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Is Loving Selfish Or Selfless?

when u fall in love, is it out of being selflessly concerned about the person of selfishly concerned about urself?

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To hell with what they call love.

Love?

Lets play the game ni oo!

U no wetin I don see ni!

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you need to be selfish to be selfless.

you need to look after yourself and your wants and know that they are being met/satisfied by the other person, before you can actively start looking out for them and trusting that they do the same for you.

it is a simple concept where there is mutual trust, understanding and genuine belief that you both look after yourselves and each other.

so YES IT IS SELFISH - but out of that comes SELFLESSNESS

that is my take on it - i believe you can not love/understand another until you have truly loved/understood yourself.

these days love is like the most abused word and is not appreciated - but it is gift from God that should be nurtured in peace with the harmony of honesty and understanding (somethings some ppl find hard to grasp and understand)

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Love is neither selfish nor selfless; if you make the mistake of being selfish or selfless in any relationship, then you’re bound to get hot.

True love is more like an advanced friendship, you must take your time to understand your partner so you two can get on well; and you must note that not every guy/girl you see with your partner is actually dating him/her.

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Fallen In Love starts with a selfish feeling of absolute possession and it gains durability through selfless acts.

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Its all about the kind of person you are dealing with,at times you find it extremely difficult to be selfless,that is when you want the person to yourself alone,you'll agree with me that there are some ladies that can kill themselves when they catch their guy with another lady,but when it comes to being selfless,it all has to do with the combination of the lovers,where they cant do without each other.

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sissy, u no get work? you are on every thread

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Selfish of course, and if there is only a little bit of selflessness in it - than that is also selfish - because the only reason the selflessness is there is because one wants the selflesness to grow fruits!

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nowadays love is more selfishness than selflessness

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i think the question is what is love?, and Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

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Love is a combination of both selflessness and selfishness, sometimes or most times u want that person only to urself and u dont want anyone to be with them. Some would say I would rather he be dead than to be with anyone other than me, psychotic a little. But in my opinion when you love someone as in really love them in a romantic and on a friendship level you would want the person to be happy and doing well even if you rent whats best for them. In the selfless aspect you would give your last or go out of your way in order to help the person you love.

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kini

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gigolo master,take time before love finally catches up with you

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Love is what i use to confuse Ladies in other to take them to bed

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each time i fall in love, i have my eyes glued on the moda foking Kitty-Cat.

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U need to be in love with yourself first before you can give it out to someone else.

You cannot give what you dont have.

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okay i will get back to you @poster let me go and find out

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@poster,

it should be selfless but can hardly get it nowadays

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I've met 2 or 3 very selfish girls in my time and it was not nice, i think love should be about being selfless

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