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Is It Right To Date A Married Man?

this days young gurls date married men, forgetten that wat goes around comes around. what are does that can make u date a married?

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Sum yrs ago dis was not a reasonable questn, 2day its debatable. I fear 4 tomorow *God pls keep my fragile heart from dis evil & adulterous generatn*

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tough jenny, ur husb must be patient. . .lol

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rofl saucekid,talk if u wan talk no dey poo sheesh for diaa

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@post

why not if he's got the cash

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NO there's nothing wrong until you get married. Then they start dating your husband only then will you know if it's wrong.

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There is nuthin wrung,

i even advice evry girl shld indulge in it.

it helps u 2 practice marriage, 2 have a feel of marriage before marrying.

I support it.

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hi, It is wrong but as Katchy said anything can happen, married men can be tempting. I almost dated one not long ago it was my friend and God dat prevented me and forever I pray not to fall into dat temptation, What goes around comes around.

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Dating a married man is like playing Russian roulette. Pointless, totally risky and utterly foolhardy. In effect, what the man is saying to you the single girl, is "you may be good enough for me to 'bed', but certainly not good enough for me to wed." Think about it.

If he had no feelings for his wife, why the heck is he still with her? And pls don't give us that excuse about them staying together just for the sake of the kids. Its' hogwash!

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Oh my! I'm really sorry about it all. Thanks for that. So many of us need to hear it again and again and again.

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I am a christian woman, have been for almost 20 years as I gave my life to Christ at a young age and this is my story.

I once dated a married man contrary to my christian knowledge and beliefs and my stance against it even at that point in my life. I would say I fell hard into this grave temptation that is very real and common in our society even among the christian folk. And it was the biggest mistake I made in my life because it altered the course of my life completely and I did things with him which I had never done in any other relationship and worse of all I had an abortion for him, the one and only I ever had. The relationship eventually broke up acrimoniously and I got married. Unfortunately, my own marriage broke up when my husband met and married this younger girl unknown to me and I got to find out in a terrible way and he chose to be with this younger girl. I can tell you the pain that this caused me is indescribable. It was my faith that held me together. And being single now I vowed I would never be with a married man because I have been on the giving side and on the receiving side. Ironically, a married man came into my life just then and if not for the lessons I had learned I would have found myself repeating history. What I am saying is that it ain't worth it. There is a law of sowing and reaping and we can never run away from it. I have a friend who dated married men when we were single and has had the unfortunate incident of her husband dating other girls. The trauma she went through was much. And she had probably forgotten what she did as a young woman because she is now on the other side of the divide.

What am I saying? It's never harmless to date a married man, no matter the reason for it or the excuses we may have. I know we are all prone to temptation and it's easier to avoid the temptation than to come out of it after falling. There is a lure that married men present to single women that they don't just know how to resist. My advice: DON'T DO IT. YOU COULD BE THE WOMAN AT THE RECEIVING END. Sisters, let's be our SISTERS' keepers. In a nutshell,  I believe IT IS MORALLY WRONG and causes a lot of pain for all the parties involved(except the men, perhaps?).

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I bet this life is not 2+2=4, most housemate were condeming this act,

but in reality,it is much more than what we re sayin here.Probably in sm ages past in

this our obodo country,getting married to someone that is up to someone,s parent is

clsoe to a taboo,people see some many negative reason on it,but i guess nowadays,the tides is changing,

so i will stil say this prayer that we all shld find happiness in our wedlock.Amen

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@ 2dye4

Pal, believe me, anyone could fall in love with anyone at anytime

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@ silly: ur percepion of wht love is quite disturbing atimes, u call finding solace in the arms of other pple outside ur marriage love ? pls think again

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Love gives you a kind of joy that goes deep down ur soul not like drugs will do baby

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That's not a straight comparison dear. cocaine and matter of the heart is definately parrallel

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Pleez people it's wrong o. Let's not excuse the inexcusable.

Cocaine may make u feel good and numb your pains temporarily but it will still kill you in the long run.

same applies here.

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@ Katchy

God bless u sis. It's quite wrong morally and spiritually but it's a kind of feeling that just hit one like a whirlwind and one find it quite hard to deal with. It could happen to anyone.

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its easier said than done, i only pray that we all dont find ourself in a messy wedlock,

then probably we will knw if it si ok, to get involve outside wedlock because spliting up most times will

not necessarily being that easy to achieve but can best be achieve by other mean like the issue

we re discussin now,

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However u want to see it, both are to make u feel goodwhich make them to eventually be irresistible.

both try to fill a void,a need. I do maintain my stand that they are indeed comparable in these regards.

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@silly:

ur question has a simple answer, a lady mite think or actually claim she feels love towards a married guy, fine, but should she act on that feeling, answer is no.

