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Ladies Are You Looking Forward To Getting Married?

for me I cannot wait! I know so many men seem to dread it but I love the idea of choosing a lovely dress and having all my bridesmaids, experiencing married life and having cute little kids.

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Nah, i nor want am jor.

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I think I am the craziest woman the world has ever seen because of what I think about my marriage. I want to be married YES but my wedding will be restricted to friends and family not more than 50 guests LOL. My honeymoon should be in the wilderness deep in the jungle the AMAZON will be great.

i strongly look forward to getting married

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No, i'm not looking forward to getting married. . .kuz i'm a nun & i kant afford to take off my veil/leave the convent for any reason.

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God will surely answer your prayer.

Go out and seek for the right partner brother, you will surely get one and if they are not up to your desire mold them to be. Heaven helps those who help themselves.

The Bible says we should marry a fellow believer and its not compulsory we have to see a vision before making that decision. We are in a very sinful world now where it is very difficult to hold yourself against fornication. The society and media is very loose with temptations everywhere you turn to.

I wish you the best of luck in your search and God will soon surprise you.

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everyday i pray 2 God for the right partner. am really tired of being alone.

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^^^^ lol, make U dey wait nah abi

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a lot of ladies are in the waiting but it seems like the man is not coming to them. all dat is required is to treat a man respectfully and he will reciprocate and even make a proposal to u. try it and it will work. experience has proven this

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oga negro,thanks for the song.

@ezinne,do u like d song?

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I dedicate this song to all the women looking forward to get married. This is titled "Get me to the Church" and was in the classic movie "My Fair Lady".

Jamie, Harry, Friends : There's just a few more hours. That's all the time you've got. A few more hours Before they tie the knot.

Doolittle: There are drinks and girls all over London, and I've gotta track 'em down in just a few more hours!

I'm getting married in the morning! Ding dong!

The bells are gonna chime. Pull out the stopper!

Let's have a whopper! But get me to the church on time!

I gotta be there in the mornin'

Spruced up and lookin' in me prime.

Girls, come and kiss me;

Show how you'll miss me.

But get me to the church on time!

If I am dancin' Roll up the floor.

If I am whistlin' Whewt me out the door!

For I'm gettin' married in the mornin'

Ding dong! the bells are gonna chime.

Kick up an rumpus But don't lost the compass;

And get me to the church, Get me to the church,

For Gawd's sake, get me to the church on time!

I'm getting married in the morning

Ding dong! the bells are gonna chime.

Drug me or jail me, Stamp me and mail me.

All But get me to the church on time!

I gotta be there in the morning

Spruced up and lookin' in me prime.

Some bloke who's able Lift up the table,

All And get em to the church on time!

If I am flying Then shoot me down.

If I am wooin',

Get her out of town!

All For I'm getting married in the morning!

Ding dong! the bells are gonna chime.

Feather and tar me;

Call out the Army; But get me to the church.

All Get me to the church,

For Gawd's sake, get me to the church on time!

Starlight is reelin' home to bed now.

Mornin' is smearin' up the sky. London is wakin'.

Daylight is breakin'. Good luck, old chum,

Good health, goodbye.

I'm gettin' married in the mornin'

Ding dong! the bells are gonna chime,

Hail and salute me Then haul off and boot me,

And get me to the church, Get me to the church,

For Gawd's sake, get me to the church on time!

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i go cane dis girl with ma koboko.she no dey hear word.

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So in essence you are rude, obnoxious and indecisive! Because i don't see how on earth you can dispute that. You should take your own words seriously, it will help you.

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who told u dat i feel under appreciated?i dont.i want ladies like u to get to appreciate guys like me.i know u are speaking like this cos this is a faceless forum.am sure dat girls like u are reasonable and respectful unlike what u are trying to portray.dont try to be who u are not.

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Thanks for coming neutral on this issue and indeed change is hard but the ladies don't realize that yet. I told rosabelle but she says the ladies are going it alone. Well the sad marriage stories littered around tells it all. Like you advice her she might see a man that will accept her as she is and boom a perfect marriage. Likewise i might see a lady that will accept me as well boom a perfect marriage. (Though the ladies have greatly mistaken my position that's why i asked everyone to visit this thread http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-343557.32.html ) All what i am trying to explain is you can't go it alone and there are many men who cherish ladies like them provided some things are guaranteed from their perspective.

