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Is It Wrong To Want To Marry A Rich Man?

Here is my question:  Is it wrong to want to marry a successful man?  When I say, "successful," I mean a man who is well-off, established--in essence, rich?  Does that make a woman materialistic or does it simply mean that she has a certain standard that she wants in her husband. 

I understand that this issue may have been debated before, but if you all would please enlighten me I would truly like to hear your views on this topic.

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thank you. if the money is not there lack of it will kill love, atleast if he messes up d money can console u

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get your money ma hope you can handle the consequences tho

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I don yarn am enuff times say our pipo no deh speak the truth.

Women are like chameleon. they change their spots all the time. Most woemn want a man that will carry the bulk of their loads. Also someone said she wants a man that will always open the door for her. Thats the white man's way. Our fathers didn't open the doors for our mothers. Una go beijing , come back say una and men don become mates, mi nuh get palava with that. Even if the guy dey open door for you na when u never drop 2 pikin. By the time wey u don drp 2 pikins u go sabi reality. home vidoe marriage dey sweet but for real life e nuh be like that. Una hear me.

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@uyilicious,

I swear, marrying a rich only child will be the greatest mistake of your time. He will be spoilt (every only child is spoilt), and his mother will contend with you for his heart.

The best husbands for thieving opportunistic females (which most of them are, anyway) are rich last-born orphans - no mama to report too, siblings are older and minding their business, and you can waste his money like theres no tomorrow. You don't even have to work, Just sit at home and grow fat. Lazy women.

It's ok to want to be with a successful guy, but in truth the only reason a woman wd be seeking a RICH man is that she is too lazy/brain-dead to make her own money.

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there is nothing wrong in marring a rich man, but make sure he is an only child,so that

no brother or sister inlaw wahala.

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[center]i don't think anything bad to have a richman as husband.Cos i believe Love is understanding.Before any relationship leads you to marriage you should have knew the everything about the person. dating a richman don't mean you are going for money it depend the interest and how you fall in love but it is wrong if they force you to make love and get married to a rich man because of money.Cos the kind of relationship will never last. why, when there is know money anymore the sweet of the relationship is ENDs.~~*~~Never goes for money~~*~~[/center]

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I think the guys are misunderstanding what MOST not ALL the ladies are saying!!!

We are not saying that love isn't there, we are saying that we love the man and the money is a bonus, understanding that MOST not ALL women are self reliant and can provide for themselves, being in love with a man who has money is a truly welcomed bonus!!!

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Do these girls factor in the likelihood that the rich man is fully aware that his partner is there because of his money?That reduces in his mind,the esteem in which he holds the lady.

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While you enjoy the success, map out a plan for if/when the money runs out or if/when the money becomes a reason he wants to rule the world beginning from the heart of other women. If you have a problem thinking through that; think about Abiola and how many of his women (there should be something like womenses) still live (not merely exist) after he died.

The living are those who planned!

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there is absolutely nothing wrong with marying a rich man. Besides every woman wants to be comfortable. But the thing is that to some extent it makes the woman feel very pompous. U know as them be now, them too like free things. I would want to use this medium to tell all sisters out there who aspire to marry a ready made husband that; there ain;t no ready made husbands out there. In ur course of waiting for that ready made husband u might end up been an old maid. So make hay while the sun shines.[img][/img]

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itzzzzzzzzzz the most right thing i have ever seen, lol, aint nofin wrong with that at all

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I dont think its wrong but aint the ultimate either. i would rather i marry or date an average man who is generous towards me than a stingy SHELL boy. its from experience.

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rich/poor its no ones business and its not wrong to marry either

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You got it upside down, vitastraka!

We dont choose our physical attributes! God does that for us before we were born. Macy Grey and Missy did not ask to be so butt-ugly in the face.

However we DO choose whether or not we have money! To an extent anyway. God makes it easier for some people and more difficult for others, but at the end of the day, Vitastraka could become richer than Bill Gates! However Vitastrakess will always be ugly, even if she spends all the money in the world on cosmetic surgery!

Men look at physical attributes because we want healthy child-bearers!

Women look at money because they want security, shelter and food for their children!

Even animals do that! Have you raised chickens before? Do the hens go after the biggest rooster? No! Do they go after the KING who crows in the compound and owns all the land? Yes! Even silly Rams/Sheep do that. Dogs, too. I've raised all of the above so I know! Its the boys that go after physical attributes, not the girls!

By the way, if Vitastraka can give the impression that he is a Leader of Men even if he has no money, women will still come after him!

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dakmanzero do not compare physical attributes with Money. They are two different things.

