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Is The Cliche "Time Heals" Really True?

Does the cliche time "Time heals" really help? I was in a loving relationship but had to end it as I was still missing one of my exes. It's been a while and time has passed, even though the relationship was not all that great, I still miss him. I fear as time keeps passing by, I may not be able to love another or as much as I did with him. Anyone with suggestions?

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ATREUS has said it all!!!

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time makes all things easier to live with and bear!

even the pasisng of a loved and dear one - feels lighter and easier to deal with the more time has passed.

It doesnt erase the hurt or the scar even - but it makes it easier to deal with

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Time does not bring relief; you all have lied

Who told me time would ease me of my pain!

I miss him in the weeping of the rain;

I want him at the shrinking of the tide;

The old snows melt from every mountain-side,

And last year's leaves are smoke in every lane;

But last year's bitter loving must remain

Heaped on my heart, and my old thoughts abide!

There are a hundred places where I fear

To go,--so with his memory they brim!

And entering with relief some quiet place

Where never fell his foot or shone his face

I say, "There is no memory of him here!"

And so stand stricken, so remembering him!

Edna St Vincent Millay - 1892-1950

When I broke up with my last boyfriend I was so sad. It was a very loving relationship but I wanted more. I wanted to go back a million times but I stopped myself. The most important thing though is that unlike "my favorite poem", time brings relief. You will get over him. Believe me you will think back and smile with no regrets. You will love again.

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One of my favorite poems is by Edna St Vincent Millay. I will find it and post it.

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Why is a fine girl like you dying over some dude that treated you like a bag of dirt? Far better guys will go after you in a heartbeat if you let them.

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That's right baby, bang bang bang!

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The wound is fresh. It will subside. Been there b4. Bleep it, go hit the gym hard. Occupy your mind with activities that will take your mind off the prob, ya dig?

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@Monicaa

Yes it does help in a way it will lessen the feelings. It doesn't mean you would ever forget because it's possible you may never forget him but you would have less thoughts and feelings as time passes by and when you also meet somone you would also find something(s) unique like you did with your ex. I understand where you are coming from.

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190 is free

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take hart sista

i tot afta 1yr u sud hav started slipin wit another guy by now

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Yeah I decided to move on since, it's been a while but sometimes I feel I'm back to square one, like it was just yesterday. I have to learn to stop comparing.

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I agree with that statement there and that's something I have to put in mind. There are a lot of loving guys out there but sometimes I still remember my ex and feel he is better than some of what they o and that makes me withdraw.

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you have made lots of sense here mate

i once felt that way about someone and somehow

i know she is that one you never really get over but you learn

to live with it. It is hard doing so but once you meet someone wonderful

it makes it easier. Never compare because no two human beings can be the same

there is just one or several things that will make you happier in the future when you look back( you have to get there first)

asking yourself questions will do you no good because only him( your ex) has the answers

it gets easier. . it really does!

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Thanks everybody for your help, I guess, I'll have to force myself to let go of such emotions.

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yes, time heals.

especially if you let it.

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@monicaa-

The first thing to understand is that this is not unusual, and many people go through this at some stage in their lives.

The second thing is to accept the way you feel, and stop beating urself up, or feel guilty abt it. If you dont accept there is a problem, you will never start the journey of finding the solution - which brings me to the 3rd thing.

You confirm the relationship was not that great, but you miss him - The reason is that there is a way he made you feel, or the relationship made you feel, that is now missing in ur life or present relationship.

Do bear in mind this might have nothing to do with him (how nice he was to you), and may have everything to do with you (something abt him/relationship made you feel god abt urself).

This is what u have to identify. Once you know this, or meet someone who makes u feel the same way, it'll be a lot easier to move on.

Do note that moving on odes not mean you forget. It simply means u accept the loss, and the way u feel, and just get on with life or ur future relationships.

Many posters assume this is a simple black/ white issue, without understanding the intricacies and complexities of emotional entanglement.

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You mean you are still having feelings for the serial cheat? You have cried enough about him. Let him be and move on.

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Time heals when you want to heal. If you're still secretly hoping the object of your affections will come back to you, you'll never let go and you'll never heal.

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Yes, if you are of that frame of mind, eventually things fade.

Love also heals.  You find something/someone to love

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It depends on your mindset. The only way time would heal emotional wounds is when you divert your attention to something else other than that emotional hurt. If such step is taken, definitely, time would heal the hurt.

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