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Ladies, For A Choice Of A Husband, Who Will You Likely Choose?

Just my curious mind. Ladies, who among these men will you likely choose as a husband. An average guy with a good car & a nice apartment. Faithful and God fearing. Respectful and supportive of you in your chosen career. Who can afford to take you out to the movie or indulge you once in a while. Has a great family value & respect for the family institution. Is intelligent, good looking, romantic, adventurous, great sense of humour and above all, loves you like there will be no tomorrow. He has a listening ear to your problems and always have a handy advice cum suggestions whenever you need one and spends quality time with you.

Or this other guy very rich irrespective of where the money came from, throws you a lavish birthday bash, sends you to the UK every summer, wants you to be a stay at home mum because he doesn't trust you won't cheat, is a chronic womanizer, doesn't pray with you or believe in prayers, is not always around, buys you a 4x4, and is just marrying you not necessarily because he is crazily in love with you but because you are beautiful. He gets his female callers calls right under your nose with little regards how you'd feel about it? And is always out with the boys while African Magic remains your only companion.

NB: Please guys, pardon me if this topic or anything near it has been treated before. Sometimes the search doesn't just leave so much to desire.

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I'm saying its a factor. It dosent mean the poor dont cheat, but you can agree with me thats its more common with the rich. Now I'm not talking about village promiscuity, I'm talking about this high class cheating and flirting.

Just think about it yourself, the kind of girls that come around you when you were a student are comlpetely diffrent from the ones that come when you are making enough money. Money exposes people, both guys and girls alike.

I said it before and I'll say it again, money corrupts, and absolute money corrupts absolutely. When you have the money to become exposed enough to go to the right places at the right time; trust me, its changes your personality!!

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And if we hard a 3rd option of a guy who in addition to all the wonderful qualities the dude in 1 above had was also was a confirmed ritualists how many of you all will still make the pick?

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@Ujujoan

You made a great point. I've heard stories in line with your arguement. But in life, we all do have choices & upbringing also plays a great role. I have chosen to be good. It though sometimes could be very expensive, I cannot change who I am.

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I'll go for the first guy o

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this is becoming more interesting

more comments please

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Don’t tell you were talking about your r/ship. Of course we know you said things from your own perspective, as in you added jara. You can’t be as nice as you are letting on and no guy in his right senses would flirt so indiscriminately with other girls in front of the girl he’s proposing marriage to; even if he has bought her the whole world. Guys like that are usually very good at playing hide and seek games.

In issues like this a girl has to consider so many things. You might think you are perfect now but we girls have a way of looking at things on long-term basis. You could be a good guy now because you are not really very rich and you’ve not acquired that ‘larger than life’ attitude that all rich guys have. What’s the guarantee that you won’t become guy two tomorrow. I mean if the girl believes that the only factor causing the difference between you and guy two is the money, why won’t she go on with the guy now than suffer with you now only to end up being in this position later in life.

I used to date a guy who was everything you described and more, until he got a very good paying job. Then he became larger than life. So honestly speaking, I think in all sincerity, I ‘might’ go for guy two.

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Go with the first one cause relationship is not base on money alone

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To be honest, my idel guy is the guys whom have some senses in him and is funny. Thats all.

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the gospel truth is that right now all the ladies will go for the first one but inside them they mean the second one.

who will support evil in the public?

i have lost a very sweet girl to a rich guy. right now i work with a bank she is trying to to come back, she calls me almost every day(i day do shakara)

wo man

cheers

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hmmmm 1st choice are very rare to find, 2nd option isn't too bad

all the same sha, both option are not enough for me

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sorry i am not a lady yet.

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The one that gives better sex.

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d ans is ver obvious now

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Dude the first guy sounds so unreal and also if he has those qualities don't you think women wouldn't find him attractive cuz kinda think all nice guys are the last thing women want.maybe not all.jokingly the first guy sounds gay

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@ tope2000: in all sincerity, will the stinkingly rich guy be your choice or you are kidding? I had to ask you because you are the only respondent so far that didn't go for the average guy. I once had the impression most pretty chicks will go for money security just like tope2000 so as to keep up with their social outlook. Why is the scale tilting the other way? Is it that there is a clear cut difference between boy/girl thing & marriage? I need these answers & it better be honest. It will help me draw a final conclusion on a matter clogging my head.

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Bammm!!! -- anything more that that is ASEJU, honestly - personally, i think 98% of women will go for that one. But Common now, have you seen an UNRICH (just a nicer way of saying poor) man buying BVULGARI perfume?? whoever can afford it i think is doing pretty good, dont you think? das just my opinion sha

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@ dae: Average meaning he's self employed and at the moment can afford to fuel his car, pay his rent as at when due, provide for you/him, can afford a luxury of a BVULGARY perfume for u as ur regular, a £299 pounds engagement ring and a little extra when the need arises without breaking the bank. Meanwhile, you have ur regular well paying job.

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I don't know anyone who wants #2, so I don't know why it's a shock to a few.

#1 seems a little too unreal though, if you know what I mean. Women are not looking for men without flaws, that's impossible. Just a respectful, intelligent, independent (is not glued to his mama), ambitious (doesn't have to be rich now, but should be hardworking and looking to make it in life in a respectable job), God fearing, and so on guy. Everyone is different though.

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I kinda see what you mean -- but i'll tell you what, you didnt ADD any CATCH PHRASE in the first --- you said AVERAGE guy --- If a guy is average and the chick is average financially, that equals to RICH --- Now, if you had said POOR guy, i bet you'd get very different answers, trust me on that one!

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# 1 is so complete! What else does a woman need? ---- BUT, one thiing i know be say --- NO CONDITION IS PERMANENT. He can end up getting rich and sending his chick to america every summer, but honestly, Number 1 is good, really good.

Question is though -- Can a Nigerian dude in America/UK pack all those qualities (referring to number 1) at once?? Very rare, very very rare

I dont mean to start any drama, but most of them, i didnt say ALL have the number 2 characteristics --- they all about the bootay, titts, fine gal, no pimple etc etc, y'all knows how it goes na!

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Wow! I'm amazed all my respondents so far are going for the 1st guy. I once thought money plays a great role on who an average pretty naija chick chooses to settle down with irrespective of the underlying factors. As long as there is financial security, they are good to go. The reasons usually ascribed to such decisions being "I DON'T WANT TO SUFFER"

Hmmmm! Are the winds of change blowing?

Keep the responses rolling in.

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Dont we all pray for no 1. SIGH,

If only those were my options.

At the mom. im treating guys as "one chance"- at ur own risk lol.

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I go with d 1st one plz.

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Of course the first guy.

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Bring both dudes & watch the 'real' wind of change! Dude 2 'ld av his hands full. . .

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