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Is This Being 'materialistic' Or 'romantic' ?

Ok, i've often been into relationships and had/have admirers who relishes doting on me. Infact i've gotten so used to guys giving me gifts as u may name. It has often occured so much in my life that it became a regular thing and then i got tired.

At that very point in my life i met and fell in love with this guy, i just had this soft spot for him, there isnt any thing really that striking on him as ladis may want physically but i fell for his heart and said "he's got the best heart in the world" but u know as time went on, we were so glad to be happy in luv that i didn't realize i was missing somethings until about two months ago, (our realtionship is running into two years). I have been doing lots for him witout looking out for things i'lld get back to the extent that i realize, its getting kind of unusual, i buy him gifts birthdays or no birthdays, xmas or no xmas, valentine's day or no,  one thing or the other almost evertime i visit., but i realize i he only gives me money ok when he feels i need it and i'm grateful. but he has never for one day given me a card, a card for crying out loud, not to talk of a gift, even on my birthday he just took me out & said the gift would be later just like he postponed that of Val's day that i waved off.

U knowi read it every day in magazines, in books that if u really love someone, u see things around that u can buy, hoping to make the other person happy. is that not it? i see things everyday that i can buy for him but he is making me keep my hands in my pocket. what do u think, i want this guy to show some love, DO YOU FEEL ME?

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I've always felt, if you liked a person whether its a sexual relationship or not, u r bound 2 see things dat u wish u cld give d person. These things may b material or otherwise. But d one cardinal rule about love is d need 2 give dat is why Love is the greatest of God's gifts, it gives u d opportunity 2 b (1) Humble because u r automatically forced 2 wait hand n foot on d person (2) U never want 2 do anything dat u consider disappointin 2 d person so u wld b mindin ur Ps' n Qs' in d process u get 2 redeem alot of wrongs. So if ur guy is really not giving may b he has "fallen in love" enough 2 make him freer in his giving. But all these are just my opinions

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He may be showing you love in other ways but you are too busy expecting gifts to appreciate the little things he does for you. If he gives you money when you need it, then he sounds like a guy who is practical, not stingy.

Why not just tell him how you feel? He may not realise that it hurts you. Not all men are into giving cards and presents.

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u know i just confirmed how silly u are, now i know that common sense is not so common, see how u came here to disgrace urself with this rubbish u posted, EWU IGALA

@poster u are not being materialistic.my ex was like that.just kept taking from me till i thot i was going to pass out if he doesn't stop and when he wanted to give he gave very unreasonable gifts which i were even ashamed of admitting to myself that he gave me that, anyway i think u should tell him how u feel, love should be reciprocal not a one way traffic,

@oboatiowhatever am sooooooooo disappointed.

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u just wrote the way u think, u are very dull

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No, I don't feel you. In any case, talk to him about it.

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