People can choose the physical attributes they want, that is fair game - even animals do that!

But money is not a natural attribute, Women should not judge because of money

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Wowen and reaping where they didnt sow!!!!two faces of the same coin but who cares even a blind, deaf and one armed fella would get a woman once he has the wads to throw around. I just believe its their nature and they've been programmed to want be "OLORUNSHOGO and not a SURULERE"

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@vitastraka

If an ugly girl with a flat Bottom and saggy bosoms, and a childhood burn scar all over her shoulders called 'vitastrakess' asked you

'does this mean that vitastrakess does not have a chance?'

what will you say to her? whatever your answer will be to her- is your answer!

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Its not wrong!

but Isale Oro o legbin!

The bottom of riches has dregs!!

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Does all this mean that Vitastraka does not have a chance?

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Darwinism!!!

It is the law of nature for a women to do this.  Survival means really if we look at pre-historic times.

In the past lets say cave man time, women look for men that were good hunters because that ensure the health and well being of her offsprings (ultimately which is most important). 

Men during this time frame look for women with child bearing hips and suficient bosom, being this indicated that she would be able to bear  healthy children as well as be able to feed them thus ensuring his gene pool will live on (most important for men then, which also speaks to men cheating behavior)

Modern day times

Women continue to seek men that will be able to afford her offsprings a comfortable living as well as the best opportunities in life.  Good hunter is now equivalent to rich man. 

Despite the european influence men continue to look for women with sufficient hips and bosoms, however they don't carry the same meaning any more but if you guys wonder why you like these things on women so much now you know.

Also women have learn that at times the good hunter may become injured (lose his wealth) thus she has developed an alternative plan she too can now be a good hunter and will work to ensure the safety and sercurity of the family.

There is nothing wrong with wanting the cream of the crop be you are male or female, If I were a man I would not want to marry a woman that could not bring to the table what I brought.  Thus as a woman I expect that the man I marry will also bring to the table what I have or more, thus ensuring the best opportunities for our children and our future. Again simple survival!!!

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QUESTION: Is It Wrong To Want To Marry A Rich Man?

ANSWER: No its not wrong, its just narrow minded!

hey, everybody likes good things! theres nobody that dont want to be wealthy. . . but if u want riches, think WORK not MARRIAGE!

nuff said!

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is wanting to marriage a rich man not one of the qualities?

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I think you should have the following in a man before marrying him:

1. He must have houses in the most populous cities

2. He must have companies

3. He must be tall and handsome

4. He must be from your village

5. He must be from your church

6. He must be God fearing

7. He must have good education (at least better than you)

8. He must be single (cause you don't want to be a second wife)

Let the above qualities be what you want in your dream man and see if you will be anybody that meet such qualites.

The first two can not be single except divorce and those with other qualities can hardly come your way, so make do with the one that come your way especially if he has good education.

pour moi, from the sixth quality down mark my choice of an ideal man

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i guess it should be a plan B like if i dont make it marry a rich guy lol but i dont see nothin rong wit it if u luv d person

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I firmly believe that every girl should be on the look out for SECURITY! any guy that wants to marry a girl should be able to take care of her and her kids.

That said, note i said SECURITY and not RICHES. The truth is, when a girl consciously targets riches as a major pre-requisite for marriage, then she becomes something. . . terrible.

Truth is, those of y'all saying they'll only marry rich and successful men, i hope you know that your average banker can't be considered RICH for many years. Imagine a guy who's working for UBA and earning 200k monthly. That isn't rich. but it's a good job, and can easily put food on the table for his wife. But that kinda guy won't even register a blip on the radar of these gals that crave rich men. . .

SECURITY, not RICHES. That's the key.

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It's not wrong to want to marry a rich man

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nothing wrong with wanting your future husband to be ric. If that is top on your list then who is anyone to say otherwise? please marry who you want. We all have our list of what we want, it's your bed!

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Well its not a bad tin,but luv should come 1st,u have to luv d man, cos if u dont money wont be there 4eva,n wen money is gone u leave d man. that would be bad. So i think its better luv comes 1st b4 wealth.

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Guys forget sentiment and face reality, if a package comes with an extra gift and this gift is good why shouldn't i take it.