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Sweetheart, it takes two to tango. If the girl falls in love with the married man, but the man loves his wife more, then its the young woman's loss . . remember, in that same "love" it cannot always be "wins", atimes someone's got to loose.

And in a case where the guy loves the "young woman" more than he loves his wife, can't you see it'll only be selfish of them to tie down the man's wife??

what we are suggesting, is that the man quietly calls the woman to side, and tell her whats up, so that they either divorce and go their seperate ways or the lady can as well find herself a "young man" . . geddit??

I didnt say you should displease yourself to please your spouse joor, i only said you be up and doing about it.

Tell your spouse about it and let her go - - -not when u want to eat your cake and have it by keeping her at home and falling in love with every girl you see along town.

Your hapiness is important yea, but untie the cage for the other person too . .

Or let me ask you - - - how would you feel to find out your woman has been sleeping with some other guy behind your back?? wouldn't you prefer she told you about it before getting down??. Afterall no matter what, for old time's sake, she owes you that much, or you don't think??

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@silly boy,

it seems that u can possibly do such a thing if u r in the position of the man in question

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well, some men wont come out to say they are married.

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hey what goes arround comes arround,remember the cane that slash the 1st wife is still hanging in the roof top to salsh the second wife which is u.it is a big pendulum waiting to burst at u,if u think that dating another woman`s husband is no big deal don`t worry just wait for days of disaster to happen.

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@ Cute-Bottom, Siena and 2dye4

May I ask u guys this quetion?. . . . . . .

What do you think abt a young woman falling in love with a married man? Is that wrong, looking at the broad meaning of love?

you guys are onlly looking at it from a point of view of lust or greed. How about if the feeling is true and real love?

@ Cute-Bottom.

I quite understand you believe me. But I still feel one's happiness is still paramount than anone else. I see no reason to please my spouse when that will make my life miserable and sad

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Its really wrong, Married Men can be tempting especially the ypoung ones because they will seem so nice and understanding but it is not worth it. It is morally wrong i will say it over and over again. It is natural to feel attracted to someoone who is nice and listens but let it stop there. Dont make another woman sad, it is not just worth it

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@ bondxie,

That is a dumb excuse to be unfaithful.

When a couple has any problem, the ideal thing to do is seek solutions to it, not making your partner feel guilty or condemning herself for "the problem".

If she had a choice, she wouldn't have chosen to be without a child.

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I want you to note that extra-marital affairs usually preceed a marriage break up.

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So the men say, they seldom admit the issue of childlessness is a problem to do with them.

If children are such a strong point, then the man can get divorced, and allow the woman to move on with her life. Not just engage in indiscriminate affairs whilst still married to his wife.

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Naturally it unworthy, but some situation like the issues of beliefs, and the issue of making babes can make a married fellow looks

4 an alternative outside, like the case of someone i knows that his mariage of some years old is stil yet to be blessed with a kid, and the

whole reason lies solely wiv the wife cos the wife had an health realted issue b4 the marriage but refused to disclose it to the man until after, if this man then decided after some years to get involved outside, what is you take on that, is it a crime?

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@ Cute-Bottom

Cutey, it's possible that my opinion to you is a no brainer, but if u look at it deeper without sentiments you might just get what am driving at.

The fact that some couple are married does not give assurance that they are gonna be happy together all thier lives. And if you ask me, I believe one shouldn't deny himself or herself happiness simply because of marriage. dont you know that some marriages are just not mendable

Now some will consider your question to be rude and somewhat derogatory, but to me it's just a question which I will glady answer.

If my dad has been making my mum sad and he's not happy himself, then I guess I'll support him and support my mum too. I think it will hurt me the more to see my parents sad and still living together like enemies. That kind of environment is not healthy mentally for all parties involved, the children included. I guess the best way out is to seek happiness where you they feel wll help, even if it means seeing someoneelse.

Thank god my parents are together and still make themselves happy. But if the table should turn, i guess you know my stands now.

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@topic

when all da single guys are extinct then I'll answere your question

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Why should you date a married man? It's not right, it's not biblical. Its a sin, you are bringing shame upon yourself cause thats someone else's husband.

So girls out there who are attempting to give it a try please give a second thought and if you in it already please withdraw yourself from it now.

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There are no excuses for dating a married man. It's wrong and non exusable. Any responsible young lady should consider it insulting when a married man approaches her for a relationship.

Most importantly put yourself in the shoes of his wife and envisage yourself as her after a few years and a couple of kids. How would you love a young unmarried woman competing with you for your husband?

And finally, it's so wrong that it's the only reason the Bible (new testament) recognizes that could break a marriage.

In a nut shell, IT'S WRONG!

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