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Ladies, What Would U Do?

For the ladies in the hosue, i need ur advise. what would be your reaction or do if your husband of 3 years claimed he lacks trust in you because you practise christainity and he is a muslim and that he married u thinking you would change ur religion to his and now not?

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So because he does not drink, smoke & club u think he is a nice men. Thats y men easily decieve ladies. Some wil say that because the guy is ready 2 wait ontil the girl is ready 4 se.x no matta hw long, that means he is nice. U ladies allow ur selves 2 b decived by drawin conclusion from all these little rubush. Now where is the love. Anoda mistake u ladies make is seeing love a sometin that shuld last 4eva hence u 4get 2 put in2 consideratiön what u shuld do if the love fades. Do u have a child 4 him? Hw couldnt u have seen this b4 u married him? Everybody knows that muslims marry more than 2 wives(i gues u were already prepared 4 this). If a man does not drink, smoke and club, the most likly place he can acheive gratification is in women and this he does secretly because of the pubic standard he has already created(most muslims do this). U can neva b hapy wit him. His so calld luv has faded and now sees reason 2 doubt u. Pls leave dat marriage and start all ova b4 its 2 late

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No matter what anyone says about love and blah blah blah. . .religious differences is a big deal especially in marriage. . .problems definitely crop in at some point no matter how accepting or understanding each partner is . .

Your on your own there. . .cus it was a choice you made. . .so live with it. . .

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Love don shack finish, eyes don open

Nigerians, religion and prayers

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thanks eveyone that replies. on s second tot. am thinking of packing out of the house for him to an undisclosed place/country for like six months, maybe he will come to his senses before he runs me mad in the house. if u are against this, u can make ur comment as well. thanks

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Never mind gal, trust God, for with Him there is nothing impossible. my advice to u is that let the light so shine on u that when they see they will come to know Christ. Be the virtue woman. May God see u thru, Amen

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you muppet!!

did u not know the only reason he married you is cos he thot u would change ur religion??

kmt i dont understand these women nowadays what made u think it will work??

anyways ur alreadi married

so its best u tell ur husband to do his own while u don ur own

u religions dont need to bother each other!

ps no amt of prayer and fasting will convert him

in fact it will onli make things worse tryin!!

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The basis of your faith is different. What an Islamic marriage permitted, Christianity do not. But one thing is sure, you can never win him over. And if you feel the heat is too much to bear, it is better to be seperated than commiting murder.

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Please DO NOT convert!! To put a man before God is a bigger mistake! Be the perfect wife then he has no complaints and if he wants out cos of your faith then it will be on his head not yours. Stand firm in your faith!! If has changed his mind about your faith then he can feel free to leave at any time.

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@Postr, u shld know dat it wil be very hard for a man as devoted as hm to convert. Just pray 2 God for direction.

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Nikky, pls dnt generalse. there are vry faithfl muslim guys around, poster said h dosnt wmanse.

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@poster, be smart to work out of the marriage fast cos the guy is planing to bring in a muslim lady to replace u fast. its their usual norms, he will stop at 4 0r 7 wives

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@Poster your faith is very important to you, I can see that.

My case was  100% different, if I had loved him I would have converted in a flash.

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@POSTER: i think he is not inlove with u.

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@madlady does this mean muslims men general are very deceptive, wicked, not keeping to their words? cos heaven knows would rather break the marriage than convert, cos i took his words for real before accepting him. apart from this issue of religion, i wld say he is a nice man any woman can have, what i mean by that is he doesn't drink or smoke, he doesn't keep too many frirneds, he is not the party type or womanize, but with theis faith issue i don't mind to break it up cos i can NEVA CONVERT TO A MUSLIM or u feel am taking a wrong step?

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I really do not know what to say.

I was the the one who ended the rel, so I took the easy way out, you cannot.

His faith is very important so maybe he feels he is going against it

You will just have to keep talking .

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@madlady, to convert would be the last thing i will do, cos we both tried to iron this issue out before marriage and he vowed it won't be an issue that am free to practise any one i so desire, now its s different story. am really confused by now and i feel like poisoning him cos to really support his words then we did church wedding with the registry and he has started going to church with me, all of a sudden he just came back from one of his trip to Uk and turn over a muslim back.

mature ladies in the house please talk to me before i commit a crime in this house cos my hatred for him since two days ago now is growing too fast.

thanks

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@Poster as a poster before said, I think it would have been better if you had worked this out before marriage, but some times we think things may not be a problem, sadly things change.

I used to date a Muslim guy, to be honest I was very happy he had a faith, he had a lot of principles and tried to live up to most.

I thought it would have been fine, but later the difference in faith did effect the relationship.

But I honestly do not see what you have done wrong, did you say you would convert?

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somebody please talk, need ur advise before i do otherwise

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At first, there was no trust.

He knows you're a Christian before he married you, he was giving you the benefit of doubt.

Your behaviour in the past three years might not have shown to him that you're really a religious person which he expected; be it Christian or Muslim.

Maybe you should work on your character.

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that's why you sort these things about before marriage, don't just rush into it.

na wa o!

me? i wouldn't convert to anything!! i could convert to another form of Christianity but def not to a different religion as a whole

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