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My guy monitors evry move i make n even evry step i take.he wants 2 be aware of evrywhere i go to,my lecture timetable,my wkend schedule,wen am due 4 my period,my friends,my txt messages,being conscious of evrytin i wear out.infact am tired probably i shud just back out but d luv is there.pls just talk 2 me

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Abi o,paddy me,who wan direct her kwanu?my own na make e just be say I type something.

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CocoA were u wan direct poster its after 4yrs una wan begin dey prescribe, poster go don get belle join to d mans family.Its pretty obvious she aint living him she likes older menn and she will carry on worshipping d guys arseee, she has no say wotsoever in d union.

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Come op if you need prayers I'll direct you to a prayer house oe ehen,iya witch is even here to help you unravel it,just kneel down.

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@op, kick his f'u'c'k'i'n'g Bottom off ur life jooh. Yep, all men have fragile ego but his own depicts immaturity and insecurity. Is he indirectly calling you a cheap s'l'u't? There are real men outside that will appreciate you well. Your 'boyfriend' isn't man enough.

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@ Meg,

Methinks it all boils down to the age difference. The man will have a complex of "since she's this much younger than me, she might be seeing someone her own age hence all the monitoring." I really don't advise you to allow him foot all your bills if your folks can and i feel the monitoring may reduce after marriage. Anyway i wish you the best though i think u should consider some other factors, do u get along well with his kids? Also does he give u the respect u deserve? He's already made and may therefore not appreciate u like a guy that you built things together might. Anyway just consider all these factors and the ones posted by others b4 u make ur decision 'cos at the end of the day u are responsible for whatever decision u make and u'll live with it everyday of ur life,

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Cut loose the guy who has been monitoring you like a hawk. Control sometimes could be a stepping stone to physical abuse.

@2nd girl, there is nothing wrong in dating a widower, but first, you might have to ask yourself, how did his wife die, how does his kids relate to you? Are you sure that you are prepared for a readymade family? And lastly, what happens in future your hubby passes away, how will the property be divided? Have a serious discussion with this guy friend of yours before taking the next leap. If you are approaching the relationship with caution, then, go with your instinct and sever the relationship. Problems are more likely to escalate in a ready made family than a family where there are no kids yet.

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Yay! Bringing up old thread to break the boring monotony.

@OP

You're in bondage. Don't worry. When he starts beating you, use his money to clean your tears! Mu ha ha ha!

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I wonder why you want to get stuck up with a control freak. A widower with kids is no big deal. Age is nothing but a number (1.e if you can handle people thinking he is your arist0, that you are a gold digger, him looking aged when you are in your thirties, most probably being a widow at an early age). So get him to understand that his over possessiveness is getting to you then you guys can sort yourselves out and work something out. Cheers. Good luck

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What exactly should we pray for? pls make the right choice and if you decide to marry your daddy make sure he is actually rich not average.

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Her problem initially was not the age gap but the way he tries to control her, which is unhealthy.

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Wateva d case maybe nairalanders kip praying 4 me

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Wateva d case maybe nairalanders kip praying 4 me

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@ seun

na wah o

y counsel d girl wrongly?

age really has no much effect esp if the guy is older as in this case

u remember zik's case?

he married a small girl like some 40 yrs difference and they enjoyed the marriage

@megvikky

just pray that he lives long

or else the children and family will say u killed him

wahala don burst be dat

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Abegi U people shld stop diz Beating Around d BUSh stuff---If there's no money in MARRIAGE--how will U n'joy it?

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His controlling nature is what you initially complained about, so the age difference is not your greatest worry.

If you marry him, make sure you embezzle a lot of his money because you won't enjoy the marriage at all. Cheers.

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Fellow nairalanders am grateful 4 ur replies but u must know am not after his money,his kids r 14 11 and 8.infact he wants my folks 2 all my educational bills 2 him,he's man enough 4 me but d age difference is my greatest worry

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Megvikky,

There is nothing wrong marrying a widower.

But his monitoring u is pure BONDAGE

Warn him and if he doesnt agree to ur opinion

Scaram and leave him

enough guys for Nairaland

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Are you out of your mind?? Why would you want to marry a widower with 3 kids? That one hell of a decision when you have single guys all over the place.

Prove it to me you are not after his money afterall what would he give you that a single 20 something yeah old man won't?

Think deeply baby girl and act like someone who's matured. aight

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Yea its d same widower dat wants 2 marry me

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Ohhh Boi no b small tin ---i'm jus seein this thread---- 18yrs older with 3 kids hmmmmmmmm

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