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Is She Under A Spell Or Making The Right Descision?

they dated for 10 years, the first and the last guy she dated in her lifetime, they were so much in love went to same school, served together in Lagos, got good banking jobs after service.

when it was time for them to get married, her parents refused their igbo daughter from marrying the bini boy. she stubbornly went ahead with the marriage by getting pregnant for the boy.

they got married, had a baby girl and then he lost his banking job.

the music changed, he started keeping late nights, became a drunk, womanizes, spends the night outside, refuses to go for the job interviews by his wife's connections, brings his friends to sleep with prostitutes in their matrimonial home, started stealing from her, and the worst turned her into a punching bag with different types of abuse, cuts her with blade, attempted strangling her with a pillow on their bed, beats the wife 's mum that came for omugo, locks her out of the apartment she pays for and tells her to go and bring her people. threatens to take their child away from her, and after everything , comes back begging with a cheap gift, and then she accepts the apology, refuses to heed her peoples advice to divorce him and then goes back to him ''cos of their child'' as she always says. and then it happens again and again after many words of ''i promise it wont happen again''

now we think shes in a kind of spell. we think that one day she might die in that house. we are scared, we don't know how to go about the issue again.

now he doesn't want to see any of us around her, wants to cut her off entirely from the people that loves her so that they wont know when he abuses and kills her. married women in this forum, please is she making the right decision to stick with the marriage or is she under a spell

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She is blinded by love. Some people are just like that and nothing one says will make her see reason until the husband kills her or she kills him in defense.

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hmm its sad,

but u people should try this, start liking the guy n being nice, do random good things for him, it would so surprise him, he might change,

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she dying because sooner or later she's gonna develop high blood pressure

thats one thing i keep saying, marriage is not a do or die affair

if u cant stay together again, then the best thing to do is to run for your dear life, because love cannot be forced on someone-if u cant stand the heat in the kitchen again, then u leave

thats one thing i love about white people's marriages, even if its gonna last for just 2years but its gonna be total commitment and real love during that time unlike we blacks that likes patching things though the word "divorce" is not in my dictionary because i would rather love been single than been divorced but if is not working (God forbid) then will separate, gone are those days (especially where i come from)that they make mockery of the divorcees

the rate at which our women (mothers,sisters,friends,collegues,nieces,etc) dies(innocent women that their lives was cut short as a result of this) is alarming(that i know about)

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she needs ur prayers now

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@i think she is mad 4 love

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sometimes, I actually believe the saying that "women like it when you treat them bad".

they say they want a gentleman, but when the gentleman comes, they say he is too soft, he is obsessed with me, he is a pushover, he is a mugu and they abuse his kind hearted nature.

what they really want is a man who will break their head.

all my uncles from my mother side, all four of them beat their wives and the women are still with them, while my both of my father's brothers are separated because they are 'soft'.

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she is not under a spell, she is just foolish.

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