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Is It Wise To Marry Your First Boyfriend?

Or should you date around and gain other experiences first?

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[quote author=liliana]@liliana i lyk dis, rit beside u gal

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My first girlfriend, when we were both six, died of smoke inhalation in a night time fire at age 7. I was devastated! Almost a year later, on her birthday, I was in a corner of the school yard during recess to hide that I was crying. I was noticed by the prettiest girl in the class. She came to comfort me and when she learned why I was crying I remember her saying, "The next girl who gets your love will be so lucky to get someone with so much love!"

Well, we talked, and we talked a lot... and she became my next girlfriend at age 9. We married at 19. We're still in love 53 years and five children and sixteen grandchildren later.

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If he asks for your hand in marriage and you both love each other why not?[i][/i]

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see let stop talking about experience how many guys will u date to get the exp,.u want in marriage know that you are marrying a man of different character.is important to know that if you dont have problems in ur present relationship,then it should leads to marriage

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well i think that guestion has various answers.now you should ask,"at what age did you had your first relationship?'' FOR ME i had my first girlfriend when i was in year 4 in secondary school and that is about 15 years ago.so u dont expect me marrying her because there were time distancce have to seperate us.so i think is applicable to most people.all say is that we must marry when the right person comes either by chance or norture.

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Marrying your first love is the best, even though u wanna leave him, his footprint will still be all over ur body and you

won't stop thinking about him,

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@poster, well i think marrying ur first love is the best thing to do.

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If u love your first boy friend, he is the best person to get married to

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@jp phillips, lmao, ur funny

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Here is a wise saying,

"Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman, but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man".

Author of the quote unknown.

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I am married to my first and only boyfriend. We dated for 6 years and we r now having the best marriage anyone can imagine.

I believe i made the right choice the first time and God has seen us through.

It would have been a mistake not marrying him.

I love him with all my heart and he loves me as well, there is no comparison with other guys or other people and i am quite content in every area of our marital life.

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there is nothing wrong with u getting married to ur first boyfriend if he is the right guy for u.

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ask yourself the question. If love exist then u can marry ur first bf

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@OP,

It is not wrong for you to marry your first boyfriend. In my opinion, it is your views about marriage that matters as there is no perfect being anywhere. However, if both of you share same opinion and want your marriage to work, then go ahead with him knowing that you both have to weather the storms together come what may.

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@ poster,

NO! it's not wise, move on very well before you settle down. Remember life is just one.

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@poster

i don't really think it's a good idea

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@poster

What a silly question to ask.

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Well, it all depend on when u started having boy friend if its @ ur tender teenage age, my answer is 'no'

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One man's meat is anoder man's poison

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Trust in the Lord with all your heart, Not trust your experience which will lead you to sin and hell

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I shouldn't be participating, but i just broke up my two yr old relationship. Was supposed to take it next level by august until poo happened. There are wonderful girls out there but a handful of them are not to be trusted. Besides there is no point crying over being disappointed in a girl you are not married to.

Honestly my heart still aches cos she was a big reason why i worked harder. Anyway, its all in the past now.

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If 4experience u need more than a relationship to have a better marriage,its as good as bursting out of a bad marriage without endurance to get a better marriage.Things doesnt work naturaly that way,sometimes its beyond ur control, Only GOD can help .

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Depends on your age,I would tend to think yes. Undecided Undecided Undecided

Sometimes at the moment it feels right,but,after you start

growing and maturing,your feelings change and you might

not feel the same anymore,so if you are young,grow up first,

then you will be a little more capable of deciding who to spend

the rest your with.

You are absolutely right,i presume the poster is mature enough to marry if not take your time have friends and grow and when you are ready you can then decide who to marry.

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this same thing is happen to me right now,

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That is the problem I am having with my present date now,I trust her and she love me so much,but he has no good past.She is just 20 yrs and she has dated up to 7 guys,everytime I check this it bored my mind so much .Everytime she tried to confuse me that the the past has already gone that she can never poo on me while where we are together.

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Well if ur bf so happens to be ur " true luv " & viceversa, you will both knw it, wen u have found ur soulmate, in each other.

