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Is This Human Nature?

Do we really love those who do not love us as much as we do and don't really love those that love more than you do and willing to kiss your feet?? For example, in a relationship- when a partner misbehaves n keeps misbehaving, you still love that person but those that claim the whole world for you and would treat you better, you find out, you don't really love the person(s)

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Ujujoan has said it all. I go with her opinion.

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women tend to love those who show no interest in them.

If you chat up a white woman in a normal way, she'll reject you but if you just show a lack of interest, she will die to have you.

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I don't think it can be generalised that it is human nature to love someone who does not love you. If that is so, why do we hate our enemies instead of loving them, even though scriptures told us to love our enemies?

Monica, what I think is that it is emotional blindness. Often, if you bother to look at it deeply, you will find that the person who loves someone that didn't reciprocate him/her would, have a reason (whether it is good or bad) for loving the stone-hearted fellow.

If the object of obsession is taken away, love will evaporate quickly. The object of obsession, can be: wealth, beauty, power, fame, etc. It could also be a result of fear. Fear of criticism, fear of not finding another partner, fear of being on the losing side. It can also be a result of cultural or religious prejudice.

Whatever it is, I don't think it is human nature to love those who don't love them. Humans are selfish by nature. They only venture into relationship when they know there is something in it for them.

If a lady stay in a relationship where her man is using her as a cushion or punch bag, it is not because she love him so deep, but because she know there is something in the relationship for her.

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No girl is following any1 around or begging to be taken back here, maybe u have another story n like i said read the post before these

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answer me dis qstion,if a man cheats on his girlfriend a couple of times,infact stores a girls Unclad pics on his fone,tells a girl hes no longer interested,walks in and out of d relationship anyhow,tells a girl the feelings he has for her has faded away,hardly apologises but d babe apologises even when he offends her,tells a girl he no longer loves her and wants or has smone else

and d girl keeps following him around,begging him to take her back,same feelings still there

pls tell me,is dat love?must we all be silly all in d name of "blind" infatuation?

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I believe its human nature

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calm down monic,I'm not insulting u,I'm only giving my opinion(generally) there is a different between heart break and heart breaks

listen "first fool no be fool but na second fool be foll" so they said,and its true

heartbreaks from one person alone,is foolishness,a girl that claims to love one man that cheats and prefers other girls to her is not inlove,dat is not love,its more like foolishness

she needs a shrink

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What is foolishness? If love is smart n wise, I don't think there would be anything called heart break, lost love n all. No one is saying here that love is foolish? Maybe if u read my post n some other replies, you would understand where I'm coming from

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well it's natural for someone to resist other paople's feelings towards them which they can't really explain or have a reason for not loving back. it's natural i say

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@ Post,

Yes, I think it’s just a part of the selfish and challenging nature of human beings.

Most of the time, when we meet people who really love us, we take them for granted. It’s not intentional of course, but the selfishness in us usually overcomes us.

On the other hand, when we meet a guy/girl who doesn’t give a damn about us. We become challenged. Our subconscious tells us we love him/her when all we are actually trying to do is to prove that we can get his/her love.

So yes, I think its human nature.

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This is one puzzle that i have been trying to unravel for only God knows how long.

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nope,its foolishness and stupidity

love is not blind,love is wise and smart

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