I agree with you that we are in the 21st century and things have changed really. We are all here together and just like you the kind of lady you wish is what i also have in mind. There are reasons why some men still want to keep ladies as house wife but ladies don't know. I for one will never keep a woman as a housewife but whoever i happen to fall in love with and ready to spend the rest of my life with has to sit with me and we sort things out properly before getting married so we don't experience one of those sad stories.

Though the post in black above could be some how difficult to achieve sometimes but with understanding, contentment and sacrifice we will get pass that. All what the ladies and guys has been bragging here will be sorted out in that stage in a loving and respectful manner so that they can have a blissful marriage if they come to an agreement. I use the word love there because it concurs so many things before we turn marriage into a contract negotiation.

After all the Bible says he who has found a wife has found a good thing so who doesn't want a good thing?. I will never dispute the fact that women are now equal partner who deserves all the respect they need and ask for but it also goes both ways. The little problem women have is gauging their respect for men with the wrong indicies. By the time we sort this out we will all have a blissful marriage.

Thank you all for this discussion and please do visit that thread and read all the pages.

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See gbesi u don carry for your head. So your problem is that you feel under appreciated? Nah wah!!!! Once again the almighty Ego gets the better of someone. You and your Pal Pharoh can go and discuss solutions, HE understands you best :Pl.

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keep quiet there.u no like to be fuuckked.u need someone dat will take his time to Bleep some senses into u.that will make u appreciate men.

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hey sis,ignorance is not bliss but u are ignorant.u need to be fuuucked well .lack of good sex is what is making do all these

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lol, ignorance is not bliss. I'm tempted to show you what an insult is so that i can be sure that you have something to rant about, but then it's stooping to your level and i can't be bothered. It is expected that if you offer more, you state it, it's not a war and you are far from being significant.  But you needn't worry, your choice of lingo says it all, i guess you and Pharoh are indeed birds of the same feather, lol.

*You won't understand until the message hits you later like a bomb* lol!

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What more can I say other than WOW! After reading from Pharoh, Rosabelle et al.

Both sides of the divide only succeeded in confirming the given belief that change is hard.

Generalisation-the common trend of putting every other sex in the same bracket is wrong.

I hold the belief as a man that those intolerable of change will more often than not have difficulties relating with any sex. While it is human, it is hardly excusable. Marriage is not for everyone, man or woman. On the contrary happiness is, and again not for a particular sex nor people. I don't subscribe to the view that a woman/man must be married to be happy. The pros should be weighed, the cons evaluated; the strife begins when we give into the demands of another empowering them to take control of our will to discern.

Rosabelle & co, go wherever it pleases you, find happiness in your endeavour. If and wherever your journey takes you you find and fall in love with a man, that allows the you in you to soar, be free and be happy.

Pharoah et al, the value and identity arguement worked in a bordered world, when we as africans were isolated, without the knowledge of the outside. Those are thinning very fast now, cable TV is here and so too is change.  Change that sees and makes a woman head of a fortune 500 company, the days of stay-at-home are gone, with our parents I should add. Now the woman is a partner, an equal owner in the man and wife business. Something tells me, like I have experienced; if a woman is treated well and laid out properly like a tile it wouldn't matter if she brought home the bacon she'd still cook the food if she got the respect in return.  I'd rather have that kinda happiness than worry about not doomineering. In between, am a man.

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@ezinne

after insulting men u are now trying to sound innocent.u mentioned above dat naija men offer nothing but sperm.(point of correction -sperm and -at least,u like d latter.)

what boundaries cant i cross?i would cross any mutherfucking boundary.4k u,Dam

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even as a man i dont think i want to get married talk more of woman, sigh

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No, am not looking forward to it at all, but is a necessity in our society, well maybe when I finally see that special man that is worthy of my love, then maybe i will gladly lost my freedom.

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Its so strange. Always haggling like people say women do.

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Who directed the movie, what year was it released?

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@EZINNE & CO,

I will like you go see the movie: COMMITTMENT!

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I'm more curious as to what has them so worked up, it's funny really. 

Even funnier when it's usually said to be women that get worked up unnecessarily.

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1. Abusive men.

