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Is It Wrong For A Guy To Get Married At 21?

I have a friend who wants to get married at the age of 21. He is really fulfilled and successful in all respect.

What advice do I give to him? Is it really too early? Shouldn't he wait and become more mature?

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WHY THE RUSH, IT IS FOR LIFE WHILE NOT HAVE SOME LIFE EXPERIENCE BEFORE YOU GO IN.

LET THE WORD EXPERIENCE IS THE BEST TEACHER NOT HAPPEN IN YOUR MARRIAGE. LET IT NOT BE YOUR TESTIMONY

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but maturity is not determined by age, a tenager could act & take decisions beyond wat an adult can

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age really matters on marriage

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age doesnt really matter in marriage but maturity

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Though 21 sounds a bit too early but it doesn't reaaly matter.

My brother-in-law was born in 1981 but married in 2003 ie 22yrs. But since I came into the family in 2005 I've not heard of any form of rift/problem/quarrel in his marriage, infact they're blessed with 3 kids now. WHILE the eldest brother married at the age of 30 but I've heard so many fighting btw them, the last time I heard they fought, the wife broke his head with her shoe and ran away.

You see age doesn't really matter. I married at 27 but i still wish I had married earlier.

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well marring at 21 is cool but not wise. Guy where u de rush go?

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Don't think it is wrong, but he must be well and settled in many areas, many many many areas.

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Is It Wrong For A Guy To Get Married At 21?

ha ba 21yrs too small

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21  is way too young

I definately won't want my brother marrying that young no matter how matured he is. Experience they say is the best teacher and honestly what experience can a 21 year old have.

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np one wants to marry a boy

'tleast not me

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well its the same as askin if it is right to get married at 41

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De guy financial JUNGLE DON MATURE. But im no know wetin dey marriage, Probably, he thinks marriage is like an ordinary relationship. Him go learn in de hard way after like 5yrs.

I have no advice for him, oh!

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No i see nothing wrong in getting married at that age, if his ready to face the responsibility then let him go ahead, and remember to tell him no turning back, after the deed has been done.

Getting married as always been most people dreams since when they were little, but make sure you are getting marry for the right reasons, it's like a lifetime commitment, i do not support divorce, so plz think about it before you make decision so you don’t regret it later on down the line.

I believe getting married is beautiful, if you wed the right person and not for their money or popularity

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maturity is a state of mind of which one attains through accumulation of life experiences. I do not think that at the age of 21 that he would have gathered enough life experience and the emotional strength to deal with the ups and downs that come with marriage.

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- as long as he knows what he is doing

- he won't go running back to mum and dad

- he's set up in life and ready for the marriage in all aspect especially, financially.

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To my own point of view, i strongly believe that age has nothing to do with maturity, U can be as old as an Iroko tree without having the etiquette of maturity.

The questions needed to be answered and submitted by him are:

1. Can i manage my home (Not with the power of money) but, with unsecede understanding and matured heart?

2. Am i ripe to become a responsible man?

3. Am i intelligent enough to passionately challenge the societal behaviour with the mode of self discipline?

4. Can i be a father?

If he can answer all these questions sweatlessly, then, he can go ahead.

Many people we want to challenge the last question i introduced above by saying everybody can be a father in as much as he can cope with the responsibilities of the child and the mother. But, they are totally wrong. "To see wht is in front of one's nose requires a constant struggle" (George Orwell),

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I don't know for others, but I wouldn't marry a 21 yr old boy

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Its not wrong in anyway, as long as there is love, maturity and achievements.

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I would like to ask how old the girl he wants to marry is and how long they dated. 21 is kinda young and from all indication, he is from a well-off family to be thinking of marriage now. U sure she isn't after the material things? and are u sure u not just after the seemingly good romance. If u answer these questions, then u'll see 21 is too young to get married. After all, how many elections have u voted in?

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Aba! too early now.Its not wrong,but i would advice him to wait for sometime this is to ensure he has undergo some basic foundermental aspect of life and have the deeper knowledge and experience on what he is trying to engage himself in.Though we are in jet age, all the impossiblites in the recent time are now putting into practice so no amazing story in it.but it only that such practice being experincing now r not yeilding good result.hence its better to "LOOK BEFORE HE LEAP".

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how many years of marriage?

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It is not wrong. To me, it is better than running around w/ lots of girls at 21. But this man should look deep & study himself. He should be mature about the biz. For example, he might be mature enough to marry but not ready to share his life (or wife) with children. He might still want to travel with friends (sans wife). He should look w/in and ask Will I tire of this woman at 28? Or will I resent her for my lack of "experience" at 30? If a fine young Jezebel comes my direction, how will I react? He should also try and understand the lady. For instance, Does she want to continue school? What are her life goals? Does this fit in w/ my life goals? Compatibility is a huge issue. When people warn against marrying early the are truly saying, "WAIT b/c you may not be compatible in 5 years" and this is true. But it's also true that a couple who marries at 25 or 35 may not be compatible in 5 years. This is the risk of marriage. It's the reason why people like Oprah & George Clooney still aren't marry and don't plan to marry ever. A person who wants/plans to marry must face this fear/risk and be brave but wise and prudent.

I have a friend who's parents married at 18. They were poor but the worked and put themselves t/o school. They saved money & came to America (from Ireland) and the father is big lawyer now (I don't remember what the mother does). But they knew themselves well well and did not have their 1st child (my friend) until they were both 30! That's 12 years after they married! This is the type of maturity I am talking about. But they are still married to this day and happy from what anyone can tell. If both parties are mature and committed then it should work.

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21 is way too young. 'Marry in haste, repent in leisure' they say. He may have it all going but i tel u he aint seen nothing yet. 27 is stil o.k 4 a guy. Let him chill a lil longer.

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I think even if he is settled he should just chill abit until 24 or 25 before anything

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i think he should take his time why the rush?

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One thing we forget is that we spend most our life married. So why the rush?

You will live with that woman for 80 years

Let him take his time.

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is not wrong,but if he's really ready

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Many people have made the mistake of marrying too early and then growing up later and discovering that they are at a different place. Then they don't want the person they are with anymore and this leads to divorce. They have to carry this "stigma" with them at a very young age that they have been married before. Mind you, I don't judge people on that, but some ppl have a problem with that. I have met young men that are already divorced by age 25. He shouldnt make the same mistake.

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