Or should you date around and gain other experiences first?
My first girlfriend, when we were both six, died of smoke inhalation in a night time fire at age 7. I was devastated! Almost a year later, on her birthday, I was in a corner of the school yard during recess to hide that I was crying. I was noticed by the prettiest girl in the class. She came to comfort me and when she learned why I was crying I remember her saying, "The next girl who gets your love will be so lucky to get someone with so much love!"
Well, we talked, and we talked a lot... and she became my next girlfriend at age 9. We married at 19. We're still in love 53 years and five children and sixteen grandchildren later.
well i think that guestion has various answers.now you should ask,"at what age did you had your first relationship?'' FOR ME i had my first girlfriend when i was in year 4 in secondary school and that is about 15 years ago.so u dont expect me marrying her because there were time distancce have to seperate us.so i think is applicable to most people.all say is that we must marry when the right person comes either by chance or norture.
I am married to my first and only boyfriend. We dated for 6 years and we r now having the best marriage anyone can imagine.
I believe i made the right choice the first time and God has seen us through.
It would have been a mistake not marrying him.
I love him with all my heart and he loves me as well, there is no comparison with other guys or other people and i am quite content in every area of our marital life.
It is not wrong for you to marry your first boyfriend. In my opinion, it is your views about marriage that matters as there is no perfect being anywhere. However, if both of you share same opinion and want your marriage to work, then go ahead with him knowing that you both have to weather the storms together come what may.
I shouldn't be participating, but i just broke up my two yr old relationship. Was supposed to take it next level by august until poo happened. There are wonderful girls out there but a handful of them are not to be trusted. Besides there is no point crying over being disappointed in a girl you are not married to.
Honestly my heart still aches cos she was a big reason why i worked harder. Anyway, its all in the past now.
Depends on your age,I would tend to think yes. Undecided Undecided Undecided
Sometimes at the moment it feels right,but,after you start
growing and maturing,your feelings change and you might
not feel the same anymore,so if you are young,grow up first,
then you will be a little more capable of deciding who to spend
the rest your with.
You are absolutely right,i presume the poster is mature enough to marry if not take your time have friends and grow and when you are ready you can then decide who to marry.
That is the problem I am having with my present date now,I trust her and she love me so much,but he has no good past.She is just 20 yrs and she has dated up to 7 guys,everytime I check this it bored my mind so much .Everytime she tried to confuse me that the the past has already gone that she can never poo on me while where we are together.
I don't know how some pple do thinks, how could you have dated like 10 guys and you call that one is experience or what, and each of the 10 guys will have bounce on you 50 times each and you call that one experience, Marry your first BF and you'll be proud to tell your grate grandchildren that your first love is still your husband till date.
I rest my case.
Depends on what u re out there searching for, in the sense that of comfort and all the rest of goodies in Friendship/marriage, But remember, No good things comes easier in life.
U have to sacrifices for one thing which is patenice as humanbeings are meant to cover their weaknesses. All the same work it out by urself as i will not advice u to starts counting from one house ceiling to another. All the best but be wise!
Wonders will never cease on this Nairaland o, what did I say on this topic that warrants my post being deleted? People have said worse things, yet their posts are not deleted.
I thought Military rule no longer operates in Nigeria (where there is no freedom of speech), but it seems a mini military government is developing here. Na wa o!
Most girls are afflicted by the obnoxious 'ojukokoro' disease; you always want to have your cake and eat it. This is the ONLY reason many end up as hoes - married (maybe) but 100 other guys can accurately describe their private geographies, some "ex's" even have pictorial evidence and have a good laugh when they see the women with their husbands prancing about in native attire as ökö ati iyawo.
My point is, yes your first boyfriend may be far from perfect (so are you too!), and there are guys out there that are more handsome, richer, more fun, caring, better in bed, etc than him. But is that enough for you to venture out in search of (uncertain) greener grass? You may get lucky, but you may also get badly burnt. The truth is, one has to make hard choices in life, and learn to live with such choices. If you keep wondering if the next guy has a bigger manliness then before you know it you'd have bleeped the whole of 'mankind' in search of the biggest. Who would lose? You.
Same principles apply to guys too; there's always a 'more desirable' alternative to what is available but you'd spend the rest of your life disoriented if you do not learn to make the available desirable.
i know where u r coming from as i have asked myself the same question because we tend to think there may be more out there, and maybe there is something better we are missing. just have at the back of ur mind that there are many guys out there who would just want to use you, and you may regret leaving this guy. i dated a couple of other guys and found out that there wasnt much i was missing, or maybe u should find out urself so u can appreciate him better. Goodluck in ur decision.
@ OP: That would depend on if you went into the relationship originally just for the experience, cos if you're in the relationship cos of "love", I see no reason why you should leave it just cos you want to have experiences with other people, or are your feelings bulbs you just switch on and off whenever you want to?
Liliana has a point ; you really don't have to be vulgar to get your opinion across.