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Ladies Can You Change Your Guy To How U Want Him To Be And Guys Can U Too?

A friend of mind meat a guy and for the few period they have been together she said character wise, the guy is okay.

But the challenge here is the guy habit of drinking and somking,

They both love themselves but my friend is not comfortable with the habit, and she has been complaning to me which i spoke with the guy and he said he will change.

My question now is that, is it possible for someone to change a person who dose not know Christ and who dose not at all speak good about Men of God.

Please advice is needed, coz my friend is sick at the moment as she can't let him go and she is not okay with this habit.

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If you can make him see the wrong in what he is doing then you might succeed. But don't get religious on him. But come to think of it did he start drinking after you started dating or before. And if its before did you know about it? The truth is if you knew he was like this before you started going out with him then you should not really be complaining. Its far easier to change before than after. I've always said that what you did not change before accepting don't try to make a fuss about when you start going out.

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If i want to be with him, i wouldn't want to change him.

People only change if they really want to, you can influence them, but if it's not from within. . .it's a facade, one that can crack at any moment.

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very possible, it takes time n patience to do so all in God

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Ladies Can You Change Your Guy To How U Want Him To Be And Guys Can U Too?

yes is very possible now

Go to God in prayer.

and you we get him change to what you want him to be

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From my experiences no you can't make another person change. You only have power to change yourself. I was in a marriage for 10 years with an alcoholic and time & again he said he would change but never did, I finally realized he will continue to drink as long as he wants to. Now I find myself in a relationship with someone who I have come to realize lives a life of party. Most weekends he is out until 4 to 5 in the morning, I have spoken with him about it, and ask that he start being home at least 2-2:30, he refuses saying there is nothing wrong with what he is doing, I am reevaluating this relationship as our beliefs are too different. I think you have to either accept someone for how they live, or you have to realize that you are not compatiable and let that person go to be free to live as they please.

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how do u make a nagging woman stop?

how do u make a lazy wife productive in the family?

how do u make ur gossip of a wife leave other people's business?

how do u make a quarrelsome wife live at peace with ur neighbours?

how do u make a cheating wife faithful?

how do u make a wife with a sharp tongue careful with words?

and lastly but most importantly, how do u make ur wife see things the way you want her to?

i think that just as it takes patience for a man to handle all these, a woman too needs patience to succeed in changing her man

No one is less easy

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Let the truth be told here.

its easier to change the woman than the woman to change the man.

the man got ego problems to deal with ist. in most case they stay clear from the matter but in secret enjoy their fill just to maintain the peace.

but the woman will change when she weighs her potential lose to the issue at stake.

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could u tell poster how u did it?

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yep I changed my wife with God's help though,,,and we now look like the most perfect thing ever!!

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Lol @ sista_jay, u mean even if his , em, u know now

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sorri, had to dash out for something.

at times, u even consider relaxing the rules and blending if the person is worth it

i am not saying u should lose ur personality though

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What you see is what you get. Love your partner as they are, not what you want them to be.

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@untainted

prayers can't even change when the person is not willing to change yeah,

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methinks prayer n fasting (tinged with loads of patience) will

do the trick.

but honestly, u can't change one who doesn't wanna change

unless U r the ONE as pointed by jju

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yeah @ JJyou, though is not easy, remember is an habit, each time he smoke or drink and my frined talks,he will go otu smoking again to clam down his anger.

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