Is it fair for someone to accept gifts, favors, services, help, etc. from an ex?
More times than not, I believe it isn't right to accept things from an ex, be it 'gifts' or 'loans'. I just think that it's a little too risky. I mean some people can have the relationship where they are close friends and neither person is using the other, but more times than not, one person takes advantage of the other. Either it is the person loaning or 'giving', and they are secretly trying to re-lure their unsuspecting victim, or it is the person taking who is aware of the vulnerability or naivety of the person giving.
It is really difficult to make sure if something is truly a gift, and the only way to clarify for sure is when things go wrong. Why wait until that happens, why not just try and minimise transactions between yourself and the ex. Some people say better the devil you know, but who ever said you knew the devil to begin with.
That's my advice anyways.
(I feel a similar way when it comes to friends.)
@poster - This road quickly leads to nowhere good. On a matter of respect, integrity and principles, No. It is not right.
The argument cannot be valid either, as very soon, the justification can always be expanded conveniently - Ex, Friend, Boss, Colleague, Toaster, etc. Ur current partner will always lack something, as nobody can fulfill the totality of another human being's needs or desires.
The main issue here is that very few men - Exes or not, have pure intentions with regards to giving gifts/help/connections to womenfolk.
To all the girls in the house:
Stay away from your ex. Say "hello" when you meet then walk away as fast as your legs can carry you and do not look back lest you turn into a pillar of salt. It is the chit-chat moment that will get you falling back into his dangerous arms as you will find it hard to resist his full pink lips accompanied by his cocoa-chocolate skin. Your ex is a no-go zone. When will girls ever learn?
I guess you'd have to discuss it with your partner if you felt it was something you couldn't get from another source. I don't see why you'd need to collect a gift, connection or loan etc from your ex,that should be a closed chapter. But if you're the kind of person that still keeps the lines open with ex's as friendz and there was an explicit need for you to collect anything from him/her as a last result, then i truly encourage you to keep your current partner in the loop.
its ok to accept connection if its a positive one but gifts. its not ideal to accept gifts from an Ex, no matter the circumstances. because eg you collect money from your Ex and you go homer and tell your husband or partner. do u expect him or her to say weel done and give you a pat on the back, or a rub on the head. ? i dont think so. so its not advisable. thats my own personal opinion.