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Is Love Possible Within 4 Days?

what do i tell a guy who loves me but i dont have any feelings for him ?

we've been seeing each other for about 4 days now and he's been REALLY nice. gives me gifs and is quite totful. the problem is i dont feel anything romantic towrds him, i dont know if its cos he's 10 yrs older than me. he's a bit good looking and has nice prospects as a young man but when he told me he loved me, i freaked out and worse still, he wants me to promise him that ill not let him down. i think its a bit too sudden and im not really sure if i even like hi at all. what do i dooooooooooooooo!

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scatterlina!!! i don die oooo!!!!!

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Love is possible anytime, but could it be true love? I suggest you join us in watching SCATTERLINA em! sorry! CATALINA & SEBASTIAN ON AIT NETWORK 9-10 EVERY WEEKDAY.

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its Possible, it happened to me in year 2000,but you need to call the guy and sit him down,try to let him know your heart so that he wont be deceived, pls, be a Good Girl

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@yimiton

cant blame us! we're scared of some other roving shark guy snapping her up before tomorrow.

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could be real feelings atimes you know, no matter how short

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na wah ooooooooooooo, i no do , i no do , u dey chop , u dey clean mouth,my mum will always say something, wetin u no wan chop , u smell am, a gift u wont take ,dont unwrap it,but now u are collecting gifts from him and giving him green light, cant say if he loves u or not , no one knows a guy's mind,he might just be after one thing , we never might tell, so gurlfriend , tell him how u feel.and let him move 4ward

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It could be anything from love to infantuation, to lust, to crush, to anything.

Bad thing is guys are too much in haste these days. They meet you today and they want you as girlfriend tomorrow.

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I believe in love at first sight.

It is rare but it happens.

It happened to me.

I saw him and instantly I knew he was the one and he had the same feelings about me.one year later,mr and mrs.

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The guy is a bit inexperienced, sorry to say. You probably liked him, until he went all needy and emotional. Up to you - this guy probably is going to be very faithful (if a little boring). You are a girl and probably are more attracted to guys that are chasing other girls at the same time, human nature. If he was on these boards I'd give him some advice to drive you crazy and really dig him, but in this case I guess you'll reject him now, and he'll chase harder, send begging texts, etc, which will be even more of a turn off. Do you have other admirers?

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@almondjoy

dont mind the foolish boy. sadly he's from my state. . .i don suffer.

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4 days?yeah! d problem is will it lst 4long,after the fallin?, 4 days,i hope im not the one o! coss i jst scoped a girl 4days ago,

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@Poster

naa waa oooooooo

within 4 days U don tell am ur family issue

b like say U 2 don ready 4 d man b4

bcus i no no how u go meet persn now and u go tell am ur family matters

persn dey different ooooooooooo

bcus me i no fit do dat kin tin

Rule ur HEART 4 LOVE

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As some had already said, love is very possible in less than 4 days, he might be observing ur attitude 4 a long time before opening up

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yes its possible,but since you dont know what to do,'FRY STONES'

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within 4 days? nope i don't think that is real, too soon to know if it is love

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Going the last statement, i dont believe naijababe doesnt feel anything for this guy (or is it man, cos he's 10yrs older than u?),, or am i misinterpreting you?

@Naijababe, what do u mean by what if im wrong?

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Hey tell him b4 its too late co the more he buys and does for you the more you will stay there out of pity. There is clearly somebody else out there for him so let him go find her. Love isnt possible after 4 days it is more infatuation or lust. Just be upfront and set him straight.

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I think love is possible in 4 days maybe he has watching you from afar who knows ,but return his gifts and gently explain to him how you feel .

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love is something that grows. it cant grow within 4 days, it takes time for it to grow. but LUST IS INFACT POSSIBLE WITHIN 4 DAYS. so which one do you want to answer

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love is possible in 3 minutes but your case be like the case of long throat.if you don't have feelings for someone then don't take material things from such a person.you dont know wat sacrifices he/she has made to give them to you and then you later tell the person you dont want them or you start feeling indebted when you shouldn't.

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yea it's psossible,it happend every day

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Even if he is not lying, I don't think it is love. It is infatuation. Some people dont know the difference and it is very easy to confuse the two. See, if at least yo felt something for him, I would have said that still go along with it and see what develops. Don't write him off as lying right away. But since you feel nothing, set him free already.

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thankss hot angel. i actually feel bad that i accepted his gifts but he saw that i needed those things and wouldnt take no for an answer.i confided in him concerning some family problems and he decided to help.

i know i should tell him that nothing can come out of it but what if im wrong?

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everyone here loves nairaland we love u nairaland

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I love Nairaland.

SO many good advisors, and people asking questions relating to others.

Okay nuff said, naijababe, i absolutel won't say the guy that told u he loves u within four days was lying. It could be true you know. Then again, u don't have to turn a blind eye to that. It could also be a lie.

Since u have no feelings whatsoever towards him, i think u should like consider telling him that u r not in for this. You dig?

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^^^ Great advice, Rho!  And a guy who tells you he loves you after only 4 days was probably just trying to sleep with you anyway, no matter how "sincere" he seemed. There are some hypocrites, you know! After they get what they want, you would hardly believe that this is the same guy who told you they loved you. So no hard feelings. Talk to him about this as soon as possible and stop leading him on!

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* U shdnt av started seein him in da first place if U hd no feelins 4 him!

*U sdnt av accepted his gifts if ya knew ya hd no interest!

*now wht U must do is 2 tell him in Ur sweetest possible way dat U're sorry bt U do nt feel da way towards him n dat it'll only be selfish of ya to lead him on!

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well gurl you maynot like or even love him

but accepting his gifts , it means something else to him!!!!,

like maybe ur interesting but really your not

trust me i know what am talking about, so dont promise him anything or lead him

on expecially if you got zero feelings for him, stop accepting the gifts

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yes,

the frist time i met my ex boyfriend,i was so i love with him and he too

the frist day i saw him it was the frist day we fell in love

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