I am engaged to a man and we live 3000 miles apart. Somewhere along the relationship I got pregnant and we then decided to seriously commit ourselves to each other in an introduction/engagement ceremony with 30 or so friends. We are now blessed with a beautiful, energetic, at times troublesome little boy and we have been making preparations to begin our lives with each other, physically and permanently.
Although the distance has always been there and has always been the cause of our difficulties in other ways such as communication, intimacy, patience, sexuality, fidelity, all of which can be lacking at times, recently I was made aware of a certain bout of his indiscretion. While he and I have both had issues with infidelity in the past (although mine was not of the sexual intercourse nature), we have dealt with and moved on from those past situations. Or so I thought.
As of late, my intuition had led me to do a little investigating and lo and behold, I discovered my beloved had betrayed me. He had been seeing another woman behind my back for six weeks and had no intentions of an emotional relationship with her, only a sexual one, so they ended it. When he confirmed the details, it had happened a year ago I and it was at a time after I had just spent a month with him and everything was going well for him as well as for us.
Now, like I said, this isn't the first time I am having to deal with his lame a** behavior. Right now, I don't know what to think, or feel or do. I love him but I am not a doormat. Leaving him would be easy if he weren't a good man or a good father. He is in EVERY other way amazing with me. He cares for me emotionally, physically(when we're together) and financially. On the other hand, at the persuasion of any piece of a** that flashes herself and is willing to be a sex object - because I know him and I am sure he tells them he is not interested in another relationship - he jeopardizes our family and our future and lies to me thinking he's protecting me from hurt. I know he is genuinely sorry, but that's not even my main concern.
I am able and willing to forgive, but is this what I will have to deal with the rest of my life or do you think he will be genuine when we start living together as a family?