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Ladies Only: How Do You Get Over An Ex?

I'm a guy,i've been through heartbreaks and i know how i got over each one.Even the one that hurt the most.So,i want to know the ladies' side of the story.Is it like that of us guys or it is totally different.Please,post your personal experiences as experience,indeed, is the best teacher.

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Fat? i dont think so. Even at a size 40, I was still fabulous

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@rosabelle: u used to be a size 40 now u a 38? damn, u still fat sorry,

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what kidn of person you are inside.

Im talking from experience, cos I had an experience I thought would kill me and I thought I'd never forget.

A year ago, I met him -   the ex now 5yrs after and I stood beside him for a good 22minutes on the queue at an airport

and didnt know. YES. It is possible. He was soo shocked, he didnt say anything, cos he slowly realised I didnt recognise him.

When eventually he spoke to me, I didnt know who he was. Cos he had changed and I was completely thrown off.

We talked from there until we got where we were going  - about life etc. And even after we had parted, non of the old memories could be refreshed by me. Of all the things he asked me if I remembered about us I could only remember his dog's name (seriously) because it was a beautiful dog.

It made me myself wonder how I could forget soo easily, but I realised that I have been through soooo much more since the time he hurt me.

Ive been happy and Ive cried, my house caught fire, my nephews were born and Ive been to places and Ive met soo many people. My feet have expanded and contracted through the years (I used to be size 40, Im now size 38). . . . .Basically, I had moved on.

Other things have taken up that space.

So please, dont think youre a prisoner to your experiences. Experiences are there to teach us lessons, not to mare us for the rest of our lives.

If you say you cant forget, then its a thing with you and you not being able to let go, but its not general.

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@ POSAKOSA - U are really hurt, Sorry. But why wish death for a fellow humanbeing. When God even said we should pray for our enemies and wish them long life.

@ Poster - Memories can never be erased/forgotten.

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personally I don't think that time heals all wounds. Memories are powerful. Maybe some but not all.

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Imagine if someone went to your church to try and embarrass your parents. My parents have nothing to do with my relationship. or harassing mother at work ?

Trust me, the only thing I wish for Yinka Bassey is DEATH.

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Time. only time heals a broken heart.

Ice-cream, friends, hobbies etc can only give u relief and help redirect ur energy.

One day u'd look back and be like, what d heck?.

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Amen and thanks so so much again!

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Thanks dear for your love. I had to hold back the tears!

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Im sure u'll be just fine. I won't say that "Time heals all wounds" because memories are painful BUT i will say that with God on your side, ull be just fine.

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@posakosa

Girl, like is an understatement. I loved him so much coz am a total lover, when i love, i give evrything. My love, my time, energy, money,counsel and support. What did i get? Betrayal because his jackass of a brother wanted something that belongs to me and i said no. It hurt so badly but it is better this way!

The race is on an am moving on, am not the kind of girl who gives up just like that!

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The technique i use to get over my exs is to find a new hobby or learn a new skill. I found out that i hardly have time to think of an ex if i am too busy trying to hone those skills. Deleting of the phone number doesnt work cos i know them off hand. I am very strong willed so anytime i make up my mind to do something, i hardly go back. I try to enjoy my freedom while it lasts.

Sometimes the rate at which i get over them makes my friends wonder if i even loved in the first place. I always stay friends with them, I find out that sometimes we are better friends than lovers. Well, thats just me. What works for me may not work for another person.

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You must have really liked the guy. For me, I think that its much easier to move on if it wasn't a bad break-up. Meaning the person doing the breaking up SHOULD BE NICE.

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I used to think i will die if we break up but i wake up everyday to see that i am alive and kicking!

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Okay,

Broke up this friday, we were actually planning to get married this december and yeah I am stiill hurting! Weve been having isssues for like a month so it didnt come as a shock. I am still crying but i deleted his nos(ofcourse i can reel it out by heart), all his pics on my system. Its been very hard but what i have been doing?

