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Ladies, Whats Wrong With Making The First Move?

making the first move is as important as spying a person you think you might get along with! without the first move, there would be no relationships but two people with fantasies buried under their fear or perhaps their timid nature.

one of the most popular headlines in the news these days: when do we get a female president? i study mechanical engineering, i just completed my diploma program, and i tell you what, we have ladies that do better than some guys! formerly ladies considered mechanical engineering as a course to physical, devious and strictly for guys. but thanks to the "what men can do women can do better attitude" they are now buying application forms and making this course their first choice. women won't agree that its a man's world would they?

funny enough when it comes to the "first move thing", it becomes a man's responsibility! ladies what happened to the " we can do better attitude"? i sure demand answers to that question! emotions are like quick sand you can do practically nothing on your own to save yourself from either falling for someone or loving someone. nobody is a tyro when it comes to loving, the handbook lies in your heart and its left to you to want to follow your heart.

so what happens when your heart says "hey make the first move"? come to think of it whats wrong making the first move? what are the common excuses ladies give? listed below are a few:

1. the guy won't respect me

2. first move thing is 100% masculine

3.ladies dont ask guys out

4. it is better to do things that would attract him ( a disguise first move)

5. i cant stand him saying no!

first and foremost i think ladies should know that a guy could approach you, go out with you and not respect you! i think its not the first move that creates or brings respect. nope! ie isn't! respect comes from your personal diction. the way you carry yourself, dress, etc so you approaching the guy wouldn't make u less a ladyif actually u are a lady a man would respect.

also i think making an indirect first move would hurt you more, especially when the guy is not getting the message. that might tempt u to wear clothes that are alluring when u are with him,etc he might then get attracted to you lustfully and ossibly desire sex in form of flings, one night stands,etc.

to be succint, because i dont want to keep you reading something that might eventually bore you, so i advice ladies if yiou study a guy and find him quite responsible (and not just handsome) make the first move he can never say no! i reassure you he won't say no! but make sure you premise for making the first move is enveloped, a letter that he is single! if you know what i mean! dont "toast" a poor sister's guy coz he wont say no. you'll be bereaking hearts and ruining relationships!

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The fact is that, a woman always makes the first move (unconciously), through body language. She (still unconciously) gives a green light for the man to take his cue.

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@ OP

nothing wrong in it, i have been approached by many non-nigerian girls and i find it sexy and confident as long as it comes across right, just like we guys have to put ours right to u but the problem is most nigerian girls dont have the intelligence of striking the 1st line conversation starters

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^ You can keep telling yourself that if it makes you happy, but I can tell you that 9 out of every 10 guys takes it for granted if a girl makes d first move. Some get disspointed, some lose respect for the girl, some even get suspicious!

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Stop mingling with village boys.

It's a universal phenomenon.

Girls also act like twats when they know a guy is head over heels for them.

Don't blame us for what you are GUILTY of.

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lol i'd make the first move if i had to

ive done it b4

not like you go and start using guy lines!

Just get closer, chat wiv him longer

i dont like callin, but if we see ill gyst him till he gets tired

men tend to like women that drive stimulating convo's

and i ask abt the guys love life alot

till he says 'hey yetty u wanna go out sometime?' *bullseye*

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Sauron stop making blind arguments. You know as well as I do that most guys still enjoy the ‘chase’ . . for some reason, they think a girl who hits on them is desperate and not worth their time. I don’t know if it’s a Niaja guys thing only cos I only have experience with them. But I do know that the worst thing a woman can do is to tell a guy she likes how she feels. Even if they are dating already, the moment a guy notices his GF is very much in love with him, he starts acting like a Demi God! *rooooooolz eyez*

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Hats off to all the ladies who take control of dating destiny, I personally just wouldn't do it

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Telling a man(typical Nigerian male) that you like him is enough to send him over the edge. But still I like to watch them act like little kids. I like you doesn't mean I am in love with you or anything like that. It simply means "I think you are cool enough to talk to" Nothing more nothing less.

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And someone else said the "women" on here were men. I guess many members have a serious case of gender identity disorder lol

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Which links?

I hope you are aware that 90% of those links are authored by women posing as MEN.

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Unfortunately, men too brand those women as whores. Just look at the Romance section. And if she doesn't make the first move but says yes and opens up too quickly, she is also a LovePeddler.

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Stop exaggerating

* I am a Virgin

* Prostitution is not wrong

* Anita Hogan is a disgrace to womanhood.

Unfortunately, it's the same women that brand babes who make the first move as WHORES.

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There's nothing wrong with a woman making the first move . . . . It's a pity that guys just don't understand that!

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Of which are in the majority. A girl just has to be careful.

As if you don't hump? Are you not the one that told me there's nothing wrong in prostitution or stripping? Why's anita's case different?

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That's what i am talking about. . . . .

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it's not a big deal,i have asked a guy out before,he was tripped and we are friends now,i told him i did not intend for us to be intimate,i controlled the relationship.

if you see someone that you like,just go and get him.

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nothing !!!!

***still looking for that guy that ll bring out the vixen in me sha***

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When a girl is foolish enough to say "I love you"the guy thinks she's meaning something else

so I stay on the safe side, I do not make first moves, called me old fashioned if you like

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You make the first move on a typical Nigerian man at your own peril.

They are not matured enough for such things.

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Any girl who makes the first move on moi,will eventually end up being screwed and dumped after one week.

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hi electra so ur post on toasters, where do u stay.can give u a help

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@ poster nice work. I believe pride is d prob of d ladies but my advice is study d guy 1st discuss issue concernin relationship wit him,knw his tot abt it. Den just ask him if he likes you.

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For a lady to make the first move to me giv me a feeling that the lady is bold and courageous such lady commands respect from me cos it is uncommon to see lady making that great step.

Moreover let see it that the guy is not that rich and a lady could take such step the lady deserves a great respect.

For me there is nothing wrong for a lady to make that move though i have never experience it and am seriously looking 4 such chance

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a whole lot is wrong with a woman making the first move, it's just not of a lady

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i have never tried making a first move but i dont think theres anything bad in it

after all victoria made the first move towards David Beckham and now she is bathing, walking and sleeping in money . so many other people too so as for me i don't see anything wrong in it.

Oh HANG ON, i made the first move towards an ex boyfriend of mine he was the best but we parted beause of distance and i mean he was all to me I haven't dated someone like him ever since

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aint nuttin wrong wiv it?

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