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I don't know how some pple do thinks, how could you have dated like 10 guys and you call that one is experience or what, and each of the 10 guys will have bounce on you 50 times each and you call that one experience, Marry your first BF and you'll be proud to tell your grate grandchildren that your first love is still your husband till date.

I rest my case.

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Sometimes it does work.

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If he is worth spendin d rest of ur lif wit, y not.Bt trust me,dis frist guy tin doesn't work[color=#770077][/color]

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What's wrong about that? Don't you like sanity?

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if u check most streets the first house is not usually the best. Marry someone that youare compatible with ,someone that u can stomach his weaknesses. Divorce comes when the weaknesses of the other partner becomes unbearable.

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Depends on what u re out there searching for, in the sense that of comfort and all the rest of goodies in Friendship/marriage, But remember, No good things comes easier in life.

U have to sacrifices for one thing which is patenice as humanbeings are meant to cover their weaknesses. All the same work it out by urself as i will not advice u to starts counting from one house ceiling to another. All the best but be wise!

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Not all experiences are worth experiencing. Sometimes u may never be able to tell the story let alone learn from them.

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^^^ may give room for undue comparisms which may lead to being overtly choosy, which ain't good 4 a relationship.

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It depends on his personality and qualities, even though I'll say no. . .It's better for someone to date a lot of men before getting married. . .

Because it makes one have an idea and choose on the qualities she would want her future husband to possess.

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Its the best thing that can happen to someone,to end up with his or her first love.Myself and my lady are each others first.We are getting on pretty well,we have been together for 5yrs now and hope to tie the knot soonest.We are almost like a family now.

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such a weird question. Anything can happen. If u love him then u can marry him

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i still miss my first love. but am glad i left him cos after i did i found my true love.

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Do you mean go around and fukc other pple first before making a choice? cos I dont see any reason not to if we click very well. And if we can settle our problems when we have one without calling other people to our matter.

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Wonders will never cease on this Nairaland o, what did I say on this topic that warrants my post being deleted? People have said worse things, yet their posts are not deleted.

I thought Military rule no longer operates in Nigeria (where there is no freedom of speech), but it seems a mini military government is developing here. Na wa o!

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@OP

I think there's nothing wrong with that.

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@ post.

Most girls are afflicted by the obnoxious 'ojukokoro' disease; you always want to have your cake and eat it. This is the ONLY reason many end up as hoes - married (maybe) but 100 other guys can accurately describe their private geographies, some "ex's" even have pictorial evidence and have a good laugh when they see the women with their husbands prancing about in native attire as ökö ati iyawo.

My point is, yes your first boyfriend may be far from perfect (so are you too!), and there are guys out there that are more handsome, richer, more fun, caring, better in bed, etc than him. But is that enough for you to venture out in search of (uncertain) greener grass? You may get lucky, but you may also get badly burnt. The truth is, one has to make hard choices in life, and learn to live with such choices. If you keep wondering if the next guy has a bigger manliness then before you know it you'd have bleeped the whole of 'mankind' in search of the biggest. Who would lose? You.

Same principles apply to guys too; there's always a 'more desirable' alternative to what is available but you'd spend the rest of your life disoriented if you do not learn to make the available desirable.

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If you guys have no problem with each other, why not get marrried to each other.

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All,

I am not the person in question. just wanted opinions on the idea.

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If your first love hasn't offended you or given u any reason to opt out and seek for adventure, then i see no reason why u should try other guys you will just end up making yourself so cheap and u will regret it at the end of the day.

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@poster, if your feelings are genuine for each other then it doesn't really matter if it's a first love or not.

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@poster

i know where u r coming from as i have asked myself the same question because we tend to think there may be more out there, and maybe there is something better we are missing. just have at the back of ur mind that there are many guys out there who would just want to use you, and you may regret leaving this guy. i dated a couple of other guys and found out that there wasnt much i was missing, or maybe u should find out urself so u can appreciate him better. Goodluck in ur decision.

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@ OP: That would depend on if you went into the relationship originally just for the experience, cos if you're in the relationship cos of "love", I see no reason why you should leave it just cos you want to have experiences with other people, or are your feelings bulbs you just switch on and off whenever you want to?

Liliana has a point ; you really don't have to be vulgar to get your opinion across.

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