame the PHC.

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ok, enough talks, find a female frnd and sleep @ her house, tell ur gf abt dis & see how she reacts

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No lie ma sister, na me be d big dawg. whooof.

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it is not proper at all

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hum, that's all I have to say,

Anyways one thing female tend not to understand about guys is that guys are way to visual. We can visualize everything about a situation in less than a min, So looking at it from a guys prospective, when a man's gf tells him she is spending the night at a male friends house. The man ego/pride has already kicked in visualizing how another alpha male might be comming in to steal his gf. This is the way God made us,

My $.02cent.

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2 tins r involved! Bt my candid opinion, its nt rite cos we r humans and could fall into temptations. If u do love her, ask her to stop.  Lite or no lite! She shouldnt tink of slipin in anoda guys apartment. Dats no xcuse. D choice is urs

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hey poster i wanna ask , did u meet her at amsterdam that she cannot sleep whitout lig that shth

as far as am concerned she is a big liar, while serving one of my bed mate while in action told her

fiance to call back later that she is having her community developement service,

she has been brutally bleeped,

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U don't just jump into conclusion,u never can tell whether d guy is just a friend or sumthing and i don't see anything bad in sleeping in ones male friend's house in as much as there is nothing btw them.U had better be wise so u don't lose ur girl over a mere imagination.

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U don't just jump into conclusion,u never can tell whether d guy is just a friend or sumthing and i don't see anything bad in sleeping in ones male friend's house in as much as there is nothing btw them.U had better be wise so u don't lose ur girl over a mere imagination.

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i still dnt see wat the biggie is

i stay at my friends all the time

afte playin on his playstation till late

*just realised how that sounds and runs away*

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omo, i laugh

"There was no light"

I had to check the poster's post again

to make sure you were in nigeria.

to validate that excuse.

guy,

she probably takes you for a fool already.

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My guy, if this is the first time of her doing this tell her not to attempt such brave move again, Also you might want to check and double check if she is really your girlfriend, You just never know.

If this dude is not her "REAL" brother or a cuzin then just tell her you dont feel comfortable on what she is doing. If she tells you she can't stop "sleeping" in the other man's house then my guy you suppose borrow leg and ja from the realtionship. Unless you wun fight for person wey dey sleep around town.

Good luck

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it's a 50/50 thing she might be cheating or not cheating on you, if you gotta quit the relationship be sure she is cheating on you and make sure you are able to prove it with facts and dont base your judgment on what ppl tell u to do.

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Not good at all, the guy could even be a Molester and if he is not why tempt him especially when you are in a serious relationship that might lead to a future with someone. Not good at all, our ladies are not even encouraged to visit single guys during the day no to talk of all night!!! lol

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Stop deceiving yourself!

Ur Queen is dying in the arms of a co-corper & she's been lashed steadingly.Cos I don't see a reason why she'd choose to sleep in his house rather than a fellow female's.

Well,just speaking from experience!

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@ poster, you should handle the situation wisely, you know your girl friend more than anybody that giving you advice. By knowing a person personality will enable us predict his/her behaviors. The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.

Everybody has a problem in a relationship, but it depend on how you can handle it and control your emotion.

Think about it.

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lol proper if there is no string attached. i mean no sleeping in the same bed

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