I mean it is not right for a girl to love a man for his pocket because money is physical and may disappear and i also believe in a woman being financially independent in marriage. if she loves the man for his pocket and paradventure something happens then she may not be able to stay but if she loves the man for him/personality if something happens then the love will hold cos she loved him for him.

but it is also not wrong for a girl to wish her man is OK even pocket wise cos having money is good, the kids are going to come and will need the best in life and there is nothing wrong in a woman having the best of life also.

the fact is that if a girl wishes her man is rich means that she is wishing any man who will marry her well

the Bible says money is a defense/Shelter

ponder on this

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aint nothin wrong with wantin 2 marry a rich man,

but if u refuse 2 marry until u meet a rich man,

u're headed straight 4 disaster

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How is this wrong eh

Bad belle!!

its even ova wrong to marry a poor guy, na curse?!!

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Some guys have hit the point. These days we are all agressive in what we want and that's not bad. Somewhat I agree with hot-angel, marrying sb because he is rich is not bad. Call it  materialism or whatever. Try hard to paint it in a bad light by comparing it with what some guy called "virtue" that doesnt make it bad. However, if you marry one because of riches be ready to give 100% genuine love just as u would if one is tall, handsome or a good singer. Any thing short of this, is "cheating". But, if I was stupendously rich, as a guy I wouldnt marry a nobody. You must have sth to offer. U going to have to bring sth to the table or how many movie stars are marrying a no-body? 1 in a million I gues.  I aint going to marry sb who is bringing only love to the table if I was that rich, that's how aggressive I am. If u love me that much and have nothing to offer aside "love" be ready to be my mistress. That's my point. Love has got 10 eyes these days.

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it is wrong if u base ur thought on his money, money should be the last thing to consider tthough we need it just try love

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Some guys have hit the point. These days we are all agressive in what we want and that's not bad. Somewhat I agree with hot-angel, marrying sb cos he is rich is not bad. Call it  materialism or whatever. Try hard to paint it in a bad light by comparing it with what some guy called "virtue" that does make it bad. However, if you marry one cos of riches be ready to give 100% genuine love just as u would if one is tall, handsome or a good singer. Any thing short of this, is "cheating". But, if I was stupendously rich, as a guy I wouldnt marry a nobody. You must have sth to offer. U gonna have to bring sth to the table or how many movie stars are marrying a no-body? 1 in a million I gues.  I aint gonna marry sb who is bringing only love to the table if I was that rich, that's how aggressive I am. If u love me that much and have nothing to offer aside "love" be ready to be my mistress. That's my point. Love has got 10 eyes these days.

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Thanks Hot- Angel, you have said it all.

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any marrage that is base on money will certainly fail though money is a factor but should not be the first to consider try LOVE

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Go easy on the lady.

Haven't you noticed that when most men are still struggling to make ends meet, they are usually nice, respectful & content with the women in their lives? But once they hit money, they now discover that the lady who was with them when they had nothing, is no longer good enough for them, or is no longer up to their standard? Then they trade her in for a younger, flashier model. Some go as far as giving excuses like, "the babe doesn't come from my area, she isn't beautiful enough, her cooking is salty etc." Didn't they know all these things before they made money? Some of these men even start seeking for flimsy reasons to pick a fight with the babe, in the hope that she will get disgruntled & depart.

A lot of women have seen this happening times without number, maybe that is why most of them are now taking an active interest in building a life for themselves & becoming financially independent.

Now a woman who has worked hard enough to be financially comfortable (even if she is not rich), wouldn't want a gigolo or a male gold-digger, sneaking up on her with romantic tales, in a bid to feed off her & fleece her of the little she has managed to acquire. the same goes for the men, as well.

So such girls are on the look-out these days, for men who are responsible & slightly comfortable (not particularly rich), who would NOT target the girls' assets or live off the woman. How a man or a woman views, handles & manages money is important. Is the arrival of money likely to turn a man/woman into a monster, or an egocentric individual? Such questions need to be asked.

In my opinion, riches come & go, so basing your decision on the need to marry a rich woman or man, is futile. What happens if after the marriage, the man/woman loses his/her wealth? What next? Divorce??

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No but dere ve 2 be luv in da relationship

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Marry a guy who is comfortable if God brings him oyour way but mind you, your definition of ricjs should be more of intllct, spiritual, and moral than financial.

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@davidylan,

I agree with you.

A man who is into 419 and 'hits' $5 million is obviously successful at his job. He's rich. Do you marry him based on the fact that he's worth $5 million?

Then you abandon the young graduate without looking at his prospects, just because he's not rich?

I think our society has a serious problem in this regard.

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lol, well said @davidylan.

did u notice her feminine doublespeak? in one breath defending her choice NOT to go after guys that arent paid, and in the next, claiming that men who think they can get any girl cos of their money are doomed, I tell youm doomed,

please o, madam SEXYPETS, i am not mr money oooo, in fact I am still struggling to make a living. I am just saying things as they are.

