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Is This Love? Wake Up Nigerian Women

On Thursday, July 24, 2008, a 50-year old Nigerian man Michael Collins Iheme shot and killed his 28-year old estranged wife, Anthonia Iheme, in her work parking lot. Witnesses say Michael fired several shots into her car then ran into another car and drove away. Shortly after the crime, he called 911 and told the operator that “Yes, I have killed the woman that messed my life up. A woman that had destroyed me. I am at Shalom West, …my name is Michael.” The police arrested him about 100 meters from the shooting where he stated, “I called the police….I shot her…I shot her.”

Well this is freaky you know im not here to judge anyone but i have a question to those Nigerian women, the fact that you know you own man are abusive why do you even marry then i think Nigerian man should be gay, they should marry each other period

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This seems very targeted and biased. Do you know WHY he shot her?

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Women should beware of going out with mad men and should beware of marrying lunatics.

Do not be fooled by the riches or good life.

I know a Nigerian billionaire who beat his American wife until she passed out and ended up in EKO Hospital.

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BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

My fave was "David Chike Macgraw" It's true! We are not in the news that much so when we are it is quite a shock and it is always made out to be more than it is, like "oh golly, what are those savages doing in our peaceful land now?"

But i do always freak out with glee when I see a Nigerian name on tv, (reporters, journalists, models, etc)

"OMG! OMFG! she's igbo/Yoruba/etc" LOL

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I do understand where a misunderstanding may occur between Nigerian women and Nigerian men, due to out of date expectations and social evolution, to me this is proof that we are all suffering from gender roles in our country, what could work then can't always work now and we need to stop trying to make it work in a time where these roles don't always apply. I wonder if its harder for African men to adapt to new ideas on family structure because the past one placed them at the "head" so to speak, and they may feel like they should have what their father's had or see it as a threat to their self-worth or power. Our women are thinking outside their boxes, they are doing new things and we should try to embrace them and African women should understand that men in our country are changing to and not to pass them all off as assholes (except for when they are LOL ), their are non-conventional Nigerian men that have had the benefit of seeing both sides of the coin and are willing to accommodate new ideas on balance, gender roles, etc and then there are those that are just waiting for someone to teach them , this applies to African women as well, since I can't tell you them number of times I've heard an african man say " I can't date african women, I need someone with opinions and boldness, blah blah blah". All african women are not silly or weak (some are just as some white/asian/hispanic/etc women are) and not every African man is ignorant and unchanging.

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@ OP

No offense but how old are you? I'm guessing you're probably around 2 to 3 hrs old, that's why this comes as a shock to you. It also explains why you think only Nigerian men kill their wives. . . yep, they are all over the news like

Scott Adebayo Peterson killed his wife Laci Tutu Peterson.

Charles Jide Stuart shot his wife Carol Banke Stuart.

David Chike Magraw strangled his wife Nancy Adanna Magraw

Joseph Sule Romano killed and dismembered his wife Katherine Hajara Romano

Seriously, are you ok. . . I suggest you go take a nap, babies need all the sleep they can get.

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@ poster, whatever! If you hate Nigerian men what the hell do you keep coming back to us? Just freaking leave Nairaland. If I were to post stories about white men abusing their wives, I don't think the server would have enough space to handle it. Always wanting to remove the speck in our eyes when there's a forest in your own eyes.

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Please!!! People of all nationalities kill their wives all the time, I think that Nigerian/African men get much more focus while abroad because of the stigma against african men in general as domineering tyrants, which other men are also capable of being and isn't always true . Another thing i have noticed is that people assume african women that migrate here as "spoiled" back home, I do admit that leaving your home to go ANYWHERE will force you to widen your perspective and take on new ideas, but just because something is different does not mean that it is wrong, we have to learn how to grow beyond our own walls. This may have been the cause of the poor woman's death : built up frustrations in a man that couldn't or did not want to understand new ideas.

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Here you go osisi

http://kstp.com/article/Pstories/S522462.shtml

It was on Eyewitness News.

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This thread is outrageously silly.

Domestic violence against gender is a problem that worries every nation. Wonder when morons will get out of the stereotype of Nigerian Men are responsible for their sufferhead.

It is not a must to marry a Nigerian Man. If you are not happy with Nigerian Men, carry your hate and go die with it.

Queen Rania is busy fighting the stereotype of violence against Women in the Middle East, and she is appreciated all over the world for it. I wonder where your hate alongside with your fellow Nigerian Men haters on the forum will carry you to?

Ask yourself!

Stinking drone.

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Sorry dude. Finally he could allow the beast in him out. Besides don't you know men also kill their wives in your lovely Nigeria? Mentally weak being. Continue blaming it on the west and displaying your lack of intellectual freedom!

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I think you should be serving kolanuts and palmy at Okija shrine.

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the guy just acting out his western influence, and now u want to coin it a nigerian thing. as far as i'm concern that guy stop being a nigerian long time ago, and he is from your country where psychos go around as men.bullshit!!!!

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Dont even know if i shd comment on such nonesense, cos no one can ruin ur life without ur persmision and when u dont wanna be with someone anymore, why kill the, just let them go.

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He might have brought her here straight from the village!

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source please.

This is becoming all too common in the west

Frustration I suppose.

But wait o

what will posess a 28 year old girl to marry "her own father"

How can they relate?

she'll be listening to psquare while he's dancing to oriental brothers.

How sad

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http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-155401.0.html  .   Killing the one you love is not the most exciting way to express your love for her.

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@ poster

It seems you don't like Nigerian men eh?

Welcome to the club!

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