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Is There Ever An Exception To Cheating?

Last week, I watching an African film called 'Battleman,' featuring Van Vicker. He was a soldier who had just come home to his family. His wife wanted to have intimacy but he refused. The wife basically says to him: 'Are you avoiding me because you slept with other women? If that's the case, I've already forgiven you. You were living the life of a soldier and I expected that to happen.' Despite the fact the wife was celibate for two years.

Now, my question: Is there ever an exception when a partner cheats while in a committed relationship? For

example: 'I was drinking too much, I thought he/she was you,' 'You slept with him/her, so I slept with him/her, He/She seduced me. I couldn't help myself or a Long Distance Relationship. If so, why? If not, what's your explanation? All opinions are appreciated!

I don't know if this is already a topic. I did a search and couldn't find anything. If it is, sorry in advance!

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@ agathamari

"you wernt here" - your hand isnt good enough to last till i come home?" (Too funny!)

Now, I can only speak from my perspective but from what I've seen, it's always bothered me that some people, when they find out their partner has been unfaithful, accept it, especially in Nigeria. It's almost treated as an expectation for them to cheat. When did it get to that point? When did some of us decide that cheating was not a big deal?

Maybe even acceptance is too strong of a word. I say this because when I think about this topic, I think of my mother. My father was unfaithful to her. She never 'accepted' it because she always held it against him, was passive aggressive, unhappy and etc. But she never sought a divorce. She gave up her personal happiness because of cultural expectations. So maybe she did accept it on some level, I don't know. I'm talking in circles.

Does anyone else feel the same way I do?

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That should be the only exception.

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lol, my fav is still " it tot she was you" hahahaha heard that on a comedy show i almost died laughing

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there is absolutely NO reason to cheat and no exception is valid. anyone cheating is not ready to either be in a relationship or marriage.

if anyone believes that there are exceptions then they should at least tell their partners about this"exception" so that THEY (the partner) can have fun too if they wish.

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@AREABOI

i LOVE THE she seduced me part!

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if you are mature enough for a relationship, you have the ability to make rational decisions. "i was drunk" - you made the decision to drink yourself silly. "she seduced me"- you made a decision not to walk away. "you cheated first" - so now were are 5 years old? "you wernt here" - your hand isnt good enough to last till i come home? would you tolerate your gf/bf husband/wife doing this to you - i grantee you wouldnt. if it is wrong for someone to do to you then it is wrong for you to do to them, simple

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Heediots give those kinds of excuses.

I can understand the soldier own. I can understand certain scenarios. . .like if you have an open relationship or some sort of agreement.

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personally

i cant stand it

so no excuse will do

not even

'she Molested me'!

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Before you are called a cheat you have to be caught first. If you are not caught will anyone call you a cheat?

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Then if you believe cheating isn't cheating unless you get caught, what would you call the actions of a partner having relations with someone other than their boyfirned/girlfriend?

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For me, cheating is called cheating only when you are caught. As long as you don't get caught, you haven't cheated. Anyway, as long as you have a gf/bf somewhere, you shouldn't cheat. If you feel like tangling with some other person, then you must end the relationship first.

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