I cry and i get cranky easily tho not good, i will get past it

I go to church a lot and sow my tears and pain on the altar

I prefer being alone and i so much enjoy the solitude

I think of all the advantages of getting out and they keep me so strong. The advantages of getting out are actually so profound and most of my pips agree with me.

I tell his friendsabout the break up myself so he can realy know am serios.

i rarely discuss it coz it aint worth it.

Most importantly, i feel so free! Gosh, its so relieving.

Do i still miss him? yes

Do i still love him? As always

Is there a chance we can get back? NEVER

Now am realy enjoying being me!

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JUST LOOK 4 A AXE N CUT OFF ANYTHNG, IF U CNT DO THAT STAB URSELF

DUH! ITS OVA, THERS NOTHNG TO B DONE

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I just had a blow recently 4rm my girl.she was everything to me my best friend and the closest to me.all of a sudden she changed and asked me to forgive her.she said we should quite for the main time but we can still be friends and from there she stopped calling to the extent dat she didn't even care to know my health status wen i was sick.i decided never to get involved wit any girl.all ur advice has been of great help to me.thanks

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for me, it wasn't very easy as we were very involved and he was a major part of certain achievements in my life. i soon realised this and decided we would remain friends as i didn't want to be bitter, today, we are very good friends and we have helped each other heal,

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Im a big believer in: 'Every disappoinment is a blessing'. And in my life, Ive learnt, the bigger the disappointment, the great the blessing coming my way.

I got dumped three months ago, so Im talking from experience lol

I cried a lot. Deleted his numbers and threw out his clothes and deleted all emails and text messages I wrote him and he wrote me. And then I cried at the death of my love for him.

Told all my friends and my mum. Talked about it all the time. Cried some more. Cried again. Remembered a lot of memories (5yrs) and cried some more.

I analysed the situation, cried more, and decided he wasnt worth it after all. After 10 days of contunous crying, loss of 6kilos, I started making big plans.  Right now I feel sooo free, its unbelievable. I dont have to think about being someone's wife soon or compromising anything cos Im with someone and so Im free. Its a grand feeling.

Its been three months, and the heartache I felt is now in the past.

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apart from d feeling of betrayal and all, there's also a sense of loss, of affection, sexual gratification, income,social standing dat might hav been enjoyed in the relationship, some self righteous pips might argue, dat girls don't date guys for these things, well i knw they do (4rm experience), my advice would be to develop a more balanced personality independent of ur relationship so it'll be easier to let go in such an event.

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Wao? Very difficult for ladies but the best thing is just to move on and forget about the past.For more dating tips

visit www. perfectsdate.blogspot.com

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Just move on and STOP thinking of her/him!! Afterall, you came into this world alone, you weren't born a twin and if you hadn't known it, twins do go their separate ways, get that.  So, nothing is destined to last forever therefore, you are not destined to love one and only one person in your whole life and vice versa because, things do change in life. I could hear some people criticising and saying but marriage is for live - yeah, it is if that's your BELIEFS AND VALUES but does everyone share this your beliefs/values? Even the man/woman you married may not share your beliefs/values so, don't assume. If you live in the real world then, your responses to situations in your life should be real. 

Based on the above assumptions, it looks as if we are all destine to love one person in our whole lives - no, no no!!! Because, circumstances can throw any thing at us thus, prevent, limit, restrict and hinder our chances of discovering other loves of our lives hence, our inability to access other parts of our society and the world at large in order to discover these people. Then, you would have known that this lass/fellow you are talking about is not the 'BOMB' you think they are and, not worth dying for. Be open minded and explore other areas/parts, you would realise there are greater loves out there and what you've missed.

You see, God created most things in twos and he knew why?  So, we all have more than one person to love at any one time, in our life time.  However, in situations as this ,we need time, patience and prayers to find and claim the happiness that rightly belongs to us.

So, spread your wings hopefully, you'd find a love greater than your previous one and remember, things happen for a reason.  Maybe, that's the route God chose to navigate you out of a tricky situation you hadn't yet foreseen and this could be a BLESSING in hindsight. 

Therefore, in every situation (positive or negative) thank and praise God!  Move on!!

Good luck!

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So guys shouldn't advise? Okay O!

