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Is It Wrong To Forgive The One You Love?

There is this friend of mine that does something really terrible to me and i keep forgiving him, and as i am typing this now, he has committed another terrible offence. Please, for how long do i keep forgiving this friend of mine?

I dont like to keep grudges within me, but what do i do now?

and as it is now, he has refused to pick his calls

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Forgiveness is the basis of all relationships, whether romantic or otherwise. But you shouldn't use that as a guise to allow any form of misbehaviour from a romantic partner. Now from what I can judge, it seems this guy is trying to shake you off. You know, call you off. End the relationship? However you wanna put it!

I am not judging (I can't from the little detail you ain't giving perhaps). Maybe you need to elaborate more, huh? We could chat in real-time. (Check my profile for my Yahoo! ID)

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U don fumble as you call am your friend,

I havent got a crystal ball but i think he's eating his cake and having it, you guys dont have anything concrete, so you cant really handle the fact he is doing you and doing someone else. best thing is make everything concrete,if he's not cool then cut the whole thing early

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If you pressure him into making promises he is bound to break some if not all of them. Just let him make promises out of his free will and there will be less cause for offence

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Its not Immature Mr. posakosa.

I forgive pple very well, i jst asked a question.

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Do you go to see him, or is it one-way traffic?

If you are christian, then the limit on forgiving each person is 343,000 times. When they have offended you that number of times, you are not eligible to forgive them anymore.

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Well said. It sounds like an immature relationship.

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 forgiveness is an important factor in a relationship but when the guy doesn't want to change. u had better discard the bloke ASAP

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I suggest don't call him about that matter and the email wasn't that really necessary if you are going to meet him very soon. When you finally talk about the matter don't hang on it you could be very nagging and guys dont like a nagging Girl i assure you. Always give him a benefit of doubt and understand him then you won't lose him unnecessarily.

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av sent him an email, hope he responds. i dont want red flag oh

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Don't you think you are just being over sensitive? You know this could cost you a great boyfriend and future mate. There must be some circumstances that are stopping him from coming to see you, and knowing how you could react he doesnt even dare pick the phone, would prefer to take it on face to face and i believe he is feeling guilty. I say go slow on him, he is human and can make mistakes, don't condemn him for everything. But don't let him go too far with it, lol!

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Ok, that's still easy. You've tried to hear his side of the story but he didn't explain. I suggest you give him some time to get back to you. Stop pestering him with calls. . . maybe he's going through something he doesn't want to, for some reasons, tell you now. Wait it out and see what he's got to say to you, say in the next three days to one week. If after that period he doesn't touch base with you, then it's a red-flag.

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He makes promises that he cant fulfil.

the problem here is that

he is coming to see me, after the promise, he would not come. calling his number, he wont pick. can u stand that?

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Now you're talking. . . but what's with the "I have forgiven him small"? You either forgive or you don't.

If you don't mind me asking, what did he do this time? And his last five "offenses" what were they about? Finances? Friendship? Interaction? Cheating? Negligence? What?

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how about you both move on, may be you don't belong together, keep it moving homey,

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OK, hes a boyfriend,

I think i should give him a kind of punishment, not that i wont forgive him, but just a small punishment. wht do u suggest, because now am very very confused.

I hv forgiven him small sha, but now to pick his calls becomes the problem because i am becoming worried day by day

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If he is only a friend and you treasure the friendship, For as many times as possible. No one is perfect,

But if its an immature relationship, I suggest you find ways to cut him off nicely,

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