African men cant use their mouths to formulate normal arguments, they must first abuse you before they start.

Ive never seen soo much complex in one continent. Macho macho everywhere.

Say what you have to say without abusing a woman ohhhh you these men! Haba!

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Why am i fool? lol, ah,,,, this should be very good indeed.

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Which other boundary are you talking about . . . . . . . . . Whereas you have already crossed the boundary by vomiting the quoted dumb statement.

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@iykedare, i am free to have my opinions, as are you, but i will suggest in future, if you don't understand something, ask questions, it will do you good. Ignorance is not bliss! As for even having the nerve to mention My dad, well i trust in time you will understand that there are boundaries that should NEVER be crossed, even in a forum.

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Nope, last thing on my mind as of now

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@Poster, You sound like you want a wedding, not a marriage. u act as if marriage is about the ceremony and the ring and all the material garbage. the wedding is only one day!!! i don't think you said anything in that question that showed u were remotely ready or interested in an actual marriage. u didn't even say kids, u said "cute" kids. wow. what if u have ugly kids, will you throw them away? hahaha very funny thread.

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pharoah pharoah,pharoah,pharoah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!how many times were u called?hope u rnt gettin on my nerves.

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Theres no agument anymore, but the dude wants to go on.

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lol!! no need for a 5 page essay, u missed my point, but i'll reiterate. All men offer women is 'fresh sperm' and all women offer men is a 'live hole'. We can all live happily ever after 'without each other', were it not for social prejudices like 'illegitimacy', or probably the "Cultural significance placed on marriage', and lastly boredom/ companionship . It's that simple, no debate needed. I'm not even going to go towards scientists, cos that eliminates one problem, and with Lesbianism becoming more 'accepted/ overlooked' that has eliminated another. As for culture, we all know how high high strung African men get about African women being influenced or over absorbing the so called 'western' ideologies, and 'feminism' ( but i stand corrected, just an opinion and i won't go there). I believe I've established the only significant 'item', i believe men bring to the table, and what i believe women bring in plain form, you can 'state' others.

Before you get carried away with your decoding, there is nothing 'silent' about the 'point' i'm making. I doubt i would be as bold as you to call it 'truth' let alone 'fact'. In essence, when it comes down to it 'no' party  brings anything significant, or 'earth shattering' to the table (to be fair, men can now give birth, lol!), and we all can live happily and sufficiently apart. However, it would be nice if people who actually 'understand' what the concept of marriage is about are left to enjoy it. Whilst those who bastardize it with unnecessary superiority, or simply cannot hack it, jump off a bridge  so that the institution can be a peaceful one for all who want to try.

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@Pharoh . . . . and again about what we're bringing to the table, Im flipping the script, cos its what I asked you in the first place when you people didnt have anymore arguments and you started tot alk about paying bride price etc. I said you people always bring in the money aspect to make girls shut up and that aside from that, you'd have nothign to offer.

The man I eventually choose (if at all) will know what I have to offer. I dont owe you any explanations. So you and your friends can be waiting for a list or a 500page dosier, its not going to come from me.

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YES ooo. It will be quite an experience.

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@ROSABALLE

I love your attitude of not giving up, lol I can really figure out that africaness running so powerfully in your veins. I really like watching you. I told you the simple and hard truth and I am happy u recognised that. I was very surprised with your first reaction to my comment quite unlike you trying to sound agreeable yet holding your gormel. But on a second thought u still want to flag your color, lol I know you are an african daughter that got brains and I respect you for that.

You want to say something about what our forefathers did that we shouldnt do today in marriage? I agree with you and that why I started by telling about the '21st century' in the first paragraph. I went on to used two words categorically. That is 'IDENTITY' and 'VALUE' Try and make a seperation of the two visa-a-viv what 21 century Formular 1 GrandPuri or Snow Board Skiting can do or cannot do to an African family. When your done, you will see that your guess is as good as mine!

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i love this thread. its interesting.

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@marcfarland . . .

What you call african and what I call african are two different things.

1. What if a woman had fibroid (as african women are prone to due to our diets), . .in extreme cases, a womans womb might have to be removed, or it is infected and she becomes baren. If this woman gets married and cant have children (as is the case sometimes), are you telling me she's not an african?? Giving birth or not should be a persons personal opinion based on their experiences. And this is where you and I will not agree, cos you feel a woman shouldnt even think such simply because she's an african.

