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Ladies, what says your time?

The question am about to ask you ladies is important to me and I believe other guys here will find it usefull as well. So you ladies should patiently read and try come up with a sincere answer.

Am aware that you ladies get offended when a guy declares his love or fondness of you within a short time of meeting you the first time. I do understand that you ladies attach more importance to a guy's personality more than the guys do to you. So I believe you ladies will need sometime to access a guys personality before you finally decide if a guy is worthy to have you or not. In other words, you ladies want a guy to go through a PERIOD of an introduction/familiarity phase before anything love and romance comes up. Now, the problem here has to do with the lenght of the period. So my question comes up as follows:

According to how frequent you see and discuss with a guy, if you see and talk with a guy on daily bases, how long maximum will it take you to fully access his personality and decide if he appeals to you or not?

If you see him on weekly bases, how long maximum will it take you to make your final decision?

If you see him on monthly bases, how long maximum will it take?

Am aware you will need split seconds to decide for a very ugly guy and of course few minutes to decide for a very handsome nice guy. But most guys are neutral and can take you weeks and months before you can fully check them out, so your focus should be on the neutral guys.

I need to know about the timing so that when the time comes, I can boldy ask a lady out without the fear of hearing things like, I HAVN'T KNOWN YOU WELL or ISN'T IT TOO EARLY FOR THIS? Over to you ladies.

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I think this is were the problem of "hard-to-get" lies. Guys will ask a lady out TOO SOON and the lady will keep ignoring him cos she feels the guy is still a stranger and she wouldnt want to accept that early so not to appear desperate and cheap.

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@tatase. I understand it depends on the individuals. BUT considering the way the average guy communicates with women these days, how long in rough estimate do you think the average girl can reach that level of comfort that indicates the time is ripe for the asking out?

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It depends on whether your all-night chat was leaning towards the flirtatious and lovey-dovey or if it was general. You can't have talked about how much you both like to play Halo all night and then suddenly ask her out, because that would be random and out of the blue, since it wasn't that kind of conversation.

And the "not every girl" part, I think everyone is different, and every interaction is different. It's hard to give a general time when it depends on how instant your connection is with the specific person. For one guy it might be like one day, for another guy it might be a year. It varies from person to person.

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same here. . . . . depends on how comfortable i am with a guy

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It depends on the chemistry really.

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@y me. What will make it days? Or weeks or months? I mean what influences the time?

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@Pro01. Theres a big problem with your opinion. Which is the fact that you generalized. Some women will prove you right while some will prove you totally wrong. Therefore your theory isn't universall. Besides am not seeking for advice, but thoughts rather.

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the moment i get used to you

might be days, weeks or months

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Don't know whether to call you naive or sth worse. A girl would speak long, pious grammar to you on how she cant date you til after a decade, but wud bleep another dude in less than 24 hrs of meeting him.

I'm sickened by all these NL threads asking how women want this or that. WOMEN DONT KNOW WHAT THEY WANT. THEY REACT IMPULSIVELY AND SUBLIMINALLY TO HOW YOUR STIMULUS MAKES THEM FEEL. Don't go about seeking their (skin-deep, fickle) opinions, else you'd die a virgin. Since women dont know what they want, only 3 things conquer them universally regardless of culture or circumstance: Money, Power, and Boldness. Not knowing which of these you have, if any, I'd only advise you based on the easiest to acquire. This is the only advice I have for you; it's a law in the authoritative 48 Laws of Power: ENTER ACTION WITH BOLDNESS. Your boldness would compel them to succumb now and regret later.

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@tatase. Well, it depends on the girl cos I know that even after the all night non-stop talk, not every girl will agree that soon. Thats why am asking each lady to state her own time.

@madlady. How often will you see the guy to make three months your ideal period to study the guy?

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Topic changed!!! But didn't you guys see the quotation mark? It suggests its bears a different meaning from the one have in mind. Anyway, back to topic,

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It's common sense. You can't just meet someone and after a week, you expect the person to trust you or love you that much. Love must be nurtured and must not be rushed but allowed to grow at its pace.

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I agree!! I was afraid to open it because I know the romance section on NL is the home of the strange and psychotic, but i didn't think it had sunk so low. Suffice to say, I'm glad it hasn't.

@ topic,

I think this is a good question, because there's little I dislike more than over familiarity. I don't think the "period" is necessarily a function of time in days or weeks or whatever. You can ask someone out after talking to them for a whole night or something, if you had that sort of connection.

It's not necessarily how long you've known the person, but how deep or how intense or how comfortable your convo has gotten. If you're flowing with someone in a romantic way, I think you instinctively know. Like if you can talk to them and there are no awkward pauses and there's not a lot of um-ing and you've gotten to that comfort level with them where you can talk freely and be yourself completely without being stilted or feeling like you have to be on your best behavior or something. . . at that point, you know you're "familiar enough to ask them out.

I think a lot of guys compliment a girl once or twice, get her number, call her everyday for a week just to say hello and nothing else of any significance, and then think they're now familiar enough to ask her to be their gf. It's like based on what? You don't really know anything about her and she knows nothing about you except that you call after midnight and say nothing really and then tell her to greet her mom who you don't even know.

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*waiting 4 ladies reply*

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Guy change d topic.bcus a mare look at it girls won't even read it.though d questions are ginue. but d topic discurage reader.

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@Etinoh

You're correct. Even me as a man, the potic throw me off not to talk of girls.

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Guy change d topic.bcus a mare look at it girls won't even read it.though d question are ginue but d topic discurage reader.

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