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Is It Right For Someone To Accept Things From An Ex?

Is it fair for someone to accept gifts, favors, services, help, etc. from an ex?

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Is it smart to keeping working for a company with no pay after u quit?

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My sister yes yes and yes

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eehnnn!!! if i hear say i no collect

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Well, I think It all depends on the depth of your past relationship. I don't see anything wrong in accepting whatever from an ex.

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even the ones you dumped?

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friends with an ex?

I dey mad?

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More times than not, I believe it isn't right to accept things from an ex, be it 'gifts' or 'loans'. I just think that it's a little too risky. I mean some people can have the relationship where they are close friends and neither person is using the other, but more times than not, one person takes advantage of the other. Either it is the person loaning or 'giving', and they are secretly trying to re-lure their unsuspecting victim, or it is the person taking who is aware of the vulnerability or naivety of the person giving.

It is really difficult to make sure if something is truly a gift, and the only way to clarify for sure is when things go wrong. Why wait until that happens, why not just try and minimise transactions between yourself and the ex. Some people say better the devil you know, but who ever said you knew the devil to begin with.

That's my advice anyways.

(I feel a similar way when it comes to friends.)

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@poster - This road quickly leads to nowhere good. On a matter of respect, integrity and principles, No. It is not right.

The argument cannot be valid either, as very soon, the justification can always be expanded conveniently - Ex, Friend, Boss, Colleague, Toaster, etc. Ur current partner will always lack something, as nobody can fulfill the totality of another human being's needs or desires.

The main issue here is that very few men - Exes or not, have pure intentions with regards to giving gifts/help/connections to womenfolk.

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To all the girls in the house:

Stay away from your ex. Say "hello" when you meet then walk away as fast as your legs can carry you and do not look back lest you turn into a pillar of salt. It is the chit-chat moment that will get you falling back into his dangerous arms as you will find it hard to resist his full pink lips accompanied by his cocoa-chocolate skin. Your ex is a no-go zone. When will girls ever learn?

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I guess you'd have to discuss it with your partner if you felt it was something you couldn't get from another source. I don't see why you'd need to collect a gift, connection or loan etc from your ex,that should be a closed chapter. But if you're the kind of person that still keeps the lines open with ex's as friendz and there was an explicit need for  you to collect anything from him/her as a last result, then i truly encourage  you  to keep your current partner in the loop.

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@ poster

its ok to accept connection if its a positive one but gifts. its not ideal to accept gifts from an Ex, no matter the circumstances. because eg you collect money from your Ex and you go homer and tell your husband or partner. do u expect him or her to say weel done and give you a pat on the back, or a rub on the head. ? i dont think so. so its not advisable. thats my own personal opinion.

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Even if my current guy can't help me, i will not.

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cant support that. you may end up cheating with your ex.

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Take from the ex; go with the ex.

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True.

Personally though, i rarely accept things from anyone. If forced to, it must be a loan.

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for me, once it's over, it's over. and my going to church and reading the bible really doesn't have anything to do with it. i just don't "ex" around

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Why not, if you really cared about someone for a long time and you not together anymore don't mean you can't be a least friends. Haba you dey go church so, watin Bible talk.

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if you guys are still good friends and no string attached with the giving and receiving of the gifts then i see nothing wrong with it.

though i wouldnt personally do it reason being, i don't "ex" around after a breakup.

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If they not friends then it's better they just stay away from each other and seek help from the new mate.

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I don't see anything wrong with that, just because you not in a relationship with the person anymore don't mean you can't be friends. Sometimes ex's make

better friends cause the now know some very intimate things about each other.

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Why?

Unless you're thinking of getting back together OR you both have a child together

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Let me clarify a little further. Is it right to accept things from an ex when there is a definite need and the current partner is unable to supply it. Is it ok to take a loan, gift, connection, etc. from an ex when your current partner is lacking in funds to help you?

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