I never said I didnt want to have children if I eventually got married, so theres no switzerland to it.

And a girl choosing whether or not she wants to have children has NOTHING to do with our values. You men have a way of mudling everythign up and calling it tradition.

What if a woman feels she is emotionally unable to carry a pregnancy through?

And these are the things that have been swept under the carpet that women of today no longer want to keep quiet to.

We are also human beings, and just as a man decides : oh, we should have only 4 children so we can educate them well, so also should the woman beable to decide, oh, when we get married, I think I'd like to wait two years before we start having children.

Women should be allowed to have a CHOICE.

Im tired of the excuse of : we are african being used to blackmail women into not realising themselves

For those girls who think they have arrived and as a result can talk to their husbands anyhow, I dont subscribe to it. And in non of my comments have I said an educated womans role is to be disrespectful to her husband. Being educated doesnt mean loosing manners as a person.

My argument is, that this respect a woman gives her husband should not be taken for granted , simply because we are africans. There should be a balance. He should respect her as his partner, not his maid!

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@Pharoh . . . . What we bring to the table. I can speak for myself. Nothing less than I'd expect . . . . . and thats A LOT

This conversation is going round in circles. No one is changing terms without you people's input. You men cant be reasoned with, so we're running ahead and asking you to catch up.

The status quo has changed brother. So instead of being scared, catch up!

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This is the 21st Centuary and a lot of things have changed from the way it used to be in the past, from technology to dam everything including the human thinking, male or female, married and unmarried. Fine. This change affects the way we do things even in the marriage arena. But I want believe that all these changes however drastic and dramatic have not changed our identity even though our values may have been greatly eroded in the process.

I believe in treating the women folk right and giving them that equal chance with men and I dont think any sane man will set out to mistreat a wife, never! God has made it so from the beginning ( for those of u who still believe that there is God or 21st century have erased that belief too?). Marriage between a man and a woman is supposed to be the 'left hand washes the right hand and vice versa' and yet the headship of a family totally belongs to the man, sealed, signed and delivered by God Himself. This however did not give the man the right to treat the wife with disdain or what have u.

The problem here today in our society is that some ladies under the clutch of 'educated woman' want to muzzle up this headship role from the man as if our mothers who have lived happily with their husbands for over 50yrs were not educated.  I dont think civilization have erode our identy as 'Africans' otherwise I will say that we have our own peculiar way of life different from that of 'Oyibo'. This our identity makes the woman know her role in the family without being told or reminded about it or without trying to poke into the man's role. Same also goes to the man. That is why some school of thought will say 'this lady got a home  training from the mother' cos mom pass this role to their daughters. These days, that home training is lacking seriously. A young woman in marriage will think she has arrived only when she is able to square up arguement or confrontation with the husband. These attitudes are not African they are all borrowed from 'switzerland' apologies to Rosabelle. Family or even extended family' is important feature to every african society unlike the 'oyibo' who places less emphasis on large family  unit and connection. Hearing that one will get  married and decide not to have children or live as as a single mom is not african. If we have lost our values and identy then it is high time we deviced a way to change our skin color so we will completely act, breathe and appear like the oyibos and not fake ones any more. For some of our ladies here forming opinion that is capable of misleading others to think we can insult and degrade the marriage institution as no longer honorable is so unfair. No matter the culture u go to mingle with, there are many things that will readily remind u that u are a big time pretender running away from your values and identity. In the past it was always the western world that had many cases of divorce but today what do we see? Our own african society is on the lead and divorce gettting more prounced each day in marriages involving young couples. All these could be traced to the so called 'I go school mentality of the african girl" 'I m educated  woman' ' I am an idependent woman - I can pay my bills and that of four others'

Well everyone of us have our free agency to choose how best we can be happy but it wont be fair if anyone will visit the life of another person with his/her unhappiness perpertrating or forming an opinion that seem to suggest and mislead other ladies into following path that leads to unhappiness! So ladies suit yourselves!

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really, my house is in my name, i bought my own car b4 marriage and can easily buy one now, i can feed myself, i buy my own clothes etc so what exactly are u talking about.

nonsense and ingredients! if the women u know are not bringng anything to the table that one is ur own problem

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