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Is She Justified?

I have a friend who is in love with his girlfriend. She went to a bachelors eve and got drunk in the process and started misbehaving very badly and ended up kissing a particular guy in front of everybody, knowing fully well that her boyfriends friend was in the same venue which shows she gave no regards knowing that if she even misbehaves there is a chance of her boyfriend knowing about it

The problem is that he has made up his mind that he was going leave her because she has betrayed his trust, and also the both of them are quite popular in terms of their relationship being very strong. She complains every time that he never allows her to go out that he doesn't he trust her and stuffs like but he keeps on telling her that its for her own good because he know whats does happens in clubs and stuffs like that so he decided to let her be this day and this was the day she messed up her self in front of every body.

Shes blaming everything on the drink she drank.

But look at these situation, she has the option of not drinking if she knows she couldn't control herself, she disregarded the facts that she was in public and also her boyfriend friend was also there.

Is she justified. This just proves that she has no regards at all.

The relationship is on the edge and he just explained this to me and i don't know what to tell am because i aint too good this relationship stuffs.

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she was drunk, she didn't know what she was doing so she is justified.

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Dancin 'blame it on d juice dats when u lose,blame it on d hen dats when its on,blame it on d aaaaaaaalcohol,blame it on d aaaaaaaaalcohol, '

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wow.

another trust issue .

@poster i know its been like 4yrs, so what did u finally do?, and do u regret ur actions?

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That isn't a good evaluation at all.

Ok maybe he should forgive her, but people have different level of trusting, and maybe she just broke his.

It might seem too little a thing she was kissing a guy, but if he should just let it slide, then tomorrow she'll be having sex at a pygamas party and blaming it on good old innocent alcohol . . pulease

Its time, mostly girls, own up to their actions and take responsibility, why can't she come out clean and apologise for being so irresponsible, or stand up to it if she thinks what she did was such a a noble award-earning act!!

If she didnt feel silly of her actions, if deeply she thought it was right, she wouldnt be baming it on alcohol in the first place . . or anyone wants to tell me that if the guy had done same, she'da been congratulating him??

How secured will he ever be to let her out of the house to clubs or parties without his presence if at first trial, she embarrasses herself so??

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We'll all preach forgiveness, but its left for his heart to decide. If he can't live with it, if he can't totally forgive and forget, or have the slightest feeling she could regain his trust, or have the will to continue in pure faith and see where they'll get to, then he should take his leave at this point.

If he does leave, the girl would have herself alone to blame . . to every action there is a reaction peeps!!

We all make mistakes yea, but some mistakes are more expensive than others . . if she had stopped to think of the consequences that could be awaiting her . . shame her hormones were doing the thinking!!

Is she justified?? NO - - can she be forgiven and offered a second chance?? YES.

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He was probably planning to dump her before the incident. If not, he would not be so adamant about it.

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atleast the guy and her boyfriend were just sharing lips not skirts

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She was just having fun now, In her own dictionary , Kissing could be part of it, LOL,

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dump her - i am sure if the roles were reversed, she will dump your friend, dont u know?

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my friend remains adamant. He doesnt want to forgive her. He is of the opinion that he cant trust her again. men, i don try settle them, but he no gree. I rest my case, its a pity.

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I think she is not justified ,but the guy should forgive her if its the first time.

Anyone should know that women and alcohol do not go together,they have a smaller frame and tend to get drunk faster.I have seen enough of what alcohol does to women in this country where getting drunk is not seen as something to be ashamed of.You can be minding your business and dancing with a woman who is high and she starts snogging(kissing)you.

If you follow this up ,you could find yourself accused of assault or molest the following morningwhen the alcohol clears.

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dem force her drink the drink? the thing don dey her mind since.she just wanted to express herself.how u take dey cope with her sinnce the boozing day?

you dey try sha.make she waka go kiss everybody because she don high.the booze make her fit express herself well dont mind her.

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you have the tendency of doing anything when drunk be it kissing, smooching and even f**kln

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There is nothing as ugly as a drunk woman.

And she is a shame to all women that are fighting for a bit of more freedom.

Young men will now use her as an example to give there girlfriends when they do not want them to go out on there on there own.

By the way people that do things when they are drunk can do the same when they are not.

Drinking will only wake up the beast in you and not create one

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the question is, dd she apologise or is she giving excuses ( blaming her action on the wine), cos there is no apologies but excuses then i can say that there is every tendency she will do it again and again. but if she realizes her misdeed and accepts that it will happen again then i advocate that there should be a second chance but if it is a case "it wz bc of the wine" then the affair should come to end regardless "the good old days"

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I quite agree with you.

Thats where it does starts. The next time its going to graduate into something else. She showed sign of disrespect in front of his friend at the party

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who's to say it won't happen again? maybe next time more severe, she might actually sleep with somebody.

it's easy to say it is "just a kiss," so please try and overlook it.

If I was that guy, I'd end it.

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