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My dear, a most annoying piece here! And by what standards do you measure a successful woman? Going by the construction of your grammer i can already picture the type of woman you are. (sorry i had to say that!)

Your idea of a successful woman is "one who is busy with her job", does that yardstick also apply to your idea of a "successful" man too? What kind of job are we talking about here? Are guys also allowed to become responsible simply by "being busy with their jobs?

What do you mean by "rich" man? Methinks we are looking at a guy with a fat bank account, a car, nice apt, takes you to europe to have your kids kind of of guy here and not really one "who is busy with his job".

My dear, it is not a crime to be rich infact ALL guys wish they were rich, it is a crime to discriminate against them (as you so aptly did) based on their material possessions.

A girl who marries an "average" guy and sleeps with her boss to "take care of the house" = A prostitute! Why is she not satisfied with the little the "Average" guy can provide? What happened to the "Godliness with CONTENTMENT is great gain?

You also failed to tell us what the role of the girl is. Is she "average" too or below or she has no role at all except look for someone to sink her gluttonous fangs on?

A responsible man is not equal to a rich man!

And you do not "start" your life with a man, marriage is a continuation of the life you are presently living,  a man is only there as a life partner not a life starter. Do something with YOUR OWN LIFE!

Besides, responsible men are now wiser. They are also looking for "responsible" women to marry. the likes of you do not fall into that category.

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There is nothing wrong in marrying a succesful man.Infact as a suceesful girl i should be looking out for a succesfull guy to get married to, because you can only predict a rich guy who has already known what it takes to be sucessful in life.not going for a poor guy thats still trying to find his root who will be behaving nice and tends to treat you right because he doesnt have a choice. maybe later things tends to change for him, he will now realise that he can make a choice,he can now go for any girl he wants.

Another question i wants to ask is "is it a crime for a man to be rich"or why did u think is wrong for women to love  rich men? or what  will you say to a girl that choose to marry an average guy and choose to be sleeping with one of his boss in the office to take care of the house? Is That Love.

This is to you 'BLADE' and DARKMANZERO Mr Money who thinks can sleep with any girl because of thier money, i wants to tell you that you can only get the girl of your type who knows nothing but to fool around not an ambitious girls who are very busy with their job and all they think of aside their job is to get a responsible man to start their life with.

This is my peace,

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Nope. I don't believe its wrong to marry a rich man.

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Well said. Any intelligent lady will take note of what you have said. Essentially, gold diggers come in different shades, shapes and sizes.

If a man goes out with a girl only because of her looks and the girl does the same because of his cash, then the relationship is doomed right from the start. Having said that, if the guy gets to show off his trophy and the girl gets wined and dined (presuming that's what she wants) in the most expensive restaurants in town, then it's a win win situation for all don't you think?

Apparently, selling your body to the highest bidder is the longest runing profession in history. No prizes for guessing the correct job title.

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Guys. One of the perks of riches is getting to use and dump all the women you want.

Sad but true.

And if women didn't think like THIS (witness the girlies on this thread, especially the intelligent ones), this perk wouldnt exist!

As a rich man, you get to enjoy women of ALL types. The finest, most beautiful, cultured, educated, silly, religious, illiterate, fat, thin, short, tall, black, white, yellow, igbo, yoruba, hausa, etc etc etc, simply BECAUSE they think like THIS!

AND you get to dump 'em and move to the next one as often as you like.

Watch a soap opera. Why are the main guys always rich (but not always handsome). Why are the main girls always hot (but seldom rich). Its the feminine fantasy. You can't fight it. If you're broke, the girls wont come running after you no matter how long ure **** is rumoured to be. Live with it.

They will delude themselves that the man whose money they are lusting over isnt after more than their tight round asses. They will scream and defend him with tears in their eyes when you tell them the plain truth, then they will cry and curse his family when he dumps them and moves on to their friend/sister/mother whoever. It is the way of the world.

Always has been, always will be.

When she looks in the mirror and sees that those bosoms arent standing like they used to, that skin is losing its colour, and the rich boy she's currently dating seems to be going the way of the last 2,000, maybe she'll consider your broke Bottom. 'Cos then its either you or bust.

And guess what? if you become rich you'll probably ignore her and go chasing the tight-assed bimbos.

c'est la vie

Dat is life, my brodders. It is sad for all involved, except the rich guys.

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mbaaaaa o it is not wrong

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no it aint, jus play it wel das al, stay wif him fo 2yrs, drain him n den leave his Bottom. n if u luv em iz anoda case, sorry cant help ya der.

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