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lavitacounsel.blogspot.com and click on d comments.Guys have actually gone tru wif it.

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you never get over an EX u rily love. u just get used to the heart break and b4 u know u can live with it.

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same way u g over a bad day

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Girls only: shhhhhhhh!

3 Secrets That No One Else Will Share With You in Order For You to Get Your Ex Back

Breakups are always hard to handle when you do not know how to approach it. Do not despair as you are not going through this alone; your ex is probably feeling the same pain as you are feeling right now as well. So what you should do now is to look on the bright side and be optimistic about getting back together again. There are ways which would enable you to get your ex back faster than you can possibly think and let me reveal to you those secrets in just a moment.

1. Do not let your ex decide how you should be feeling right now

You have got to detach yourself totally from your ex's each and every action from now. Do not let his words hurt you anymore as you are already in the process of healing from the breakup earlier. Do not allow your ex to have the control of your feelings. A must-know if you want to get your ex back!

2. Do let your ex realize that you are better off without him

Do not feel like it is the end of the world. Instead, live life as per normal. Go out with your friends and family. Let your ex know that you are still well. When you start to love yourself, then others will desire to love you. A must-know if you want to get your ex back!

3. Appear as though you are relived

Relationships should never be treated as a burden. However, here, I am going to ask you to appear in front of your ex as though you are being freed from the clutches of unhappiness of your relationship with your ex. When your ex realizes that you no longer desire to be with him/her, then your ex will always try to get your back. A must-know if you want to get your ex back!

Now ask yourself this - Do you want your ex back? Do you want to get your ex back? How are you going to get your ex back? Learning how to get your ex back is not some rocket science; it is all possible if you know how! Throughout the article, I have gone through a systematic plan which lays the foundation for you to learn how to get your ex back.

I will share with you more insights on how to get back with ex in this Guide to How to Get Your Ex Back.

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how do you get over an ex?

the same way u get over an annoying pet

move on, duh!

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@Pc Busayo

So, busayo. what about mine ? lol. you see later love.

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Being around people who were NOT his friends. There are some people whom you may have met through him and didn't wish your relationship well as a result, will want to "talk about him alll the darn time" so as to watch your reaction.

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Delete their number to stop yourself calling. Keep yourself busy either by working overtime or picking up a new hobbie you might feel like being alone but sometimes being around people takes your mind off things

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Best way to get over an EX is to kill'em

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I made up my mind to get over it and I did. It wasnt easy as he was someone I was very much inlove with, but he wanted out and I gave him that. To get over it, I just gave myself time and prayed to God A LOT. Time heals all wounds. Never take that statement lightly

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Ladies,pls give us ur personal experience on how u got over ur ex! Plsssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!!!

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Buh iice I guess erasing all the memory thing is nat 100% efficient cos obviously there something in him that you will never get from other guy.

Av seen gal hu are jealous of their ex xpecially when he is with the opposite sex! Like I tell the gals in my dept that if we break up, d reason I will do it is to correct something in her so we can make up!

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This is the bestway to forget him forever.She must make a decision to get over him, and then she needs the discipline to carry it out. She must throw out every material item that reminds her of him. She cannot afford to entertain a single pleasant thought about the relationship. Instead, it helps to write a list of the things he did that drove her crazy (the way he kept sniffling instead of reaching for a tissue, for example, or his habit of using unnecessarily big words) and refer to it often. If a friend brings up his name, it's imperative that she change the subject. By all means, she should avoid speaking of him at all.

For more hint headon to -http://howtofindyourtruelove.blogspot.com

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@ebila first n foremost nice picture on your profile. anyway, I have never been heart breaker so I cant answer your question.

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@PC busayo & Godmother,

U ladies have neva been tru heartbreaks?If u have,how did u do it?

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Prayer is the Master key. lol

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I dont know about that, but I'll say its more difficult for women to get over break-ups cos we are emotional made. And its more difficult if you were more emotionally commited to the relationship

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lemmie brk that rule

they are just as fine as they were before the dude cameby!

were they nat ok before he wooed them?

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Where are the NL ladies?

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