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Ladies: Can You Foot The Bill On A First Date?

Most Women will not, only a few would.

Whats your take ladies?

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Anytime I go out i make sure I have my own money, you never know what can happen, however NO i would not pay on the first date. I cannot respect a man who can't even do that the first time.

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first date - go dutch

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absolutely not !

Not even on the 50th date.

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If its a mutual date then we will split the bill but if he is asking me out on a date then he is obligated to pay the bill,

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on a first date i expect him to pay (afterall he invited me), although i would offer to pay my part of the bill.

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I always like to pay and always love to pay my bills myself than let a woman or anyone pay for me, cos if una come fight dem go take am dey abuse you .

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I had a girl that always wanted to pick up the tab anywhere we went. I can remember our first date me and the girl nearly fight gidigbo for Barcelos. Basically that was how she rolled and after meeting quite a few INEC (I neva chop) broads it was hard to adjust to strugglin with her to pay for dates the girl put the I in Independent. Anyway i'd not take a girl on a first date to a place i can't afford so paying is no issue

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he asks her out, she pays the bills. interesting

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the babes are still lying!!! i go burst person yarnsh oh!!!

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Its a first date let the por guy handle his business. I'll probably ask him out some day and I'll do the paying, and we all know the only reason I'll be asking him out some day is because the first date worked out like magic.

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90% of the chics that say they would never pay for a first date are Naija born, bred and buttered. 90% of chics that say they may pay for the first date are based in or have lived for some time outside Naija.

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The wall of tradition and stereotypes is falling apart in Nigeria.

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Sure we are Nigerians, but 1980 Nigeria is not the same as 2010 Nigeria.

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Chei, its like we've forgotten we are Nigerians. Perhaps, a couple of peeps here have been watching too many movies. This isnt a question in the Nigerian society

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^^^why you wan know?

You fit pay?

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^^ well said.

I however feel the girl,should make an attempt to grab the bill.Not just sit there like a fool.

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My ego will def not allow me accept my date paying the bill on d first date.

My way goes like;

I pay if i invite you on a date

We share if you invite me on a date.

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^^I really can't put it in words. But the thought makes me cringe, honestly.

Subsequent dates, mayyybe. . . .like his birthday or something, lol.

But a first date?? I'm sure I wldnt be the one to suggest it anyway, so why pay for smthn suggested by another person?

If I'm in a relationship, I can give him treats every now and then, but generally, the tabs shd be picked by him! Sue me.

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First impression matters.

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If I asked the guy out (which I've never done), then I'd kind of expect to foot the bill. Or like in an emergency if the guy for some reason couldn't pay (rejected card or something), fine. Or if it's a guy I've been friends with for a while but its our first date, if he paid for the movie, I might say its my treat for a casual meal.

I always offer to split the bill, anyway, as I think it's only fair to do that, and although I wouldn't normally expect to pay the entire bill on the first date, I could (although it doesn't necessarily leave the best first impression of the guy).

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@All,

Person wey wan chop u die go foot ur bill? I laugh in chinese.

Even babe wey dey trip for u like die go still wan make you do it the Nigerian way.

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@Tashaluv,

I really need to take you for a date.lol

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but the fact lies boyz will be boyz, girls will be girls.

as 4 me sha i'll pay my bills and if she cares she can trow in a helping hand

finito

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Abeg . . . . . where are U?? I would love to take U out on a date.

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If am nt mistaken, it wasn't said or written anywhere that footing the bills of whatsoever was meant for guys alone, what if the guy isn't buoyant enough? What happens? That means no treat or whatsoever? Please, the lady can foot the bills anytime, be it the first date or last.

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Done it before but it turned out the guys was a shameless gold digger.

Never attempt it again xcept with sum1 i trust to be genuine.

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I can't try it o, why did he take me on dat date wen he knws he does'nt av enof moni. Dat's trash!

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bac in sch(6 yrs bac): took dis girl out wit mi frnd, she ate, n also asked for "take away for her 2 roomies". i had 2 track 2 kilo bac to mi hood.

08 in albion: she asked to take me to a shop, i ended up paying 10 p for d "kind walk"

09: got mi first ice cream date here in lagos.

and this one paid, so i decided to make it final.

conclusion: niger chicks never pays, anywhere in d world, except dey re paying for u to pay d ultimate price.

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With modern woman, Both persons should pay their own way.  Think of it like an outing with colleges or co workers. 

Chivary is a thing of the past. In the old days, the man would pay, but the women would make a nice home cooked meal for the guy to show him she is a good home maker.  But those days are gone. 

If you go out with a woman that expects you to pay for everything, be careful this is a trap.  She will get you to cater to her needs and empower herself over you. You will look down between your legs and you manhood will be replaced with a big mangina.

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To me,itz no big deal.'ve done it before.

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how many ladies can think like this? dont even bother

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She wants facts so my guy supply facts now now.

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For me, it has never been a problem footing the bills.

I dislike being at the 'receiving end' always, I love to give too.

I only have a problem when I think I'm being taken advantage of.

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me thinks u'll know a guy who'll foot the bill or not on a first date,na date we call am o.no be on afirst frends outing.if am not sure he has money i'll even ask him i dont need unnecessary embarassment

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No were you find this in Nija, even the ajebos will grin dat u pay the bill.

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Oh so after the meal, you find out say bobo no carry enough, u'll get up and walk out of the place?

No my dear, you will save both of you the embarassment and pay up, thats if you have enough yourself.

After that its up to you if you want to delete his number off your phone or pick up the phone the next time he calls you or not,

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But seriously here in naija on a first date without any prior agreement,no i cannot foot the bill

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hmmm story, dnt knw d kind of girls y'all have been rolling with, but yeah! it happens

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if i hear say any babe lie for here i go burst her yarnsh!!!! pay kor

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Its not such a big deal really, i once went for a date (first time) with a friend,we went out for a meal and when it was time to pick the tab, there was a problem with his card and he couldnt pay or get any money out., i ended up footing the bill, (altho at the time i thot he was just playing a fast one on me),

On our second date, he went all out (obviously to make up for the previous embarassment) and over the six years we were together, he turned out to be the most giving and generous man i have ever been with,

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Yes! I don't have a problem with it.

It would be gentlemanly of him to insist on paying and the next time would be ma turn.

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