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[/color] There's this girl i love so much, we meet three months ago, since i fell in love with her, as a guy i asked her out and make her know how much she meant to me. But the problem is she never wanna accept me, she kept telling me that she is in love with a guy, she is in ibadan, while this guy she claimed to loved is in kogi.

i disturbed her as i donot want to accept her no for an answer, to be precise, this girl has the qualities i have ever prayed for in a lady, i know in her lies my happiness, i feel good any time i'm with her.

she suddenly stop coming to see me, and this disturbed me so much that i asked her why she has stop coming, and u would not belief her reply, she replied that anytime she comes to see me she have this feelings that it's gonna be as if she is interested in building a relationship with me but only pretending not to.

My problem is her condition to accept me, she said she's gonna accept me if only i will tell her what will happen to the other guy if she go to tell her she's find another guy, and what she's gonna do that he will not get hurt. and there's no how this guy will hear this and will not get hurt.

Please help, i don't wanna loose my Queen, she's everything i need now.[color=#000099]

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Leave the babe. Go for another babe. I think there are lotta babes are there ready to get picked.

My guy, see make I yarn you the KOKO. If she accepts you and break up with that other guy. Honestly.what goes around comes around. She will also get you hurt someday when she finds another guy who is a WUSS like you.

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'now i know your more foolish than i thought,don't take it as an insult just a statement'

that is a statement just as u said y should i take it as an insult when i know we r from different homes and brouhgt up in different ways, no matter what difficulties life might bring i'll always remember i can fly.

i see no reason y u should be annoyed with me or i annoyed with u. i love this girl and i tried as much as i can to win her love, come do u know how much it meant to fall in love and how despirate u might be to win the heart of the one u love? just think about it and see how i felt.

i'm happy we have lots of interlectuals and inteligent people in the house who had said something reasonable which you're one of'em.

please don't let us quarell over this and advise me on how to make her love me forever just as i feel, cause two heads they say r better than one.

love to hear from u again Thoniaslim .

For u with due respect Odada check my profile for my Age because i included it in my profile, and please i'm employing u to please start my name with a capital letter next time because u never know what it meant not to exist.

i can't do without u all, i love everybody who had contributed either positive or negative and those yet to come in.

love always.

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Get a grip on yourself. Life itself is a game and you should look at this as a game you would have to win. Forget about the other guy. You could as well tell her to tell the guy to go to blazes, she wants you and you need to convince her that you are the guy, Bleep up with this and you would be a loser for life

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I think Thoniaslim believes that love is the bedrock but that original poster's relationship is not founded in love

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Love and trust goes hand in hand just like horses and carriages.it feels coooooo looovin someboddy and sombody loves u back(can't remember the song again).IF love is reciprocated every other thing comes in including trust

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Let her Breatheeeee, pleeease!!!!!!!!!!!!.

i personally dont like men that pester girls. leave her alone. it's her life she can take as long as she wants to make up her mind.

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@senator

Solid foundation in a relationship should rest on TRUST not LOVE!cos when it begins with trust --love would definately follow as the building of the relationship!

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remember he didnt give us the full gist.What if she didnt love the 1st guy and was just holding on to him ,and then suddenly her prince charming arrives and sweeps her off her feet.Every relationship must rest on a solid foundation .if not it will break down.My definition of solid foundation is LOVE.

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@thoniaslim thats not fair baby

@benwood i am glad u r both in love.Treat her like a lady ,make her feel loved,know what she likes(without even u asking) and alwas focus on it.And most especially "lovers tend to care more about their loved ones than themselves" .Love is the mutual tendency of two individuals to reinforce each other.I am always happy when 2 pple are in love.it is very invisible in our society.SO BRO KEEP ON KEEPING ON.

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like leaving her alone if she doesnt call or show up, Mr lecturer spill it

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wow!!!!!!!! what a good post there everybody, u know what? u all made a point, and all your views are wise. a word they say is enough for the wise, but the truth is this girl is now in love with me, how to keep her for my self alone is what am working on.

she believes i'm the wright guy 4 her and that is true. please don't critisice the relationship. advice me how to keep and make her happy. because she is everything to me, to God i love her very very much.

Girls i need your views on how to keep her in this type of situation.

THANK YOU ALL FOR UR CONTRIBUTIONS.

I LOVE U ALL.

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lecturer how do you turn the table around?

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@Ben Wood

Good for you.hope u keep her well cos another you may be out there in love with her also and you also may loose her just the way the other guy lost her to you.

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hhhmmmm,your just so funny.it might work now,but how are you sure it would still work out later?

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y'all must be joking right?how old r u ben that u need help in maintaing a relationship?no wonder the girl told u she wasnt interested at first?u had better get ur priorities straight n' rite cos "at a time---no time!!!

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What i dont like it when something bad happens, heaps of abuse and what not will be placed on the other one, saying its all the fault of the other, but if they do something like that and it results in something good for them, they forget the other person's situation. But anyways in the end, its your choice to make and if it turns out good for you, best of luck.

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Ice i kinda buy ya idea but u know something has to die for something to live.life is a jungle survival of the fitest.u have to be strong man.keep ya game going if she she is meant to be she will come around.if u see are more often that her BF,then i think u are at the advantageous side,take advantage of that and try to spend time as much as u can.make her feel loved and care for.tell her those things that guy don't tell her.always comment positively on every little change u notice in her.,her new style of hair,her new dress,every little thing.notice every little positive change in her and tell it to her.that shows u truly care.cos u pay attention to verything that has to do with her.best of luck man.

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You like her, she likes someone else, then you pressure her be it obvious or subtle and then she starts getting mixed feelings and then she's kindda stuck in the middle and then what? And if you were the other guy, you would start hollering or lamenting about your girl cheating or leaving you for someone else or breaking your heart. . .Sometimes one does not like to see beyond what one wants to see. If she ends up being yours, pray she doesnt fall prey to another's charms.

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i think she's just playing hard to get.

dont give up man.

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what are you doing why are you trying to be kind to the other guy this is a game that should be well played convince da girl you like her and stay true, is that your photo you look cute (i'm not flirting) anyway buy her gift if you have oppurtunity to maybe she'll feel something and tell her she's beautiful. goodluck

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let her be, u're prolly pestering her a lot. If she is meant to be urs, she'll be back.

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man, no offence but you kinda sonund deperate. look,new-found love is like hot pepper soup which must be taken softly from the edges of the bowl and with a teaspoon.

there's a line in this old school track(cant really remember the artist now) that says: dont push it, dont force it, let it happen naturally; it will surely happen if it was meant to be.

forcing yourself on the girl will not make her change her mind towards you or like you any better. it might even irritate her. ladies have a rather complex nature i must confess. just play your part like a man. best of all you have told her your true intentions. be nice to her and when she needs your help do it like you dont expect any thanks or reward in return.

this works for me. i just hope it does for you.

best of luck bro

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