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Is It Wrong To Spend A Lot On A Guy?

i've been reading through alot of the threads on here and i notice that alot of guys are complaining about how girls offer nothing in relationships and all they care about is money and never give anything in  return and blah, blah blah. My question is what about the girls who give alot in their relationships but dont get much in return?

Is it wrong for them to spend alot on their boyfreind? i ask this question because over the course of my relationship with my bf, i have spent alot on him,  i bought him a ps3 and video games and ralph lauren perfume for his bday, helped him pay for his car, bought him a mac for our anniversary, a 52 inch flat screen tv and $600 gift card for christmas,  alot of my friends tell me that i shouldnt be doing that and the guy will take advantage of u if u do.

So my question is, is it wrong for a girl to spend alot of money on a guy she loves?

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Pls b my. My friend,b careful dou! Most of dis college guys use rich gulrs. Dia lives cormfotable in xul nd afta xul dey dump u,b wise...

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there is no wrong in spending on your guy but on one condition. he is no gold digging, slack, work abohring lay about. im a guy and without any feeling of insecurity always try to be the provider. ive been out of a normal 9 - 5 sometimes but i did other jobs like playing the piano for a fee, do some jazz singing, be MC - name it just to keep it going. so if he is always trying to move his a*s*s  - GIVE.

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why should it be wrong. but just be careful cos some guys will look down on the girls. let it be from your heart and not cos you want to win his love. it wont change him. trust me.

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No sensible will allow a woman 2 spend unecessarily on him, if he truly loves her.its not bad spending on a guy but I rili question d intergrity of d guy in question when he allows u 2 buy him inconsequential stuffs like u mentioned above.A real man's got 2 hv a healthy amount of ego which will not allow him 2 ask/take tns from people when not necessary.He mks effort 2 reciprocate in his own way n within his means,

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Though for me i don't see anything wrong with what you've said so far. maybe you are doing these things for a reason best known to you, but does he deserve it? this some thing you need to know. and please mind who you ask such things, because there people whose would discourage your efforts and kindness. just pray to god for more answers and help, i wish you well,

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no it depends on u if u are willing to spend on him or he willing to spend on u and if u both are seriously in love with each other but as a guy i don't like a girl to spend a lot on me i prefer spending a lot on a girl

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nothing new under the sun.

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when women spend on men,we no go hear word.

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Wat new under the sun?

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on necessities he cannot afford, or can afford but you choose to give as gifts- nothing wrong at all. but on luxury -spend and don't complain afterwards.

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The fact that u bought a him PS3 shows that ur boyfriend still has along way to go.What anniversary were u celebrating anyway ur wedding anniversary or ur dating anniversary.U can spend no probs but what s important is the idea behind it and not how expensive the gifts are.

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it depends on da circumstances but as 4 me i see notin wrong with that

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@oblong and onc4all i'm really disapointed with d level of reasoning and d manner in wc u guys approach d issue-no insult intended.i will 2 point it out dat left to me their is nothing wrong in spending on a sensible and determined lover.it only helps to strengthens the bond and make them indebted and grateful to one another.i was a beneficiary of a simillar relationship,and i will 4eva b grateful to my girl.tnx.

@ poster d answer to ur Q is- use ur no 6 to predict,to some extent,maybe ur lover deserve,worth or appreciate ur kindness.

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If i have the means to spoil my guy, i will to the "T". Then again you have to consider the guy you're spending on, it has to be reciprocal, you can't just be giving all the time and they continue taking, u'll dry up like a well in the sahara desert!

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its not wrong to spend on a guy as long as he does not start taking advantage of your kind gestures or worse still cheating on you.

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@Sugaluva

i will say is that u should just be yourself and dont let every comment in this thread get to you, all i will advise is that WE PRAY THAT THE ONE WE LOVE LOVES US THE SAME MEASURE OR ABOVE,

the truth is that we have all care for people in crazy ways and just seem like the are using use even when they dont.

u sound like someone with a good heart

Love truly is a beautiful thing when u meet it,

i just pray u find it, if u havent.

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Its better to share wot if have with Ur date/guy

it may be ur own style of giving to the needy.

dont wait for him to appreciate u, but God will surely do.

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it is not abnormal for a lady to spend lot of monies on her boyfriend if they love each other.

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Spending money on guys is like a game of chance i.e probability of getting yes or no. I have seen and heard of ladies spending money on guys that did not love them or just forcing themselve on a guy. If a guy truely love you and you are convince, then you can spend money on him, so far love is all about spending.

However, if the your guy doesn't have much, he should be able to give his time, advice, and above all spend a little just to show his committment.

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@poster i dont see anything wrong in spending on your man, if you have the resource,if he is the appreciative type he will reciprocate, but you must not do it bc you are expecting him to do same. i did it for a guy i was dating before i got married although his late now,i dated him for 5years and all through that 5years i cant boast of using his money for ordinary earrings but i always buy him things that i knew he would like and appreciate mostly onhis birthday or maybe on my way from work or in the market, although he never appreciated it bc he kept maltreating, beating and cheating on me with different girl but when i could not stand it anymore i left him, but he later realized his mistakes and came begging, though i forgived him but never went back to him bc God gave me a better person and am happily married.

@poster if u have the resource,you can do it wholeheartedly i dont think its wrong.

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The guy will be spending on another girl period.If you know what is good for you get plan b i.e another guy in case this ur guy breaks your heart cos it will soon happen.

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sagluva, that is one thing wrong with all ya gurls why would you keep records of all ya give him, to me dats aint a present u did it to get somthing in return cos for me i give and forget, and dont tell me wen u guys broke up dat u will like to get all dat back,

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Its not about right or wrong, its about who's capable of spending at a given time, My dame has been very supportive and she really suprise me by helping me out in need. Anyways what she dont know is I owe her, what she did tells more of what she could do, So I plan making her never regret for being there.

