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Is It True That Marriage Is A Capital Intensive Project?

Hello Naija pple, i really need your advise on this issue. I am planning to get marry soon but my friends keep telling me that marriage is capital intensive project that i shouldn't waste my money rather i should do introduction and registry marriage. Am ok financially but scare cus of my friends.

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marraige is not wedding.They are just pair that never get separated but one outlived the other.

u may not spend money on wedding but money is inevitable in marriage.marriage is capital intensive as long as the sanctity must be maintained.

Raising children is the most capital intensive in marrige.The man could appeal to his wife to skip a meal but can the children listen to or heed such?

It is good to plan for wedding but it is extremely important to plan for marriage.

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The rule of thumb is to plan a realistic event. Don't claim to plan a moderate event of a hundred if you know your mother is going to invite all her current and previous church members, colleagues and market customers. The truth is that while a wedding really depends on the couple, in Nigeria, the parents usually try to turn it into a circus. Let both families be aware of your 'moderate' plans. You tell yours and have your bride talk to hers.

Do remember that most of the people the GROOMS parents will invite will hear by word of mouth and so I advise you from experience to be a man and restrict your parents repeatedly YOURSELF and don't make it seem like your BRIDES fault. Apart from that, though we all like nice things, a wedding needn't be overly expensive and do remember that the marriage is more important.

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remember watever u do u can hardly ever impress evryone,

watever you do

do what works for you,

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'Expensive' is a relative term. Simply cut your coat according to your cloth.

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'Expensive' is a relative term. Simply cut your coat according to your cloth.

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babyosisi rekindled this whole tread again because it had died down since october last year wats the force all about the guy in question must have even gotten married by now.na wa oooo

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the main probs when it comes to this kind of issue is that of the marriage part of the whole thing, wedding for eample like the 1 i assume you re talkin about is the party thing and i don`t think it is that expensive as long as you cut your coat acording to your length,

Know that there is a saying that says they don`t borrow money to merry make' i.e a kin yawo se faaji' and if you have to you have to be considerate cos those you re tryin to please will soon leave you and you ll be left alone to face the rest,

So just be careful and plans things very well b4 you damble into them, 1 luv

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There is this adage that says 'cut your coat according to your size',If you follow that then you wouldn't have a problem.All you have to do is to make sure that you do not go above your means and make sure you don't start having children until you are financially grounded.Congratulations man on your future wedding!.

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you sound as if you are doing the marriage for you friend and not for yourself.settle it with your spouse and not your friend.

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no offense intended,

but if you refer to this thread,you will understand why the fellow asked the question:

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-51789.32.html

How To Plan A Good Wedding?

oddly enough,  ladies were advocating 'at least 500,000' .in this thread ladies are advocating 'cut your coat according to your size'.

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Well Guys, I guess guys here commenting on weddings are woman-like in thinking. Spend now and steal tomorrow. I guess the new way of doing things in a very corrupt country is overlooked. Just get a chick and have it with her and everything spending comes down. Afterall, wedding ends with marriage which ends with having kids. So cut off the first two things in that horrible chain. If not, let the chicks do the spending while Bobos do the climbing.Or we enjoy freelance parents. What about?

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As Someone said above, cut your coat according to your size, its not necessary to have a bleeping expensive wedding, and later have to pay debts. which could cause problems in your early marriage.

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Hello dear

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Try make am lo key my Bros, time wait for no one

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@ Shinkafi,

Make it a low key one. A happy home is not based on how big or small your wedding bash is/was. Enjoy your money with your wife thereafter.

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@ eko4show,

I totally agree with u.

Bros, there is nothing compulsory in wedding except marriage certificate which is not costly at all. It is as expensive as you make it. No body is tasking you on anything.

Plan within your reach. Remember that real marriage starts after the wedding.

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It depends on the type of wedding you want (Elaborate or small) First, agree with your partner, then draw up a budget based on how much you are willing to spend. Be detailed about it like bride/grooms requirements,venue,entertainment,family rites etc. you cut down if the total is higher or mark up if lesser and work strictly with this budget. Plan more with your partner as it will be your day. I advice you not to overshoot your expenses. Marriage is bigger than wedding. Goodluck.

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I totally support bright Everbright. MUST YOU MARRY. It's not necesary to marry. Most especially when your guts start to tell you it could wipe you out. My advise. DON'T MARRY. That way you will be able to spend your money yourself. Miser!

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wedding is different from marriage. while the former may be needlessly and mindlessly expensive, the latter is only a matter of give and take.

wedding is a ceremony, marriage is an intitution or the life together after you say "i do"

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My brother, it is not albeit more responsibilites. Just plan with your partner and take to voice of reason in every matrimonial step you take.

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if you want to outdo the joneses and do a big bash that you truly can't afford,you'll cause undue financial stress on your young marriage and risk everything.

However a wedding is a most memorable ocassion but don't be carried away and bite more than you can chew.

After the guests are gone,the marriage begins.

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Smart people don't start breeding until they have a considerable and consistent income.

You can get married at any time, but please don't have children before you have the means to take care of them. That's where poverty comes from. That's the most capital-intensive aspect of marriage!

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@shinkafi

Yes, it depends on how "big"(profile level, fanfare level) you want to have it be.

In Nigeria, many people listen to a whole lot of voices when preparing for weddings, as such they get caught up in a financial straits after the wedding, coz they allow relatives from right and left to start making unnecessary demands, just to gratify themselves, and fulfil the "If you dont spend money, you are not yet married" philisophy.

The advice is: Cut your coat according to your size.

In the world of today, twill be very unreasonable for someone to go borrow money, get loans just to do a wedding. Such people end up spending months just to repay the loans after the wedding, in the absence of all the guests. Sit you bride down, let her know how far you can comfortably stretch yourself. Agree together and after that, let anyone that disagrees go and marry himself/herself.

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If you listen to your friends properly, I think they were not talking about marriage at all. They were talking about wedding. And they were not saying it is capital intensive, but they were suggesting that you approach the wedding in a less capital intensive manner. They were suggesting a less capital intensive approach to wedding.

However, your marriage will benefit from a healthy stash of cash. Don't blow it all on just the wedding. Cheers!

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It's not compulsory to get married

If you think or your friends think marriage is expensive

then stay unmarried shekina

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