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Is That Acceptable Behavoiur In Nigeria?

Hey everybody, i hope someone could share their views on this one:

I met a decent looking guy from Nigeria in my homeland about two months ago. He seemed polite so we exchanged numbers. He was relentless in his advances and called me everyday as well as text me for the first month. I must say he said all the right things ladies. About a month ago i observed that his mood started to change. I keep inviting him to visits my house but he was always busy working. Eventually he visited my home (my mom was there) and we hung out for two hours. I thought everything was cool then he started to make excuses. He said that he didn't want me to get hurt and that the timing was not right. He says one thing and then contradicts himself by saying he is highly attracted to me. Anyway, after a Lengthy discussion, i found out that he wanted a relationship with no strings attached. he felt that i would be expecting marriage from him and the pressure was too much(i am in my late twenties, highly educated, attractive and has never been sexually active). I like him very much but I'm amazed by his logic, is that acceptable behavior in Nigeria? it sounds like he wants me to give it all up for nothing, What do you guys/gals think?

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So what if your online, make i jump?

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toniaslim watsup hope u koll we can hook up ryt hola at my mail!!!

am online now

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every thing done depends on the individual, move on,

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Well too bad the guy behaved this way. But ill say that you are not open minded when it comes to mixing with the opposite sex. You always want to be on ya quard and always suspicious. This will always make men think you can not be a good companion. You also sound like a miser sorry gal relationship is purely a game some time you loose some to win some. But above all you gotta be very careful. Pls improve on your sex life cause weather you like it or not men dont cope with sex drabs. but you gotta open ya heart to what you feel is the best for you. Though you may not win all but thats the secret to good relationship. Just do ya best and leave the rest.

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hey baby girl,

the guy in question has a heart.

why don't u look at it this way, from the way u sound,u really like him, and he got that.

i think he didn't want to hit and break ur heart.

what he did wrong however, was not letting it go.

do u blame him?

we all get selfish at one time or another.

just move on,age n marraige says alot,but a wonderful life says it all.

just be happy n take care sweetie.

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Hmmmm its not only in nigeria o, as mamaput said atleast he was honest

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i would say that people differ in their attitude approach to things and how they eventually handle those things when the time comes. in answer to your question, shying away from relationship is not only peculiar to nigerian men. it cuts across the entire globe. so that a guy decides to shy away from the responsibilities that his relationship thrusts his way, that is a matter of his own personal choice and not a national issue

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i hear what you're saying and i give him props for being honest in the end. What pissed me off the most is that he even approached me with that proposition knowing my status from the first call. what i look like, a squeezable sally? He said he's break the fella legs that expected his sister to do the same. What you don't want for yourself you should try not to give to others. Clingy no, insulted yes.

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Well he has told you the truth.

Maybe after seeing the type of person you are he got cold feet and just told you the truth.

Am sure he was afraid you may start to cling on him. After he found out you were not sexually active. You know what they say about the first cut,

I like men that are honest

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he is behaving in his own way. there is nothing nigerian about what he has done

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Any behaviour is acceptable anywhere! we are all humans right? just cause he's Nigerian doesn't mean anything!

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He's a jerk. Not your style. Don't waste your time.

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