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If you ask then you must be thinking it is wrong, or unfair. Is this your hard earned money or your parents, it is quite easy to spend alot when it is not yours. But honestly, that is just too much to spend on someone that will not appreciate it. Why not for a change not purchase anything extravagant let's see his response. He should love anything that you give him,after all it is coming from the heart.

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no we dont live together, i live on campus/home

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its not wrong, i depends on d guy appreciating it

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Yea. . . . . if you going to spend money on ur bf atleast spend with sense.

Why the heck do u have to buy him TV, do u live together?

u bought him Mac and all other rubbish. u r not his mum. i wud even prefer if u help him with his tuition fees.

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@ theblessed i should get a life? i have one thank you very much. A very happy blessed one. if u read through this post u would see that i said i am naturally a giver, i give alot to my friends and family. On my friends bday i gave her a tiffany's bracelet and ring so its something i do for everybody that means alot to me. i enjoy seeing the happy faces on people when i give em something, I give to the underpriviliged 2. i have family back home who dont have alot and i make sure i send em stuff.

Funny but if it was a guy who came on here and said he gave his girl all this stuff, none would complain, i always said it should be 50/50 in a relationship. obviously someone can afford more than the other but both should give back. its not the amount that matters but its the thought, i would appreciate a card and a love note on valentines day more than a designer purse so my point is its the thought.

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Love can do all things. Nothing wrong for a girl to spend for the guy she love,

that is if the guy appreciate it.

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guys wetin happen ? the girl dey spend ontop her bobo and una dey talk say it is suspicious and asking if she is telling the truth . haba, if na guy dey spend that much ontop woman now una no go talk so. ooo

o girl if na true sha dey carry go nothing do you as long as say the bobo no dey sniff another woman pahtah and just dey dey your money jolly .

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My dear i feel u cos i'd been there. D only tin wrong wit it is dat it's not reciprocated. U've every rit 2 put ur love into action. It's only dat in rturn u get notin bt infidelity, disrespect n neglect. As 4 me i've vowed not 2 spend a dime again on any guy dat's not my husband not even 30sec cal airtime or els sum1's paying 4 it.most guys re out there luking 4 ladies 2 'milk'. witout apologies, my ex is one of dem.

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at post,

nothing is wrong with that, just be wise

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it's not wrong just don't get carried away

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yes there is nothing wrong in exchanging gifts and assisting each other, but all these car things, i think you are beginning to do too much, because there are necessities and there are luxuries, assist him for the necessities and let him strive for the luxury as a man,

Hope u wont be shocked one day to meet another chick in that car, stop teaching him to be lazy

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Kai, you're too much!

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I might be old fashioned in thinking it's weird having a girl doing the spending.

Even if she has more money, i just find it normal being the one buying the

gifts for her.

Also considering how hard i think it is being a girl (physically weaker,beautiful on the inside, genetically more caring and emotional, CHILD BIRTH!!),

i just think i'd rather do they lavishing. PERIOD.

When they are in love, they give and give and give and most times are misunderstood.

Maybe im in the wrong century but that's just how i feel.

chikena.

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luv is all abt gv and nt expctin anifin in return! some of u guys are jst so sick to the brain that u dnt chk up on ur words of advise b4 u spill em,

@ posta, this is not d best place to discuss this!

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Nope. No more than it is to spend on a woman. Period. If the guy is not giving you affection, love and respect he deserves none of the above. If he is the love of your life and will do for you by all means but if he has no ambition and won't do for you? he gets nada.

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There is nothin wrong with that as long as u got d money. I got a frend whu spoils ha bf like mad cos her dad is a politician in 9ja and dey earning big bucks. Nway she buys him stuff like u do laptop nd she evn recently got a range rover 09 from her parents which her bf drives for her. Nways u gt d money spend. D only problem is dat u mit neva knw if he truly loves u or is just intrested in ur money. So if u feel he is not then ur Good. On d opposite if u struggle to buy him stuff then dat is wrong u guys gotta struggle togeda.Although I am a female, I feel dat is what most girls dnt get it is only guys whu dnt have dat complain about girls eatin up their money and dey r right cos u both nid to work togeda when u in dt kinda of situation not just chop d guy finish. Nways made my point. Which is, if u have more spend if not u nid to sit down and talk to him. Good luck.

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Not wrong if it's all about reciprocated sincere love.

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It depends on what warrant the spending lot spending could be OK,but the lot look suspicious ,not every human give out without expecting returns (talking about motive) . In this part of the world (Nigeria) ladies who spend a lot on a guy are usually seeing as being cheap(my opinion) . To me its not a bad idea ,buy men could be funny.So spend without counting loss or gain,spend what you can let go and don't attach any thoughts of "with all I am doing for you"

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Are you sure you're telling the truth?

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I can now fit  the  pieces, as  long as  the   guy  dey  MAP  the  babe well,  then  equation balance.  MAPPING  no  dey   easy  oh!

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My dear speaking from experience, u might end up regretting that. U need to slow it down, no matter what, let him be the man.

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@ poster

i would nt mind u ooo

lets hook up 1time cos it means that guy is nt appreaciating u,

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@poster u re very rich o, but watch the way u spend 4 d guy,it is quite much

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Not a bad thing to spend so much on your guy but girls that I know like that are either obesse or look kinda like weird mc or just straight out ugly. Now am not saying that you look like a boy or something but some girls do this to feel more secure in a relationship. Please don't kill me for telling you the truth cuz sooner or later, someone else would tell you the same thing.

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@sagluva

And just how is this generosity reciprocated?

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